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OldCow18
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Default  Posted: 10:27 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I think that's fairly normal, when things are the worst is when we need the support the most...but I wanted to post something positive. WH's email today, he's responding to me telling him a variety of things, but in the end I said that we are such a mess and that I'm scared and also about knowing I'm good enough for me and the world but not feeling good enough to him...

"We are a big mess, and I won’t speak for you but you’re everything to me and you're all I’ve got and even if we’re a mess, I want to clean it up with you.

I know that you are better than good enough, you are sexy, funny, hot in bed, and I’m proud of you and myself that I can call you my wife, at least for the time being…..I know my choice was just insidious and any man would look at me cross eyed for not running home to you every night. You are my best friend in the world, sometimes, you’re my only friend…..the thought of losing you is unbearable."


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (48) 10 years, together 15
D-Day 6.8.13
D-Day #2 9.6.13 Broken NC/TT
D-Day #3 10.23.13 "Full Disclosure"
WH having PA with MW coworker 3.13-6.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

There are shortcuts to happiness, and dancing is one of them-Vicky Baum


Posts: 49767 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
JustDesserts
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Member # 39665
Default  Posted: 10:46 AM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I think positive stories here are important, and wish that more were posted. They show that the work toward R can be rewarded with hope, progress, and new growth. I like them, and I like yours.

JD


2 year EA/PA. DDay 3/12. Broke NC 6/13 w/one stupid 5 line e-mail (which brought me to SI). Me: WH, 50. Her: BW, 49. Married 19 years. Two kids. Dog. Reconciling...together.

Posts: 403 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: Suburbia, New England, USA
AML04
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Member # 39682
Default  Posted: 1:23 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I love this, thank you for posting it.


Me-BS Him-WH DS 5/12
T-13 M-9
DDay 5/26/13, TT through ???
2.5 yr EA w/co-worker, PA 12/12 to 4/13.
Hopeful for R

Posts: 658 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: MA
Scubachick
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Member # 39906
Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Awe..so sweet! Must have felt good to hear that.

Posts: 482 | Registered: Jul 2013
Scubachick
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Member # 39906
Default  Posted: 1:27 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Awe..so sweet! Must have felt good to hear that.

Posts: 482 | Registered: Jul 2013
StillStanding1
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Member # 40144
Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Totally agree with JD.

Thanks for posting something positive. That made me smile.

Sometimes I feel like my rollercoaster jumped the track and is just headed downhill for good.

I hope the upswing continues for you!


Me: 40s BS, Him: 40s WH
M 20 yrs - 3 teens
LTA = 2+ yrs, Dday = 2/10/13, he moved out, MC/IC/FC,
He officially moved back in 1/25/14 and our work continues...

Posts: 527 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: MidWest
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 5:32 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

This is a great positive post and just really great for you to have it in writing. I told WH today I'd love to have some wonderful things he said to me today in writing so I can remember them when I get angry and hurt during this process.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
OldCow18
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Member # 39670
Default  Posted: 8:44 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I do wish we had "like" buttons for posts, thank you for taking the time to read and reply to this <3

BTW, how do you make a good heart?? lol. That's the worst heart I've ever seen.

[This message edited by OldCow18 at 8:45 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)]


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (48) 10 years, together 15
D-Day 6.8.13
D-Day #2 9.6.13 Broken NC/TT
D-Day #3 10.23.13 "Full Disclosure"
WH having PA with MW coworker 3.13-6.13

Posts: 620 | Registered: Jun 2013
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