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SadFlower
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Member # 37725
Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Taking pleasure in the misfortune of others is not an admirable trait. Okay, so I'm not perfect.

I ran across a very recent picture of OW this morning. I actually didn't recognize her at all until my eyes glanced at the caption--there was her name. I had to look at the picture again--yes, it was her, but she's gained a massive amount of weight! Her face is puffy, and she was wearing baggy, dowdy clothes to disguise her new bulk. She also looks a lot older than when I last saw her in May 2012.

I know this is mean, but seeing that picture filled me with a perverse kind of glee.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 390 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
HardenMyHeart
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Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 11:34 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

ETA: Removed my comment as it was not very supportive. Sorry.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 2:43 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)]


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


Posts: 5641 | Registered: Aug 2007
TheClimb
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Member # 25895
Default  Posted: 11:37 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

You are not mean at all Sadflower. I posted yesterday about the OW having to walk in front of my car. She has never had a butt, yet yesterday I noticed that what little butt she had was very squishy. I was also filled with glee.


"That which can be destroyed by the truth should be" P.C. Hodgell

Posts: 458 | Registered: Oct 2009 | From: Southern Maryland
tushnurse
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Member # 21101
Default  Posted: 11:41 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Nope it's good to find fault in the OW as far as I am concerned. It's part of healing.....One day (I'm still waiting) you will meet it with indifference. That's when you know You beat Infidelity's Ass.


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

Posts: 8229 | Registered: Oct 2008 | From: St. Louis
somanyyears
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Member # 26970
Default  Posted: 11:52 AM, October 16th (Wednesday)


..so.......my finding bfOM's obituary, dead at 57 and my smile , my grin ..and my laughter was not nice????

..well then, my dancing on his grave wasn't so nice either???

.. and I suppose then, that pissing on his grave was really nasty???

....oh well, that's just toooooooooooo fucking bad, now isn't it!!!!

..pretending to be my trusted best friend for 25 years while he used my wife for bj's is totally worthy of the fate that he got..

..i like to think his inoperable brain tumor was a clear result of the guilt and shame he tried to live with, but God had other plans.

..karma? payback, God's justice.. ?? it all works for me!!

smy


trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


Posts: 4120 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: the sad state of affairs
notquiteoverit
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Member # 32919
Default  Posted: 12:02 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)

Me too. I've never taken any satisfaction from the misery of other before, and am generally a compassionate person. However, it is different with the OW. I too find myself filled with glee anytime something bad happens to her, and I laugh at her looks. Does this make me a bad person? I don't think so. These OPs have taken so much from us that I think we are entitled to a little mirth at their expense.


Me - BS 50
Him - WS 49
SOW - 52 destitute loser
D-day 1/28/11

Posts: 573 | Registered: Jul 2011
LivingALie
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Member # 17217
Default  Posted: 12:15 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)

You know how we often say here….who cares what the OW thinks – well, in that vein – I really don’t care if anyone thinks poorly of me for being happy for every single awful thing that happens to OW – now and in the future. And to go even one better I’m always hoping and praying that something does happen to her to make the rest of her days miserable.

Karma – good or bad, I don’t believe in it now and never did.


Me: BS
H had LTA with co-worker
Both mid-50s
Two sons - grown and on their own
DD - April 2010
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Posts: 1260 | Registered: Nov 2007
SadFlower
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Member # 37725
Default  Posted: 1:34 PM, October 16th (Wednesday)

I'm glad I'm not the only one.

It isn't as if I'm so slim myself. I know what it's like to battle weight issues; both OW and I have had to struggle to keep our weight down (neither of us has ever been slim, but until now, neither of us has been terribly overweight). I should have some compassion for how she must feel about herself, because it can't be good.

I guess it just gave me a sense of satisfaction (or something) to see that she is no longer the "gorgeous" woman my FWH used to think she was.

Tushnurse, I am still waiting for indifference, too. I am not there yet by a long shot.


Me: BW, age 66
Him: WH, age 64
Married 19 years
In R.

D-Day: August 14, 2012
9 year LTA with former co-worker and family "friend"/7 years EA+PA, 2 more years EA


Posts: 390 | Registered: Dec 2012 | From: Connecticut
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