Topic: Son made me cry...
Member # 38928
| Posted: 10:12 PM, October 7th (Monday)|
But for a good reason. There is not much the POS can do or say anymore to bring me to tears, but my children are my Achilles heel, as they are for the rest of you dedicated parents. DS20 was telling me about his new GF via text because he wanted me to know something about her up front (she's a single mother). I have no problem with that and said as much, along with my sage motherly advise not to rush into anything (he just got over a bad breakup). His response is what turned the waterworks on as the conversation veered toward the subject of the POS. DS20 wrote: "Have I told you lately that I love you?And it absolutely kills me what he [POS] did to you. It honestly does, and there are no words I could say to describe my remorse for you and what you are going through!"
My kids are now my life, and that statement made me cry like a baby. They are the only ones who can do that to me...but it is all good and I will turn into a waterfall for them any day!
ETA: Then he sends: "I love you so ever dearly mom and that much will never change. No matter who I'm with or where I am. I'll always be there for you. Always."
Well crap, I am a total blithering hot mess of tears now...
[This message edited by Phoenix1 at 11:10 PM, October 7th (Monday)]
BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs, started 1994? - never stopped
Kids - 22, 20, 17
M Dissolved 2013!!!
This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man, ~ Shakespeare
Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 35476
| Posted: 10:38 PM, October 7th (Monday)|
That made me cry, too.
I can only hope my boys do the same for me one day.
BS/WW: Me 43 WH/BH: Him 45 (badchoice)
Me: EA/PA 1997 DDay 5/99 (see profile)
Him: See his profile-15/16 y LTA
2DS:5 & 11 my loves
You are free to choose, but you are not free from the consequence of your choice.
Posts: 678 | Registered: Apr 2012
Member # 27148
| Posted: 10:55 PM, October 7th (Monday)|
Wow.... hug that boy!!
Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.
Posts: 2373 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 29250
| Posted: 11:02 PM, October 7th (Monday)|
“People who cheat feel that life is for the taking, and that everyone deserves happiness no matter what the cost. I must remember these tricks if I ever have my soul surgically removed."
Me: BS 42. Him: WH 41 2 Kids 6&9
Married 14 yrs Together 21
Posts: 1514 | Registered: Aug 2010
Member # 36579
| Posted: 11:31 PM, October 7th (Monday)|
Just shows you've done a wonderful job as a mom
EA Jun-Aug 12 (OW1)FB flirting and then EA/PA with OW2 (Aug-Dec 12). New OW Jan 13, introduced her to the kids immediately.
Married 10 years, together 14yrs
2 kids (DS11 & DD7)
Separated Jan 13. He's now living with OW3.
Posts: 179 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 36599
| Posted: 12:42 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)|
That made me cry as well. Lovely.
2 Ddays and lots of TT
Scars remind us where we've been. They don't have to dictate where we're going. (Criminal Minds)
I saw him, I could not unsee him. -StrongButBroken
Posts: 452 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 40144
| Posted: 1:27 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)|
My screen's all blurry...
My DS15 has been awesome to me... He found out about my WH's A 6 months before I did. I know he's torn up about it all.
It is so good to read that your adult son "gets it" and will hopefully have learned the "right" lesson in all of this, so that we aren't passing down a bunch of FOO issues to our kids. I desperately hope that my boys will come out of this with the proper values and don't follow in their dad's footsteps.
Your son sounds just awesome. I'm pretty sure I will someday get a similar message from my awesome son(s). I hope to make them proud of the woman I am going to become!!!!
[This message edited by StillStanding1 at 1:28 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)]
Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 20 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, MC/IC/FC,
He officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...
Posts: 526 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
Member # 40173
| Posted: 8:46 AM, October 8th (Tuesday)|
Good for him! It is so important to tell the ones we love that we do...more often than we think we are.
Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Divorcing, 3 children
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S
Posts: 385 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 39154
| Posted: 9:13 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)|
I'm also a blithering waterworks and he's not even my son!
Posts: 183 | Registered: May 2013 | From: East Coast, USA
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