User Topic: My observations about SI posters
Member # 39169
Default  Posted: 4:11 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

We cross all demographics. Appearance is meaningless. We span the globe. We are compassionate - offering hope, advice, kindness, and understanding to people we've never met. We are resilient - weather facing R or facing D, they both require the courage of lions. We are funny - even in the throes of heartache, I get a good laugh almost every time I read here. We are pretty stinkin awesome. So thanks SI community, you are the best 41,000 friends I could ask for

This is my positive thought for the week. I'll be back tomorrow, crying and frustrated

40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller

Posts: 638 | Registered: May 2013
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

I agree. We have an amazing group of members here.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 4:13 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]

Posts: 36043 | Registered: Mar 2011
Faithful w/Love
Member # 33128
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

BS(ME)40 WH(HIM)38
DD 20 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
Separated again June 2014. Heading toward divorce.
False R. Still Lying.

"You never know how strong you are until being strong is all you have left"

Posts: 2804 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40268
Default  Posted: 4:14 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Ditto. And ditto to the last part too

"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"

Posts: 690 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Deeply Scared
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 4:34 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Without a doubt we have the very best members out there!! Compassionate, smart, loving, funny and some of the most colorful words I've ever read

We (Staff) appreciate each and every one of you!!

I've said it over and over in the past...but it's true.

My mother always said a party is only as good as the people that show up.

Well, look around...we are surrounded by great people

"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

Posts: 198445 | Registered: May 2002
Member # 40617
Default  Posted: 4:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

LOVE your Post. Can completely relate to everything you said.
Here's hoping tomorrow is a good day for all of us, and the next, and the next ... ... It's an uphill battle with many twists, turns and stumbling blocks - and it sure is a journey I never anticipated. Good luck to us ALL

Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 25001
Default  Posted: 5:07 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Fantastic post! They're are a lot of amazing people here.

Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day - listed in profile.)

Posts: 5854 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 30631
Default  Posted: 5:09 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)


In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.

Always, tell the other BS! Always!

"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!

Posts: 888 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
Member # 36622
Default  Posted: 5:14 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

BS 40
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better.
"Knowing is half the battle"

Posts: 2647 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 40769
Default  Posted: 5:21 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Love this post and thank you for saying it.
Knowing I have a place to come that's full of honest good wishes and the occasional 2 x 4 ( also given with good wishes).
Word cannot express my gratitude for ALL of you.
(((SI community)))

Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
Him- FWS
14 years- 2 middle school children
DDay- 07-24-2013
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC

Posts: 474 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Love your post TT!

Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2482 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 36711
Default  Posted: 5:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Good post. I totally agree!

D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 40568
Default  Posted: 6:06 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Great post, TT!

While I'd certainly rather have met you all under different circumstances, I'm so very grateful to have found such a warm, welcoming community. That so many people in so much pain can be this compassionate is truly amazing.

My eternal gratitude to all who share here and to the founders and mods who make this place so special. I hope you understand what a difference you've made in so many lives.

Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 8 years
4 20-something his and hers kids

Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9

Posts: 341 | Registered: Sep 2013
solus sto
Member # 30989
Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

This really is a terrific community.

BS-me, 52
WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke

Posts: 8888 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Hear Hear!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4962 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 8:01 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Yep. Such a wonderful group.

I'm sorry for our circumstances, but so glad to have this group to support me.

I didn't find SI until after my D was final, but I really didn't begin to take control of my destiny until I came here.

You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

Posts: 7781 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 40393
Default  Posted: 8:03 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

So grateful to each and every one of you. Your stories, courage, feelings, advice, etc. etc. are an inspiration

Me: 50
WH: 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 33 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
8 grandkids
Divorcing - finally

Posts: 120 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25842 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Oh hell yeah.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17589 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 39707
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)

Wonderful post!!!
I'm no where near where I want to be but I am that much closer because of this place :-))

Me: BS
Him: doesn't matter anymore...or does it...

Being very, very careful

D-day 14 June 2013

I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!

Posts: 168 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
Member # 34827
Default  Posted: 3:37 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

I agree, I feel like I know these people, yet have never met them. When ppl in my world grow tired of my A talk, I know there's always someone up at SI (I'm a bit.of an insomniac)
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5172 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 24786
Default  Posted: 3:40 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

We are pretty stinkin awesome

Yeah. We are aren't we

This place has kept me alive and kept me focused and given me the best advice.

Great post.

BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć

Posts: 1584 | Registered: Jul 2009
Member # 39058
Default  Posted: 6:22 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Gosh yes!

Don''t know what I would have done if I hadn''t discovered SI!!

I really do like getting a laugh here - even if that seems slightly wrong! BUT we do hav the best jokes!

And the support, of course, is second to none!

Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
No children.

Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Member # 37154
Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Well said, and so true!

Dday -9/24/2012

Posts: 1765 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 33882
Default  Posted: 7:38 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

This community saved my sanity.

me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."

Posts: 2601 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
New Member
Member # 40882
Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Yes, thanks to all of you... this place makes it easier to put things in perspective. The good and the terrible.

"The liar's punishment is, not in the least that she is not believed, but that she cannot believe anyone else." -- George B. Shaw

Posts: 46 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: coldshot
Member # 24210
Default  Posted: 12:42 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)

In addition, I love the well-rounded opinions. Seems like no matter the question, we have people who can respond from both ends of the spectrum. I find that very useful since I like to look at all sides of a situation.

Even if you don't agree that a certain response might work for your personal situation - it still gives you valuable information to ponder.

Eyes are useless if the mind is blind.

Posts: 2185 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 38116
Default  Posted: 5:04 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Yes we are. We are amazing! We have morals, tough skin, and we rock!

ME: 30
WH: 35

Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.

Posts: 310 | Registered: Jan 2013
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