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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 8:28 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

I have a wedding coming up that I bought a dress for. I love it. It's not a typical dress that I'd normally wear. It's this beautiful pattern, geometric black and silvery gray. But, it's a clingy, spandexy material. Not sure if I can pull it off. My problem areas are my stomach and the hip area...very bulgy.

I tried it on with a girdle type thing and it looked...okay, but I need more (or less, if you kwim ). Will Spanx do the trick?

I need some kind of magical under garment that will squeeze it in just a little more. It's a really great dress and I want to wear it.

If not Spanx, any suggestions?

Thanks!


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Default  Posted: 11:06 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

Are Spanx really all that?

Yes.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 11:27 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

That's all I needed to hear. Going to get me some of that magical stuff!

So...where do they sell them? Department stores? (none of which I live near) Walmart? Kmart? Or should I order them online?


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Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, October 13th (Sunday)

I think Spanx are awful. They distort my natural shape and cause bulging in unattractive areas. And they are hideously uncomfortable. The ones shaped like bike shorts are the worst, I have read about people having medical problems from their Spanx cutting off circulation in their legs.


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authenticnow
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Default  Posted: 12:26 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Hmmmm....interesting completely opposite opinions.

Now what to do?

I read the reviews on their site. Mostly positive, some negative.

I'll wait for more feedback.


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Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I like Spanx... I don't wear often however.

I would take the dress, go to the store and try both on together and see how you look.

How long do you intend to wear the outfit, with the Spanx?


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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

What happened was, I remembered I needed a dress for this wedding and fell in love with this one, and another one was really nice too. So, I was comparing both and couldn't decide. The other one is fine, but it's typical of dresses that I usually wear and I wanted to step out of the box a little.

The gray one is, like I said, a little different, more stylish, IMO, and just not typical me. I was texting pics of both to DD from the dressing room for her opinion. It was funny.

I decided I'd take both and ask LD's opinion and DD's opinion when she gets home (she's coming home this week) and just return the one that got less votes. I showed LD and he really liked the gray but reinforced by concerns about the bulges. Then he reminded me that we also have his company Christmas party so I should just keep both dresses .

I guess I can buy the Spanx, it can't hurt (well, literally it can, but I guess I can always use them). I plan to wear it for the duration of the occasion...I guess 5-6 hours for the wedding and if I wear it to the holiday party about 4 hours.


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Default  Posted: 12:53 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

The issues I've seen with Spanx can usually be traced to wearing too small a size. They are meant to compress, but if you buy too small a size, they could cut off circulation.

You can buy them at any department store, and can get equivalents anywhere. I've seen them at places like TJ Maxx, Marshalls, and Kohl's as well.

Don't buy without trying them on. And I like the suggestion of bringing the dress with you. That way you can make sure the style of the Spanx works with the cut of the dress.

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Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I'm pro-Spanx. IMO, they've got better engineering at the edges, for example, to avoid the bulges outward at the end of the Spanx.


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Default  Posted: 12:57 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I bought the dresses at TJ Maxx and didn't see any Spanx. I'll check Kohl's or another TJ Maxx if I find one. I live in the sticks!!! I was just going to order online so I didn't have to search high and low. That's probably not a good idea.

Looking at the sizing chart I am about 5 lbs short of the higher end of the size. Would I go to the next size?


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Default  Posted: 12:58 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

IthinkIcan,

The bulges going up and out is a problem, and for me the rolling down at the waist. I was looking at the one that goes up to under the bra. Thoughts?


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Default  Posted: 1:43 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Go to the next bigger size.

Get the most coverage possible. So yes, get the one that goes up to the bra.

You want smoothing out. Not to go down a size.


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Content  Posted: 1:43 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Spanx are good for making you less jiggle-y, but they aren''t going to make you smaller. You need a boned corset for that.
Don''t buy online go to Macy''s and ask for help (you''ll need it the first time you try to put them on...or take them off )


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Default  Posted: 1:50 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Sounds like I'll need some Vaseline or cooking oil and a crane or some heavy machinery.

Fun .


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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

It shouldn't be that tough, AN. I have faith you can do it solo.


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Default  Posted: 2:03 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Yes, I use them to smooth out my jiggly thighs when I wear dress pants.

I also suggest going up a size, I would generally be in the "B" size but purchase a "C." You don't want to feel like you are stuffed sausage, you want your dress to give you a lean look!


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Default  Posted: 2:36 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

It shouldn't be that tough, AN. I have faith you can do it solo.
Well, I didn't think so either, but you guys are all making it sound so complicated!

Annb, that was my dilemma, B or C. I think I'll go with a C.


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Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I used to work in a maternity store and we sold maternity spanx.

All Spanx does is smooth the lumps and bumps. It does not make you thinner.

Just follow the size chart on the package. You definitely should try them on with the dress.


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Default  Posted: 7:44 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I've used them. It's weird when you sit down and the flab spills over the waist band. You might need to get the full body kind otherwise the bulges come out in weird places.

They are hell to get off too. You may need scissors!


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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Target also carries some that are not spanx name brand but function the same for far less $. My experience has been they will definitely help with a slinky dress, but buying too small will make you look and feel like a can of poppin fresh dough.


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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Doesn't necessarily have to be spanx either. Just google your size -

for me - 34DD very firm hold bodysuit.

Whalahhhhh - magic. It does hold it all in. And it does firm it all up.


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Default  Posted: 8:34 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I wore spanx with a new dress to a wedding a couple weeks ago. I felt FABULOUS! And got tons of compliments. It smoothed my bulges nicely.

I got the one with shoulder straps but I wore my own bra. I was very comfy. The trick is to go true to size. Don't try yo squeeze into a smaller size that nking you will look skinnier.


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Default  Posted: 9:07 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I wasn't going to try to go smaller, I'm deciding if I should go with what the size chart tells me or go one up.

Interestingly, I went to a friend's for dinner tonight and I was asking about Spanx (because isn't that what everybody talks about at a dinner party? ) and she had just gotten herself some. She got a small (size A I guess), though. She is tiny. They looked itty bitty. It looked like I was a B according to the size chart but I'm thinking I should get a C???

After all this overthinking, I better look damn good that night!

And thanks for all your help!


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Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I was going to say it doesn't have to be "Spanx" brand... there are a lot of brands that do the same thing.

I can't even remember my brand. I only wear it under two specific dresses, same dress - different colors.


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Default  Posted: 10:04 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I don't know about it not making you smaller - I'm in between regulation sizes right now and it does seem to pull me in so that I can get away with wearing the smaller size. But it's not meant to do that, no - it's supposed to smooth you out. And it works VERY well for that.

Maybe a little TOO well.


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Default  Posted: 10:15 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I love my Spanx! I go with the size chart. I have in the past tried the size smaller thinking it might shrink me....not fun.


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Default  Posted: 7:08 AM, October 14th (Monday)

I have one of those cute clingy dresses that hits my middle-aged self in those places, I wish it wouldn't.

I wanted to try something without investing much money just in case I didn't like it.

I found a spanx like product in Wallyworld (Walmart) for 15.96 and it worked like a charm. I even went back and bought a second one.

You will find them somewhere near the bra's, and that way you won't be out a great deal of money if you don't end up liking it.


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Default  Posted: 7:14 AM, October 14th (Monday)

Hmmmm....interesting completely opposite opinions.

If you haven't already gotten these, i would suggest that you do get them. I really love mine.

I bought the kind that goes down to my knee and up to my boobs. There is even a way to attach it to my bra to keep it from rolling down.

you really need to go with the size they suggest. They have it down to an art.

If you go to big, then you are not going to get the full use of the spanx, to small and you will sausage yourself.

If you are really worried, try on all sizes and then put your clothes back on. They will let you take the dress in as long as you have your reciept on you (at Kohl's anyway).

Don't rush it. Walk around, sit down, bend over....dance a little. You will want to feel comfy in every situation.


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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, October 14th (Monday)

I agree with the bra line to knee version. Usually you can buy them at independently owned ladies clothing stores ie not a department store.


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Default  Posted: 10:34 AM, October 14th (Monday)

The brand at Target is Assets - by Sara Blakely. Sara is the founder of Spanx so she made a line for Target. It's about $22 and the quality isn't as good as Spanx but it'll do the job. I love my Spanx.


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Default  Posted: 5:46 PM, October 14th (Monday)

I went according to the size chart on the pkg and it was perfect. Got mine at Kohls on sale plus 30% coupon


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