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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:00 AM, October 11th (Friday)

So it took a day or 2 for my astonishment caused by stbx's refusal to give me the plumber's number to wear off.....but then it did. So here's what I did:

(backstory: I've used the same plumbing company for years. One time stbx talked to the guy that came out and plumber offered his number to stbx and said if we had an issue that we could just call him directly because he lives very close and can pop in *whenever*. When I asked for the plumber's number last week, stbx refused to provide it to me)

So. I called the plumbing company.

Me: I need a repair done.
Them: Ok.
Me: Does <plumber> still work for you?
Them: Why yes, he does.
Me: Could you send him out on Friday to repair this for me?
Them: Of course.

Appointment scheduled.

Appointment day comes. A knock on the door. I opened it, and the VERY FIRST thing plumber says is:
"I'm wondering why stbx didn't just call me on my cell?"

I replied: "Yea, I asked him for your number and he wouldn't give it to me. He said something about you being his friend and not my plumber. I don't know what his deal is."

Plumber: Huh. So what's going on? (in regards to my plumbing issue....)

He fixed my problem in like 10 seconds. (I.Am.A.Moron). Cancelled the work order so I don't get charged.....yay! See, I told you all that he was a decent guy.

AND

I now have the plumber's number in my cell phone.

[This message edited by gonnabe2016 at 9:02 AM, October 11th (Friday)]


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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confused615
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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, October 11th (Friday)

Hmmm. Anyone want to take bets on how long it'll take Sultan to accuse you of sleeping with the plumber?


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, October 11th (Friday)

@C6.

That accusation will be down the road, most likely. Right now he's focused on bigger fish.
We had a scheduling hearing in court yesterday where his L dropped the news that stbx wants to move away and take my youngest with him.

Turns out the stbx had already actually spoken to youngest about it....

The drama with this guy just never ends.....


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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JessicaFL127
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, October 11th (Friday)


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Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, October 11th (Friday)

Anyone want to take bets on how long it'll take Sultan to accuse you of sleeping with the plumber?

0.2 seconds. Guaranteed.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, October 11th (Friday)

Congrats on plumber coup.

We had a scheduling hearing in court yesterday where his L dropped the news that stbx wants to move away and take my youngest with him.
Unbelievable. Ok - entirely believable given the source, but COME. ON.


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cayc
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Default  Posted: 9:50 AM, October 11th (Friday)

Divide and conquer the kids? What kind of father does that? Oh yeah, that''s right a motherfucker piece of shit douchbag worthless asshat kind of father. What a dick.


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SisterMilkshake
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Default  Posted: 10:26 AM, October 11th (Friday)

I knew you would get the plumber, gonnabe.

How old is your youngest? Do you feel he might want to live with dear old dad?


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, October 11th (Friday)

He's 14.

Here's the thing. Stbx has already dropped the idea that he wants to move and take the *kids* with him. So I wasn't surprised. What DID surprise me was the fact that he only asked for the youngest. The one that he would leave behind is my special-needs kid. I just don't even really know what to say about that. It's hard enough to protect your kids from the outside world without also having to protect them from the actions and poor judgment of one of their parents. Who puts a kid in this position? (<-- THAT statement is purely rhetorical)


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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sisoon
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Default  Posted: 12:13 PM, October 11th (Friday)

Well, IIRC, he called himself WTF....

Very cool end-around on the plumber. And 'suck it' WRT plumbing? Wow....

[This message edited by sisoon at 12:14 PM, October 11th (Friday)]


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gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 12:21 PM, October 11th (Friday)


Well, IIRC, he called himself WTF....

That was too funny, wasn't it? And apropos because most of the time that he says something, my first thought is "'WTF' is he talking about?"


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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