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Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, October 19th (Saturday)

Left a shitty VM telling me and sibling we should consider ourselves orphans. That is weird, right?

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Default  Posted: 1:16 AM, October 19th (Saturday)

Really weird. Any backstory at all? Are they the types where if you're not exactly like them then you're the devil?

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

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Default  Posted: 10:23 AM, October 19th (Saturday)


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Default  Posted: 10:29 AM, October 19th (Saturday)

That is weird, especially if it's out of the blue with no context.

Anything going on with them right now, like health concerns or an estrangement?

You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams

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Default  Posted: 4:13 PM, October 19th (Saturday)


Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

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Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, October 20th (Sunday)

How old are they? Any chance someone is preying on them?

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DDay - 12/2010
Recovered, not yet fully R'ed
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Default  Posted: 7:09 PM, October 20th (Sunday)

Very weird.


Me: BW 31
Him: WH 30
OW: 22yo whore who is still planning her wedding
Married 3yrs, together 5
4 kids, all boys 14, 11, 4 and 8mos...I hope like hell they don't hurt someone the way he hurt their mama
Dday: August 9, 2013
S, until his head

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Default  Posted: 9:17 AM, October 21st (Monday)


That's all the message said?


Fidelity isn't a's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!

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Default  Posted: 5:50 PM, October 21st (Monday)

Where did this come from? Has your relationship with them been strained?

DD: 1-14-09 EA/PA OM #1
TT: 5-11&12-09
DD#2: 5-18-09 EA OM #2
5-31-09: Told me she hasn't loved me.
No kids
Me BH: 38
12-08-10: S

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Member # 17637
Default  Posted: 7:41 PM, October 21st (Monday)

How old are they? Are they on any medications? Some medications react very differently in older people. If it is from them both though, I would wonder if someone has not developed an unhealthy influence over them.
I have seen it happen.

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Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, January 5th (Sunday)

My parents are relatively young; 62 & 65.

We've gone from August until New Year's Eve without speaking.

*I* sent an email saying this is ridic and let's reconnect; life is too short. My mom (the problem) said SURE!! Then didn't pick up my call this weekend or return my VM.

Sometimes it's really ok to let people out of your life. People you didn't miss anyway.

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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, January 5th (Sunday)


I'm so sorry.

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Member # 19772
Default  Posted: 1:11 AM, January 6th (Monday)

Thanks Jo. I think it just really reconfirmed what I knew all along.

Honestly, it's their loss. I'm a great person and I know that. My kids are great too, once again, their loss for not wanting to know us. We have plenty of other love to go 'round.

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