User Topic: The divorce that never ends
Member # 23328
Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

From my attorney:

Please find enclosed Judge L***'s on our Post Trial Motions. She did not take any actions to correct anything other than her obvious typographical and computational errors. It is my position that this is an unreasonable Judgment that was not supported by the evidence and represents an abuse of the Court's discretion. I would advise you that an appeal of this to the Court of Appeals ... would be appropriate.

On top of this, in our last email my attorney wants me to set up a face-to-face meeting with XWW to discuss the ordered division of the farm.


Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5181 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

Continuing to send you strength, TH. (((((hugs)))))

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25744 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Default  Posted: 11:22 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

Holy Hell. I'm so sorry, TH.

Sending hugs and strength your way. (((TH)))

Me: BS
2 kids: DD15 and DS18
Him: The Assclown NPD
OW: "friend" of 15 years
Divorced! Feb. 2010

Everybody, soon or late, sits down to a banquet of consequences.
~Robert Louis Stevenson

Posts: 7824 | Registered: Mar 2008 | From: SoCal
Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, October 10th (Thursday)

Man TH, this just continues to suck. Whatever you choose to do, I send you mojo.


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52612 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
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Default  Posted: 1:39 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

I'm so sorry TH - do you ever just feel like running away?

I'm not sure I would be strong enough to hang on through all this time.

Sending strength and peace.


Even if you can't control the world around you, you are still the master of your own soul.

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Default  Posted: 3:39 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

I'm sorry you're still dealing with this TH. You are in my thoughts.

FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live

Posts: 37395 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
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Default  Posted: 3:52 PM, October 10th (Thursday)



Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17841 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 24961
Default  Posted: 4:15 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

I know your D deal sucks TH, but what do YOU want to do? Do you want to appeal?

I feel for you.

BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.

WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.

Posts: 5524 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 30221
Default  Posted: 4:22 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

Early on, some time after I filed and life got dark, one of my wise friends told me that 'divorce is forever'.

I didn't know that it was a curse with no way to break the spell.

"I never saw a wild thing sorry for itself. A bird will fall frozen dead from a bough without ever having felt sorry for itself." D. H. Lawrence

Her: WW/57 Me: BS/63 24yrs M
3 great kids, now 22, 20, 17 b,b,g
D-Day 8/14/08, D 1/13/11

Posts: 1164 | Registered: Nov 2010 | From: East Coast
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Default  Posted: 6:08 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

my attorney wants me to set up a face-to-face meeting with XWW to discuss the ordered division of the farm.

my offer still stands to wear my bitch shoes and stand behind you holding my baseball bat. just saying...

Say what you wanna say and let the words fall out...honestly
I wanna see you be brave

Pretty pretty please, don't you ever ever feel
Like you're less than, less than perfect

Posts: 12164 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
Member # 32810
Default  Posted: 6:48 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

I know that the division of the farm was 1) a huge hit financially, and 2) a huge hit emotionally because of the family history, etc., BUT ... is it worth it to fight it? Despite the significance, would it be easier to write it off as a garbage removal fee and move on away from the poison?

"You yourself deserve your love and affection as much as anybody in the universe." -Buddha
"Let's face it, life is a crap shoot." -Sad in AZ

Posts: 13798 | Registered: Jul 2011
Member # 23328
Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

Ama, I'm not fighting the division of the farm. I can't. Legally, since I foolishly put her name on the deed, it became marital property. According to the original order, it became a "gift". So now we have to split it. I don't have to like it, but I've come to accept it.

It's the rest of the settlement that is unfair, and, according to my lawyer, contrary to the statute.

I'll talk to him on Tuesday, find out how much it will cost to appeal, and maybe get a second opinion before I move forward.

Take care of yourself. There's a great future out there. It won't come to you; you have to go to it.

Posts: 5181 | Registered: Mar 2009 | From: DeepInTheHeartOf, TX
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