Topic: My observations about SI posters
Member # 39169
| Posted: 4:11 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
We cross all demographics. Appearance is meaningless. We span the globe. We are compassionate - offering hope, advice, kindness, and understanding to people we've never met. We are resilient - weather facing R or facing D, they both require the courage of lions. We are funny - even in the throes of heartache, I get a good laugh almost every time I read here. We are pretty stinkin awesome. So thanks SI community, you are the best 41,000 friends I could ask for
This is my positive thought for the week. I'll be back tomorrow, crying and frustrated
40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013
The sea is so wide, and my boat is so small.
Posts: 553 | Registered: May 2013 | From: A state of overwhelmed
Member # 31528
| Posted: 4:12 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
I agree. We have an amazing group of members here.
[This message edited by SI Staff at 4:13 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)]
Posts: 30689 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 33128
| Posted: 4:12 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
DD 19 and DS 15
Separated Aug 2012
Moved back home Oct 31 2013
False R. Still Lying.
Will be divorcing soon!
"You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have"!
Posts: 2459 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 40268
| Posted: 4:14 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Ditto. And ditto to the last part too
"what does not kill you , makes you stronger"
Posts: 580 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nyc
Member # 2
| Posted: 4:34 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Without a doubt we have the very best members out there!! Compassionate, smart, loving, funny and some of the most colorful words I've ever read
We (Staff) appreciate each and every one of you!!
I've said it over and over in the past...but it's true.
My mother always said a party is only as good as the people that show up.
Well, look around...we are surrounded by great people
"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)
My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.
Posts: 192026 | Registered: May 2002
Member # 40617
| Posted: 4:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
LOVE your Post. Can completely relate to everything you said.
Here's hoping tomorrow is a good day for all of us, and the next, and the next ... ... It's an uphill battle with many twists, turns and stumbling blocks - and it sure is a journey I never anticipated. Good luck to us ALL
Posts: 95 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 25001
| Posted: 5:07 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Fantastic post! They're are a lot of amazing people here.
Me - BS, 39 (I'm not old...I'm vintage)
Two Wonderful children - DS10, DD7
Married, for now... (4+ D-Day's, listed in profile)
Posts: 5375 | Registered: Jul 2009 | From: In the darkest depths of hell!
Member # 30631
| Posted: 5:09 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
In R since shortly after DD.
Discovered what was right in front of him and nearly lost.
Always, tell the other BS! Always!
"It's hard to be in love when you can't tell lies"!
Posts: 847 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: Northeast
Member # 36622
| Posted: 5:14 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
fWS 36 (SurprisinglyOkay)
A whole bunch of shit that got a lot worse before it got better. Reconciled from the A's but still working hard for a better tomorrow.
"Knowing is half the battle"
Posts: 2419 | Registered: Aug 2012
Member # 40769
| Posted: 5:21 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Love this post and thank you for saying it.
Knowing I have a place to come that's full of honest good wishes and the occasional 2 x 4 ( also given with good wishes).
Word cannot express my gratitude for ALL of you.
Everyday is a new day, some good, some bad.
Me- BS 39
14 years- 2 middle school children
NC broken from August 6- 24, 2013
Avalanche of Truth on November 14, 2013
Length of A: June 10th to Dday- with broken NC
Posts: 470 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: East Coast
Member # 38384
| Posted: 5:22 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Love your post TT!
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear
Posts: 1805 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
Member # 36711
| Posted: 5:35 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Good post. I totally agree!
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.
Posts: 1264 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: Sunny Florida
Member # 40568
| Posted: 6:06 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Great post, TT!
While I'd certainly rather have met you all under different circumstances, I'm so very grateful to have found such a warm, welcoming community. That so many people in so much pain can be this compassionate is truly amazing.
My eternal gratitude to all who share here and to the founders and mods who make this place so special. I hope you understand what a difference you've made in so many lives.
Me: BW 52
Him: WH 55
Married 7 years
4 20-something his and hers kids
Trying to understand the behavior of some people is like trying to smell the color 9
Posts: 218 | Registered: Sep 2013
Member # 30989
| Posted: 7:33 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
This really is a terrific community.
WH(Mr. Trac-fone), 52, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS17
Alone, most strangely, I live on~Rupert Brooke
Posts: 7967 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: midwest
Member # 35812
| Posted: 7:56 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.
D-Day, June 10, 2012
Posts: 4120 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 22870
| Posted: 8:01 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Yep. Such a wonderful group.
I'm sorry for our circumstances, but so glad to have this group to support me.
I didn't find SI until after my D was final, but I really didn't begin to take control of my destiny until I came here.
You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright
Posts: 7031 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: Western PA
Member # 40393
| Posted: 8:03 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
So grateful to each and every one of you. Your stories, courage, feelings, advice, etc. etc. are an inspiration
WH: almost 50 pro cake-eater, NPD, SA
Married 32 years
D-Days 3-4-12, 8-19-12 (EA, probably PA)porn,ashleymadison, etc, etc
4 sons, 3 daughters
Divorcing - finally
Posts: 96 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Utah
Member # 33226
| Posted: 8:10 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
You can call me NIK
There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox
Posts: 22650 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 20150
| Posted: 8:17 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
Oh hell yeah.
DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
Celebrating 60 years on Earth
Posts: 16633 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
Member # 39707
| Posted: 10:36 PM, October 15th (Tuesday)|
I'm no where near where I want to be but I am that much closer because of this place :-))
Him: doesn't matter anymore...or does it...
Being very, very careful
D-day 14 June 2013
I'm smart, good looking and gosh darn it, people like me!
Posts: 122 | Registered: Jun 2013 | From: trying to figure it out
Member # 34827
| Posted: 3:37 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
I agree, I feel like I know these people, yet have never met them. When ppl in my world grow tired of my A talk, I know there's always someone up at SI (I'm a bit.of an insomniac)
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..divorced slut who prefers committed men, specializing in befriending and bopping the fathers of her kids team mates
Posts: 3974 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 24786
| Posted: 3:40 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
We are pretty stinkin awesome
Yeah. We are aren't we
This place has kept me alive and kept me focused and given me the best advice.
BS(Me) FWH(Him) DDay 05.09
A went underground. True R 02.10
I won't let another woman reap the benefit of enjoying the man my H has now becomeć
Posts: 1528 | Registered: Jul 2009
Member # 39058
| Posted: 6:22 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
Don''t know what I would have done if I hadn''t discovered SI!!
I really do like getting a laugh here - even if that seems slightly wrong! BUT we do hav the best jokes!
And the support, of course, is second to none!
Me: BW 45
Him: WH 48
Married: 6 years, together 9 years
D-day: 3 January 2013 - he confessed.
A: June-Dec 2012
Posts: 153 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: UK
Member # 37154
| Posted: 7:10 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
Well said, and so true!
Posts: 1653 | Registered: Oct 2012 | From: northeast
Member # 33882
| Posted: 7:38 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
This community saved my sanity.
him (NPD Ex)
"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."
Posts: 2495 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
Member # 40882
| Posted: 11:34 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
Yes, thanks to all of you... this place makes it easier to put things in perspective. The good and the terrible.
"The liar's punishment is, not in the least that she is not believed, but that she cannot believe anyone else." -- George B. Shaw
Posts: 33 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: coldshot
Member # 24210
| Posted: 12:42 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
In addition, I love the well-rounded opinions. Seems like no matter the question, we have people who can respond from both ends of the spectrum. I find that very useful since I like to look at all sides of a situation.
Even if you don't agree that a certain response might work for your personal situation - it still gives you valuable information to ponder.
When someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them.
Posts: 1871 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
Member # 38116
| Posted: 5:04 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)|
Yes we are. We are amazing! We have morals, tough skin, and we rock!
Fool me once - Shame on you. Fool me twice - pack your shit and get out.
Posts: 308 | Registered: Jan 2013
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