Thank you everyone who posted on my threads last week and who have posted on my threads in the past. Boy is this a journey. Sometimes I relate too much to those Lifetime Movies.
Just wanted to add a few things on here about how this site has helped me:
-Crickets! I can't say that I didn't respond to some of WS' emails, but he was pushing those buttons (you know, the ones he installed) and I let him get to me.
He tried to say he thought I wasn't mentally sound right now, he threw in some comments about how he had been neglected for years, I constricted his time with his son when I insisted on picking him up from the in-laws instead of having him bring him to me at 9 or 10 every night , I'm cruel, blah, blah, blah, blah.....I did respond to some of these with just a repeat of what I've been saying, and I did have to say: If you want to talk about cruelty, look in the mirror. By years of neglect you must be referring to the years you've spent drunk at [bar]. I also threw in a lot of, you know where we live, you can visit DS anytime. I have some concerns about your alcoholism...etc. All of it is the truth, but he's so stupid he's just solidifying my case.
Right now Crickets is my best friend. I keep asking my ATTY, do I have to respond to this? If it's about DS, then yes. But I took everyone's advice....his emails go in a separate folder, and I don't answer anything for 24 hours.
-Atty is liking how I'm responding to things and giving me more advice. I gave her the heads up that we are dealing with an Alcoholic/NPD and he's probably going to make this very difficult. I'm hoping he's so damn broke he won't be able to afford going to court.
-I'm doing what everyone on here has told me to do. Keep my cards close to my chest. Stop dealing with this person like they are my friend or the person I married. This guy cheated on me, abandoned me, has never taken care of his son, and is now upset because he lost control of me. I was supposed to stay where I was and keep paying his parents for daycare while he cut off the only financial support he was giving me. My favorite quote from his emails is "I'm not a bank or a babysitter." You are so right asshat!
-My Attorney was impressed with all of the advice I garnered on this site.
Kudos to you all...I know I can go from Surviving infidelity to surviving divorce. This isn't the outcome I wanted, but now that I have some distance I can see how I was in an impossible situation. I kept wanting to see the man I married in the man who mistreated the mother of his child and left her and a 10 day old baby high and dry.