User Topic: Struggling
Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, October 15th (Tuesday)

I am struggling today friends. I've tried the exercises my therapist told me about. I've reached out to friends. I just can't shake this. Maybe this is just one of those shit days. There are. I butterflies today. I'm considering a "sick" day. Just going to the house and going to bed. This sucks. It just sucks.

Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 773 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, October 15th (Tuesday)

I am so sorry, brother. There are shit days. Days when you just can't even force yourself to get out of bed to pee.

Hang in there. It will get better. It just takes a long time. Better days are coming.

Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011

Posts: 9824 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Member # 40141
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

Posts: 155 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: California
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

(((((Sunsets))))) It does suck, honey. Some days, you just have to ride it out. Sending you strength and comfort.

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25726 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40173
Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Hang in there. Maybe it's something in the air...I woke up sad as well.

You'll make it. No doubt.

Me: BH, 39
Her: WW, 40
Together 18 years, married 15+
LTA 3.5 years, ongoing
Dday: 7/28/13
Divorcing, 3 children
"There can be no friendship without confidence, and no confidence without integrity." -S

Posts: 724 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 38928
Default  Posted: 12:56 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

It's one of the many dips in the sucky rollercoaster we have all been forced to ride. It won't last and you will be back on top again before you know it. Breathe. Relax. Ride it out and look for a better day tomorrow! It WILL get better!

BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 23,18 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet

Posts: 1189 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
Member # 40359
Default  Posted: 1:42 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Feeling the struggle today as well. Why must we be cursed with a heart while they just get to live life happily? Grrr


Posts: 129 | Registered: Aug 2013
Member # 40268
Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

This morning I woke up the same. Vicious nightmares , no sleep! But for me I find that if I don't run from it and I dive into it. I feel better. But I know that rollercoaster and it sucks brother. You are not alone. Sitting home when that happens will make it worse. Go to work be around people it will be better soon! " they say".

"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 678 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Member # 26741
Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

This is going to sound crazy, but research has shown that if you smile, there's a brain recognition in response and you feel a little better. So, the crazy part- when I get to a low dip in the roller coaster, I literally "ride" that son of a bitch roller coaster by doing "roller coaster squats". Hands up in the air at the top yelling WHEEEEEE! while smiling remembering my IRL fave coaster, then squatting at the bottom. The combination of the forced smiling and stupidity of it and the exercise always helps. Try thirty to start with..and make sure you are home alone. Just sayin' Hope just visualizing me doing this helped a little, and FWIW, it can scare the dogs, so be careful...

[This message edited by welcome14 at 6:03 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]

Nothing like a trail of blood to find your way back home- nikki sixx

I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness for it shows me the stars.

Posts: 1218 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: clarksville, tn/ Ft Campbell
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 6:25 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Aw I had a bad day too. Lots of tears, anger, and hurt today. On the upside my IC says when you recognize you are in a dark place, but that it is temporary, this is a sign of emotional maturity. So hang in there knowing a better day waits, and hugs and peace to you.

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller

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