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FogHater
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Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, October 15th (Tuesday)

We r trying to R
OW has contacted me on Facebook have blocked her but the things she said won't go away. So I talked to husbands out what she said showed him the messages he has told me the truth.
It's been 3 yrs since I found out never really talked about it before he would get angry defensive and protect her feelings. He kept seeing her claiming they were just friends....
Things came to a head in June when my friend saw them together and texted me, I went to a lawyer got my ducks in a row. I called him on it and he said shEjust happened to be there. He was on his motorcycle and claimed he went there to go the bathroom.. At a Barnes and Noble....wait y would u go to the bathroom there. U think he would go to a gas station or restaurant...he doesn't even read....
Anyway went thru his truck found things I didn't like filed for divorce.
He was served wanted to work things out so here we r
We r talking about things a lot he's is being honest not angry not defensive
But this is really hard.
I'm angry hurt frustrated all over again.
I want to work on this but I don't know if I can do this all over again.
We r going to counseling we haven't discussed ant of this.
I'm sorry this is long
I just need advice
She asked him to marry her a while back
He said he loved her
Do I really need to know all that
Has anyone got thru it wothout knowing every detail.
Advice is appreciated....
Thanks for listening.


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Illinois
LosferWords
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Member # 30369
Default  Posted: 1:01 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Hi FogHater,

I am sorry you are hurting.

I see that you are in counseling. Why hasn't this been brought up in counseling?

I think it's very important for you to get whatever level of detail you need. How much detail that is, is entirely up to you.

Keep in mind as you go through this that one person can't heal a marriage.

Best of luck to you.


Posts: 6681 | Registered: Dec 2010
FogHater
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Member # 33156
Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Not sure y it hasn't come up
Right now I just want to start to get the love back.
Communication needs to be better
We r doing things together, holding hands, touching. Being affectionate towards each other.
That is going well
Now I want to know y he had the affair in the first place so he won't repeat when things get rough.
He says he will never do that again..
But how can I be sure.
They still work together and I don't know what happens at work.
I ask him if she talks to him he says yes but he walks away.
She is mad cause he won't talk to him


I don't know what I'm doing
but I know what I'm not doing

Posts: 1301 | Registered: Aug 2011 | From: Illinois
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