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Posts: 4 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United States
plainpain Member Member # 40139
Posted: 11:03 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)
Thank you for posting that. I found it extremely helpful, and I absolutely feel that way - like my whole life story has been hijacked and rewritten. Like the last twenty years of my life were a lie, and I no longer have a family history. I told my H, I feel like an amnesia victim who just woke up and is now trying to piece back together my life. I don't even know what the important parts of the story are any more. I can't even think with fondness about the birth of my children. I joked with the doctor just before my C-section, when he asked if I wanted my tubes tied, 'I'm done. If my H wants more children, he'll have to get a girlfriend'. Well, he got a girlfriend, and she's pregnant. Now thinking about that story fills me with a pain that sometimes outweighs even the joy of my son's birth. How do you explain that to someone, who hasn't lived this kind of tauma?Me: Believer; 40s
Him: Liar; 40s
Married 19 years
1 year EA/2 month PA/incidental infidelities I can't begin to process
OC born 2014
In successful R, but still in just plain pain.
Posts: 728 | Registered: Jul 2013
Crushed1 Member Member # 6449
Posted: 11:22 AM, October 22nd (Tuesday)
Hi Jesurvis, good article.
I'm years out myself and I still have times when I feel very disturbed about it all and...
Perhaps robbing someone of his or her story is the greatest betrayal of all.
...this is probably the reason!
How are you doing?
~~"You can't run away from yourself"!!! Me to my H when he descended into adultery insanity.
~~Prov.15:13 "By sorrow of the heart the spirit is broken"
~~"The day breaks-your mind aches"