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imwideawake
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Default  Posted: 6:41 AM, October 21st (Monday)

That's all I say anymore when talking about my life. No need to give the whole story, he cheated, we tried to make it work for 3 yrs, blah blah. Nope, just, my marriage blew up. I kind of like that. If someone asks I tell, but I no longer feel the need to explain why we divorced. This was a milestone I was looking forward to and hoping to reach. I'm glad I'm there!

[This message edited by imwideawake at 1:55 PM, October 21st (Monday)]


Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 885 | Registered: Mar 2009
TrustGone
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Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, October 21st (Monday)

I am so glad you have reached this milestone. Everyone thinks their life will come to an end when they D, but they eventually realize that it doesn't. Once you reach the place of indifference, you actually look at it as a blessing in decise.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
Chrysalis123
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Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, October 21st (Monday)


Donít get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well.†

Posts: 2636 | Registered: Jan 2010
k94ever
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Member # 11176
Default  Posted: 9:23 AM, October 21st (Monday)

I refer to it as "when my life imploded".


k9


BS: 56
WS: 53
Betrayed: 23 years
Affairs: 14 (2 lasted 3 months. Rest were ONS)
WS died: 16 May 2011
Do not stay in your hurt forever. Choose to move out of it.

Posts: 6508 | Registered: Jul 2006 | From: Wisconsin
lynnm1947
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Member # 15300
Default  Posted: 1:09 PM, October 21st (Monday)

I refer to it as the time he wanted every woman he met to fu*k him and I needed one man to love only me. It was 15 years this past spring--and I rarely think of it any more unless I am commenting on someone else's posts. Believe it or not, you will get there, too.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


Posts: 7180 | Registered: Jul 2007 | From: Toronto, Canada
imwideawake
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Member # 23386
Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, October 21st (Monday)

Thanks for the replies. Last year at this time I was waiting for divorce to be finalized. It was an intense phase. Now I'm so much more relaxed. It took a while to get there. Divorce seemed like such a heavy word then.


Together 17 years.
Married 15
Me: BW, now 44
Him WH
dday 9/08
3 daughters, now 19, 17, & 15
Divorced 12/04/12

Posts: 885 | Registered: Mar 2009
Williesmom
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Member # 22870
Default  Posted: 7:47 PM, October 21st (Monday)

Yep! There is life after divorce.

I like your metaphor. Mine also blew up.


You can stuff your sorries in a sack, mister. -George Costanza
There is a special place in hell for women who don't help other women. - Madeleine Albright

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