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drowninginsorrow
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Member # 4545
Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Hi everyone :) I don't recognize many names, although SI was a huge part of my life for a while. That's good right?! It means a LOT of people have moved on, and THAT is awesome. Because that is the concept that's almost impossible to envision after dday. That you WILL move on, move forward, move onward, and be ok. Dday was about 9 yrs ago for me. Our 18th anniversary is Monday. A lot has happened in our lives. Honestly if I did a life together review I probably would be hard pressed to think of the A as an event to include. It really does just fade away.

I'm so sorry for the pain that brings everyone here. It's a good place to have found. One of the unexpected benefits of SI is I found deep, lifelong, life changing friendships here. DS and MH (love you sugar boogers!) have my eternal gratitude for providing this safe, healing place. I hope you all find what you need here!


Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics

Posts: 56712 | Registered: Jun 2004 | From: canuckistan
travels
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Member # 20334
Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, October 18th (Friday)

(Me waving wildly)
Hi DS!!! We miss you!



When one door closes, another door opens. It's the journey through the hallway that sucks.

Posts: 3771 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: PA
LA44
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Member # 38384
Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Nice to read this post. Thanks for your positive update! Looks like you are a fellow Canadian too.


Me: 44
He: 47 WH
Married: 15 years
D Day: December 2012
Affair: Fall 2009 - Dec. 2011
R is not linear

Posts: 2226 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Canada, eh
drowninginsorrow
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Member # 4545
Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Well ho lee shit! A familiar face!! Lol
*wave*. How ya been? :)

And hello fellow Canuck ! :)

[This message edited by drowninginsorrow at 8:11 PM, October 18th (Friday)]


Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics

Posts: 56712 | Registered: Jun 2004 | From: canuckistan
SurprisinglyOkay
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Member # 36684
Default  Posted: 8:21 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Thanks!!


FWS me 36 (recovering addict)
BS him 39 AFrayedKnot
Together 7 years
2 children


"Your secrets keep you sick"


Posts: 1130 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: 221B
sri624
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Member # 33956
Default  Posted: 10:29 PM, October 18th (Friday)

thank you so much for dropping you. your posts gives me hope...that you can really move past this and be happy again.


BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
Attempting R in bi

Posts: 934 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
sri624
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Member # 33956
Default  Posted: 10:30 PM, October 18th (Friday)

thank you so much for dropping you. your posts gives me hope...that you can really move past this and be happy again.


BS (41):(Former Doormat)
WS (39):(Busted Cheater)
Married: 10 years, 3 kids under 5
DD1: 10/11 PA/EA with pilates instructor/former stripper.
DD2: 10/12 False r, cheating with other women, online dating,Substance abuse issues.
Attempting R in bi

Posts: 934 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: Alabama
Jrazz
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Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 10:36 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Hi!

Your Matt Groening quote and location zinger reserves you a spot in my BFF bucket, just so you know.


If you can't learn to enjoy your life when you have problems, you may never enjoy it because we'll always have problems. - Joyce Meyer

Posts: 16952 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
ThoughtIKnewYa
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Member # 18449
Default  Posted: 10:45 PM, October 18th (Friday)

HI, dis!!!

Posts: 11591 | Registered: Mar 2008
FinallyHappy
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Member # 308
Default  Posted: 10:54 PM, October 18th (Friday)

dis!!!!

Do you remember the time you made deep fried Snickers bars and posted a pictorial on F&G?

Or when we both decided to forgo vacuums and just rake our rugs?

Ahhhhhhhh. Good times. I miss you!


"Be civil to all; sociable to many; familiar with few; friend to one; enemy to none."

~Ben~

Posts: 7325 | Registered: Jul 2002 | From: WI
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 11:05 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Hi DIS!!!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51890 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Pentup
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Default  Posted: 11:06 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Dis! Always loved your tag line, though I do a quick head spin for ice weasels when it snows now
Great t o see you re doing well


Me- BS
Him- FWS (I hope- F)

Posts: 6522 | Registered: Aug 2008 | From: Not Oz
jo2love
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Default  Posted: 11:26 PM, October 18th (Friday)

Awesome update!! It's great to hear positive, uplifting stories.

Posts: 34636 | Registered: Mar 2011
click4it
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Member # 209
Default  Posted: 11:34 PM, October 18th (Friday)

((((((((((((DIS)))))))))))))


Me: 41
Two boys: 17 and 13
Divorced 12-13-05
d-day 10-02-01

Laughter will cure life's ills. Have you had your laugh today?


Posts: 25509 | Registered: Jun 2002 | From: California
StillGoing
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Member # 28571
Default  Posted: 12:40 AM, October 19th (Saturday)

I am pretty sure this qualifies you for hero status, so if the world is attacked by alien zombie demons then you're required by law to defend the planet.


“Fate is a fickle bitch who dotes on irony.”

Posts: 7425 | Registered: May 2010 | From: USA
wifehad5
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Member # 15162
Default  Posted: 5:12 AM, October 19th (Saturday)

dis!!!!!!


FBH - 42
FWW - 43 (BrokenRoad)
2 kids 7&12

The people you do your life with shape the life you live


Posts: 36901 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Michigan
Deeply Scared
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Member # 2
Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, October 19th (Saturday)

DIS!!!!!

Not only was this the most awesome surprise to see you here...but you dragged out Finally Happy too!!! It's a twofer!


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


Posts: 197196 | Registered: May 2002
drowninginsorrow
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Member # 4545
Default  Posted: 2:53 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

Ohmygosh!! Nostalgia - good times, good times. Miss you guys :)

God ive missed the blinking smiley too! Lol


Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics

Posts: 56712 | Registered: Jun 2004 | From: canuckistan
sad12008
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Member # 18179
Default  Posted: 3:04 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

Hi dis!! Good to see you again....don't know if you remember me, but I do remember you....and the Matt Groening quote always jumped out at me, too. :o)

Glad you're still doing great!


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

Posts: 3860 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
drowninginsorrow
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Member # 4545
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

Sad, hon, of course I remember you. Good to see old friends


Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics

Posts: 56712 | Registered: Jun 2004 | From: canuckistan
SerJR
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Member # 14993
Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

DIS is here!
Quick - better clean up the place!!!

Hope all is well!!


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
drowninginsorrow
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Member # 4545
Default  Posted: 3:23 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

Lol. Hiya Ser

I trust things are going swimmingly with you also?


Love is a snowmobile racing across the tundra and then suddenly it flips over, pinning you underneath. At night, the ice weasels come.- Matt Groening
"I've found the secret to life. I'm ok when everything is not ok"- Tori Amos lyrics

Posts: 56712 | Registered: Jun 2004 | From: canuckistan
SerJR
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Member # 14993
Default  Posted: 3:25 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

Things are going fantastic.


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

Posts: 17093 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Further North than South
unfound
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Member # 12802
Default  Posted: 3:59 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

DIS!!!


ka-mai
*******************
From time to time, I do consider that I might be mad. Like any self-respecting lunatic, however, I am always quick to dismiss any doubts about my sanity. DK

Posts: 14832 | Registered: Nov 2006 | From: mercury's underboob
Alma
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Member # 2743
Default  Posted: 4:12 PM, October 19th (Saturday)

Hi there DIS and click4it! Haven't been by in a while and just posted a reply and wandered around.

Ah, I sure don't miss the drama. Miss the kind friends though.


"The supreme happiness in life is the conviction that we are loved -- loved for ourselves, or rather, loved in spite of ourselves."
-Victor Hugo

Reconciled


Posts: 3260 | Registered: Nov 2003 | From: Canada
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