User Topic: Family wedding this weekend and on outs with my family! Advice?
Member # 39415
Default  Posted: 5:44 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

Hello all - I could use a bit of support here. A few fun facts: Had DDay in May, told my mom and one brother 1(nice), mom told other brother (ass), BIG health issues with Mom in July, I notice that it is not just WH that has been walking all over me but everyone so I start standing my ground/speaking my mind, had HUGE blowup with one sister-in-law (brother 1's wife), hit a pretty desperate suicidal streak and refused to speak with Brother 1, Brother 1 got scared and told my sister about the A. (UGH)

Anyway - WH and I are heading to this wedding this weekend. I am worried about the wedding triggering me. (vows - what a freaking joke!) But WH and I are in a pretty good place and we can have a LOT of fun being social. I had a nightmare about yelling at my sis-in-law.

I guess I am just scared because I don't know what to expect...

Posts: 191 | Registered: Jun 2013
Member # 26465
Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, October 9th (Wednesday)

First if anyone tries to start crap just tell them this day is not about them or you. It is about _____ and _____ insert bride and grooms name. And walk away.
If anyone starts mouthing you for staying married refer to above statement.
I also had a hard time with weddings and vows. I just learned to ignore the vows and I would start thinking about my checkbook and the bills just to get my teary eyes away from the bride an groom.

There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

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