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BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Today was final court day and I thought I'd be an emotional mess (also 2 days before our would be anniversary) but I only feel relieved. My son is legally safe. (Was granted full custody and all legal rights for our son and xh may only see him under supervision during the day)

It's over. I had a strong reaction just after the judge questioned me (shook uncontrollably and cried quite humiliatingly) but I think that was all the anxiety finally being released. I can truly say I don't want xh back. I don't miss him. I am so relieved to be rid of him. I know there is still a lot to overcome but this is a huge step.

I can breath.


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

Posts: 266 | Registered: Oct 2012
jemimapd
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Member # 37895
Default  Posted: 1:21 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Not sure whether "congratulations" is he right word but I am glad for you and it gives me hope that I will find peace and calm along the line. Sounds it took a lot of courage to get to where you are today.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 1:38 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I'm happy for you, Honey! (((HUGS)))


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9810 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Phoenix1
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Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Enjoy the stress free air!

I am hoping to be in your shoes in less than two weeks...


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1173 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 4:07 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

I can breath.

Perfectly said. I'm thrilled for you, BD!


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5608 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
BrokenDaisy
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Member # 37063
Default  Posted: 6:42 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

Thank you everyone!

((Phoenix)) Good luck with the final stretch!


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

Posts: 266 | Registered: Oct 2012
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 6:56 PM, October 8th (Tuesday)

(((brokendaisy)))


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 8071 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I can breath. <<< This statement is so deep. I'm so happy that you are feeling relief and that your son is legally safe. Keep on breathing that freedom.


Me (BS): 43 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Divorced September 30, 2014
"It's always darkest before the dawn ..."

Posts: 2264 | Registered: Oct 2012
gma56
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Member # 19595
Default  Posted: 1:23 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Relieved is definitely the right word.

Breathe and I hope you feel some peace too.
Gma


BW-Divorced
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. That is priceless.

Posts: 20382 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Closer to where I want to be..
dindy
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Member # 38424
Default  Posted: 4:53 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

So, so glad for you. :)

Although I wasn't married to ex, I feel very relieved too that I am no longer with him, and my children only see him at weekends.

I went through a phase of not being able to breathe as my emotions were just so overwhelming. It's nice to finally be more at peace with myself.

People who cheat suck the life out of the people they are supposed to be most loyal to. My children and I have suffered so much because of xWS' actions and I can honestly say that life is now looking good for us without him in it.

My dreams are slowly turning into reality and I know my children can only benefit from this. There is so much to be grateful for and look forward to.

Enjoy your new freedom! :)


Posts: 459 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: uk
Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 10:16 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Well done, BrokenDaisy. What a long and painful process.

They say that Journey's End is also a path to new beginnings.

Maybe finally putting all the papers away will be the end of tears and you can sign on for new things.


Ashland 13

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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