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User Topic: I hate the paranoia!!!!
PrincessPeach06
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Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

H's A did not happen at work and he is the boss with a small staff and ANY "messing around" would result in a sexual harassment lawsuit and/or firing which he takes seriously.

That being said, a while back he had a female employee who flirted with him constantly. She even said if he left me she would leave her husband. She made comments about me always being his shadow and crap. The thing is she was older and overweight and I saw her as more annoying than anything. Not to mention H showed me all the texts she sent before not replying and deleting. She didn't last long at the store.

Fast forward past all the crap and H's A and me realizing between that employee and the OW that there ARE in fact women out there who don't give a crap about spouses and/or kids and I trust NO ONE! Today a new female employee is at his work and I just dropped him off so he can train her for an hour. I am a wreck. He doesn't get it at all even though I tried to explain what I just wrote about trust and the crappy people out there who pursue whomever they want at all costs.

I know ultimately it is him I have to trust but it disgusts me that there are men/women out there like that and right now THAT is my problem. Our counselor said that will get better with time. That dreaded word again.


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
Morhurt
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Member # 40166
Default  Posted: 9:54 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

I'm sorry, it's so freaking hard isn't it?? My H recently was hiring and one applicant was a woman, I couldn't believe it but I totally talked him into hiring a man instead (using crazy logic about how much work she would miss with a young child etc). The thing is, it's hard. All day, every single day, it's there, hurting us.
:(


Me: BS
Him: FWS
M: 15 years
4 lovely daughters
Working to rebuild.

Posts: 926 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Canada
PrincessPeach06
Member
Member # 39588
Default  Posted: 6:54 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

My H would prefer a man as all his staff is women (that I know thankfully) but his DM has shot down every man he has interviewed and passed on. It sucks, I did go in last night and instantly hated her. I know I was a bitch and couldn't help it. :(


Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

"Forgiving is a journey; the deeper the wound, the longer the journey".


Posts: 299 | Registered: Jun 2013
Topic Posts: 3