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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

"How can you say I don't love that house? I love the house. I can't afford it because of the CS money."

The reality is that he has been hiding out in a house he shares with OW and shorts us when he can.

Although crickets probably should have been the reply, I did stand up and say electronically, "I think you forgot some things you told me during false r." The reply? Nothing to say.

The few people locally I still mention this to have wondered lately if he may be bipolar-or if it's just games?

Lately during my late night pondering, I think about personalities and wonder if being two faced could also be related or a form of passive aggression? Neither is pleasant but the latter would be nicer to swallow, as a semi-medical condition rather than jacka.. condition.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 3:17 PM, October 13th (Sunday)]


Ashland 13

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Posts: 2229 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: New England
dmari
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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

I hear ya! I think part of the reason I am not so incredibly fucking insanely pissed off at stbx is because I don't know if he is purely being a selfish cowardly asshole or a passive aggressive (amongst other mental health concerns) POS. It's probably 100% both.

Anyways, I wanted to comment on your "neither is pleasant but the latter would be nicer to swallow ..." statements. Divorcing a passive aggressive man is difficult (a.k.a. crazy making, hair pulling, fearful, angry, etc, etc). Please do a goggle search on "divorcing a passive aggressive man". It's enlightening. I had an excellent article I wanted to share with you but the link no longer works.


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 19, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2196 | Registered: Oct 2012
Pass
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Default  Posted: 4:25 PM, October 13th (Sunday)

Ash, you need to cuss out in full. Let's hear you say "jackass". You can do it.

I was talking to my shrink one day about thinking The Princess might be NPD. He asked me if a diagnosis of NPD changes anything about our future relationship. No, Bob, it doesn't. She was a lying, cheating, cheater who lies, and she treated me like shit. A diagnosis may provide a slightly tidier explanation of why, but I'm also quite comfortable saying she's an arsehole - and that's all I really need to know about her mental state.

I also think the jackass in your life is an arsehole. I don't know if I've mentioned that yet.

That's my diagnosis of his mental state. I won't even charge you for that.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after 17 year marriage, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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