Topic: Best and worst NB moments
|Helen of Troy|
Member # 26419
| Posted: 1:20 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
I have been thinking about this a lot. Anyone feel like sharing?
I want to know best and worst moments of NB. It would help me feel less alone. Maybe it would help someone new to NB realize others have been there and that better days ARE coming.
A few that come to mind-
Best: heartfelt things my kids have made for me, getting a good grade in a hard class, genuine compliment from boss on my strength. Moments of reclaiming self esteem. Moments of gratitude.
Worst: days on the bathroom floor crying, believing this would last forever. Being broke finding money for pizza for me and kids for dinner, crying when dropped it on the ground out of box carrying it into the house. Before CS began going to and lining up for a church food distribution.
Posts: 4677 | Registered: Dec 2009
Member # 22870
| Posted: 1:23 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Worst: that agonizing lonely feeling of spending 4 days of a Christmas holiday totally alone.
Best: having control of my own destiny, and being able to do whatever I want.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7428 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 24961
| Posted: 1:56 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Best: Cutting down the tree outside while all the neighbours laughed watching me with the chainsaw, hiring someone and having the patio doors finally installed WITHOUT him.
Worst: Of course, there are a few, but having my mom recently diagnosed with cancer, and not having someone to lean on.
BS(me) 46, Two wonderful teens.
He is no longer my best friend. Repeat until it sticks.
WH says marriage is over: May 15, 2009.
EA#2 July 20, 2009. Legally sep: Aug 16, 2009. DIVORCED!!!! Signed Nov 23, final Dec 24, 2010, adultery listed.
Posts: 5372 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 30346
| Posted: 2:08 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Best: KNOWING I can do this on my own. I can handle being a full time single mom, own my house, finish two degrees and own a house.
Worst: The first time my kids left Christmas Day, the first heartbreak in dating.
me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings
Posts: 4032 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
Member # 12050
| Posted: 2:54 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Best : getting my journeyman ticket and realizing that I can support myself financially.
Worst : So, so many but the utter confusion and disbelief that I felt at the beginning still take my breath away when I think about it.
Posts: 2641 | Registered: Sep 2006 | From: newfoundland
Member # 4286
| Posted: 4:03 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Best: Buying my own home and tackling major landscaping renovations all by myself. My neighbors loved it!!
Worst: Dating too soon, idiots that I let tear down my self esteem even more than my cheating ex did.
Divorced - recovered and hoping to help.
"We're not broken, just bent, and we can learn to love again" ~Pink
Posts: 3070 | Registered: May 2004 | From: Midwest
Member # 26071
| Posted: 6:07 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Best: Realizing after he moved out that I could do this myself, because the only thing I did differently was take the cans to the curb on garbage day. Having tremendous success in grad school, and finding a new community, wonderful mentors, and new self respect. Having the best sex of my life in a relationship with a man I never expected would be interested in me, and seeing myself through his eyes. Seeing that my kids were still thriving, despite my fears.
Worst: Realizing how alone I had been long before we S and D, as evidenced by how much I was doing on my own and how little changed when he moved out. Having my new relationship end before I was ready. The intermittent waves of grief that still can knock me completely over once in awhile. The other relationships that have changed in my life since D. Feeling like I have very little backup support.
D-Day: 6/5/09, drunken ONS on business trip, confessed immediately, transparent, remorseful but emotionally clueless
M 11 years, 3 kids
4/12 Tried to R for 3 years, have decided to D
12/31/12 D final
Posts: 542 | Registered: Nov 2009 | From: PacNW
Member # 19595
| Posted: 6:17 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
worst-holidays by myself, too many weekends alone .
Best-meeting someone very special at DFW. It was wonderful.
It's my life now, my choices, my mistakes to make and my victories to celebrate. His choices made me free of liars and betrayers in my life. I lost my family but gained a second chance to be happy.
Posts: 20323 | Registered: May 2008 | From: Half way to where I want to be.
Member # 38122
| Posted: 9:20 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
Worst: The Princess felt the need to tell me when she went back on birth control pills, shortly after I moved out.
Best: Planning and going on a short vacation with my little boys to Montreal. I can do that without relying on the control freak to make it happen.
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!
The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous
Posts: 1684 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Member # 21966
| Posted: 9:30 PM, October 12th (Saturday)|
I have so many to list in both categories, but if I had to pick one for each I'd say these were the most unlikely things to happen and did.
BEST: Finally getting settlement money after a 3 year battle AFTER the divorce and being able to refinance the house in my name only. (Even my lawyers told me to give up. I went through 7 of them trying to get the money he owed. In the end, I did it myself)
WORST: Having a near fatal heart attack at 39 years old brought on by the stress associated with above mentioned battle. (In great shape, at the gym 4 times a week and was emailing my lawyer from my hospital bed )
Posts: 1030 | Registered: Dec 2008
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