Are you the WSo or the BSo?
If you're the BSo, I think the signal is that she's done or too effed up to fix herself, and I agree the 180 is for you.
If you're the WSo, I think all you can do is express your commitment to R and hope you bGF comes down on that side. You might get better advice on the WS forum.
If you're the WSo, I recommend looking at the WS forum for insight into how you can heal.