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SpiderGrl
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Default  Posted: 4:04 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

I couldn't get a response to my texts or calls to my wh this morning and got worried. He finally text me and said his phone fell I the couch and that he wasn't feeling well. I tried to encourage him to take our girls to the sitter and go back home to rest. I mentioned that he rarely calls in and he said that he had called in "the most" this year. Enter paranoia and slight trigger. He was never late getting home or making excuses when his ea was going. But I have struggled with doubts and wondering. I called him when he dropped our girls off and asked when else he had called in besides the one time I remember. He mentioned maybe January and I asked if there was a way to see on the check stub website. He said there were no times that I wasn't aware of. I said I want to know the dates and he got a major attitude and I said I didn't appreciate the attitude. He said he didn't appreciate the 3rd degree when he doesn't feel well. To which I replied "then maybe you shouldn't have put me in this situation." We exchanged a few more words and I very abruptly said bye and hung up. I got a text later that said:
I don't understand why you're mad at me for being a little sick. I don't want to feel this way. I didn't do this on purpose.

My reply to this absolute garbage:

Oh PLEASE. you know good and damn well I am not mad at you for being SICK. I have never been anything BUT sympathetic when you are sick and all I want is for you to take care of yourself. You need to reevaluate our conversation and think hard, apparently, about wtf you said to me that pissed me the @$!? off.

No reply so then I sent this:

You owe me a huge apology and don't bother texting me until you recognize it and MEAN it.

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I get that some of this is a tad immature but I just need to vent about him acting so stupid. I know he knows why I got mad. I basically imploded when he said it. Maybe I am overreacting but damnit, I was already slightly triggery from him not replying to my texts.


Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US
heartache101
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Member # 26465
Default  Posted: 4:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

I am so glad FWS and I do not text.
I would be in trouble.
He should be thankful you are still there!


There are degrees to which you let people back into your life and degrees to which you let them back into your heart-which, of course, are not the same thing

Posts: 3186 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Indiana
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

I don't think you were overreacting. To claim that you were upset because he is sick is pretty much accusing you of being ridiculous - blameshifting if you will.

Stand your ground. He needs to get this.

(((SG)))


It is better to be slapped with the truth than kissed with a lie. -Russian Proverb

Posts: 17048 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
SpiderGrl
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Member # 40157
Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Thanks for your input. I feel a little less furious. He's apologized twice now over the phone with the promise of a more formal apology in person. Still irritating.


Me 36- BW
Him 37- WH 6 month EA pushing PA.
DDAY- 7/2/13
Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indomitable will. -Gandhi
Pls forgive weird sentences and spelling mistakes, I post from my phone and autocorrect hates me.

Posts: 101 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: US
Topic Posts: 4