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hopefulhubby00
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Default  Posted: 11:10 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

So my BS has been telling me for the last week that she doesn't love me anymore and she wants to leave as soon as she delivers our second child. Obviously this is just about the most depressing thought I can have at the moment, but at almost every turn I see her being compassionate - like when talking to her mom, she's given her just enough info to know that we're in a bad place but not really to know what we're dealing with. Yesterday her mom calls while drunk and is just super pushy with my wife about coming after the kid is born, and instead of screaming at her and telling her how awful I am she rationally explains that it's not the best time. Am I reading too much in to stuff like this or do you think I still have a chance to win her love back?


Me : WH, possible SA - 30
Her: pregnant BW 29
DDAY: 1 September 2013
One Daughter (20 Mos), One more almost here.

Posts: 11 | Registered: Oct 2013
Lostinthismess
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Member # 39210
Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, October 10th (Thursday)

There's always a chance. What are you doing to make yourself a safe person for her to stay for?


Dday- 4/4/13
fwh- harrypotter
'You just keep living, until you are alive again'
'I don't want perfect, I want honest'

Posts: 298 | Registered: May 2013 | From: Ca
hopefulhubby00
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Member # 40942
Default  Posted: 1:27 AM, October 11th (Friday)

IC, and quitting other contributory behaviors like drinking, porn, and masturbation. Also reading up on Raja Yoga / Self-control meditation. I know she sees my attempts to heal but I dont think that its enough to overcome what I've done to her and our family =(


Me : WH, possible SA - 30
Her: pregnant BW 29
DDAY: 1 September 2013
One Daughter (20 Mos), One more almost here.

Posts: 11 | Registered: Oct 2013
authenticnow
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Member # 16024
Default  Posted: 8:34 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

Consistency and complete honesty always is key.

Keep working on you, let go of the outcome, but work every day to be that safe person and the best you that you can be.


Take up your space (and do it well).

"That's the thing about pain, it demands to be felt."


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