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Marathonwaseasy
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Default  Posted: 5:54 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

FWH have been talking about our pasts which we never discussed pre A because he didn't want to...
During our M before A he had other opportunities with supposed friends of mine. And pre us with an old friend who was always a bitch to me - now I know why. And he always defended her behaviour as shyness. Ha.
Anyway she was in a relationship when she twice propositioned him. He didn't because her partner (now H) was a friend. He knows she had a ONS with another friend and who knows what else
In his narrative regarding this he was talking about how hard it was for her because her H is violent when drunk. How does he know this? Because she told him!
I pulled him up on it and he did realise
He is so into the whole KISA routine which was part of how AP drew him in. He was shocked that his narrative still indicates cheating can be ok.

Not happy in a relationship then leave. No exceptions.
And no talking to any woman ever about their relationship issues
Boundaries!

To be fair - He has apologised. He gets that he has a lot to learn and is working on it.


Me BS, 41
Him WS, 45
EA and PA (PA for 11 months)
DDay 13/9/13
3 children - 15,12,3
WS has bipolar, no excuse...

"We're not broken, just bent. We can learn to love again."


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Deeply Scared
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Default  Posted: 8:03 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

Boundaries are so important and once they're established and used on a daily basis, life is so much easier

I'm glad he apologized and is aware of the work he still has in front of him.


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:43 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

(((Marathon)))

I'm glad he is working on his boundaries. It's a good step in the right direction.


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