I'm a single mom. My 14 month old daughter's sperm donor hasn't seen her "willingly" since she was 4 months old. He saw her briefly when I went through Social Services when she was 9 months old and applied for Child Support... of which he only has to pay $65 a month because he is "supposedly" unemployed (but works under the table instead!) When he tried to hold her then....she cried ....because he was a stranger to her. It was kinda sad actually but validating for me. She will ALWAYS be a momma's girl! Always....
And, yet... he has enough money for a 60 inch flat screen TV, new PS3, a Miata convertible, a new apartment, and tons and tons of bodybuilding supplements and shakes to gain weight. So, you see where his priorities are.
I, on the other hand, wear clothes to my full-time job as a senior accountant that I've owned for 10 years. Sell my jewelry on Ebay so I can afford to buy groceries for both of us and diapers, and eat sandwiches for lunch everyday because its the cheapest way to go and leftovers for dinner.
You do what you have to do to make it and your children will grow up KNOWING who was there for them and who loved them and who was NOT.
Just be the best parent that you know how...and you cant go wrong! "Sometimes your knight in shining armor ...is just a douchebag in tin foil!!"
ME - BW - 35
HIM - XWH - 39
D day: November 15th, 2009
Married: 5 Years, together 8
Divorced: December 13th, 2010
New Beginning: Piper/8-3-12