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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:29 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I have been having a great time getting to know SO. We have spent a great deal of time together and my three young adult children know about me dating. All three are very supportive, however, my youngest DS is a lot like his father (my X). I keep thinking DS will use the information of me dating in some way when he gets angry.

As DS will get mad at X and vengefully tell him I am dating or get mad at me and tell X. I don't like my DS being a loaded gun so I thought I would remove the ammunition.

I had to call X to check on the pups and some money X still owes me. And it out of my mouth comes: " I just thought I let you know that I am dating pretty seriously and all three kids know ... I didn't want youngest DS to have this information to use against me or you so I just thought I would put it out there ... "

His response, "I guess this is the one of the times that I am glad I don't have any emotions ... I am happy that your so happy"

So long story short ... I feel so great and I am thankful for my new life! It is not about X's response it is all about being straight forward and honest. Yes it is none of his business but I feel like I just eliminated a "line of drama" from my life ... and it is so peaceful not to worry.


Posts: 386 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
better4me
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Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I feel like I just eliminated a "line of drama" from my life"
Great idea to just blurt it out! This information can't be used as ammunition now. The truth really does set you free!


DDay 11/17/2010 BW:52
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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 7:24 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

I think I have figured out that with X's passive aggressive and narcissistic ways that our whole marriage was a game of drama, deceit and resentment and I love the fact of just being my true self, being true to myself, that I can suck the wind out of the sails of my past.

Posts: 386 | Registered: Aug 2010 | From: Back Home ... And feeling Great!!
Exit Wounds
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Default  Posted: 8:26 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

...and I love the fact of just being my true self, being true to myself, that I can suck the wind out of the sails of my past.
I am so happy for you Ann! Now take a deep breath and enjoy the ride! -You certainly deserve it!

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