User Topic: Not your average relationship quiz
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Default  Posted: 3:16 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

I just took this relationship quiz which determines if you might be with someone suffering from a personality disorder and guess what....? I win! I've been living with someone 'likely' to hurt me if I stay in the relationship.

I STILL can't decide if he has some sort of disorder or if he's just 'in the fog'; how can I know for sure either way?

[This message edited by IndianDreams at 3:17 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)]

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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

Hmmm... I am very definitely not in an an emotionally abusive relationship and my WH does not have a personality disorder, but I took it anyway. I only answered 3 of these in the affirmative, and also got a "very likely" to be hurt again.

The questions seemed very good, though. The range for abusive behavior was 19-47 points, I came in at 20, bottom of the range so maybe for people more near the middle-top of that range it's more accurate?

Me: BW, 30
Him: WH, 36

7 years of double-digit ONS, LTA, hookers - the works.

First found out: August 20, 2013
Whole truth: January 1, 2014

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Default  Posted: 9:44 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

I'm no longer with my WS but I scored a 63. :/

Me BS 31
Him WS 34 Trying4change
Together 3 years, married for one
D-day: 07/23/13 cybersex with COW
D-day: 12/27/13 found out he met and kissed a "friend" in 2011
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Default  Posted: 10:16 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

My relationship with a profoundly PD man scored "only" 62--but I think I was a little generous.

ETA: That was supposed to read 72.

[This message edited by solus sto at 7:55 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday)]

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WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
2 kids-DD25, DS18
multiple d-days
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Default  Posted: 10:19 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

I scored a 66 with XWH and a whopping FOUR with my current husband. Wow- what a difference.

To IndianDreams- whether your WH is in a fog or has a disorder, the question for YOU is how long are you willing to put up with being treated like this?

Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

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Default  Posted: 10:40 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

I took it based on my former relationship with xpos ans scored 44 in a range of 19 to 47. Xpos was very good at doing those things only to me. And i think some were a bit hard to answer exactly.

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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday)

I kept retaking it and playing with the answers and if you got more than three occasionallys, two often or one most of the time it put you into moderate risk. You could be into moderate risk just by having a relationship with someone thar jumped the "I love you" gun too fast.

If I turned around and took it from fWS point of view it would be moderate risk. I think the scoring on the higher end is more indicative.

Me: BS 45
Her: fWS 48 (same sex partner)
Together: 18 years now (both MDs)
OW: meh so what 40s PhD
DD1: 10/30/11EA; DD2: 11/10/11 Had ONS; TT until 12/26/11; broke NC 6/12; NC again 7/12; R-ish

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Default  Posted: 4:47 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday)

To IndianDreams- whether your WH is in a fog or has a disorder, the question for YOU is how long are you willing to put up with being treated like this?

I think Gabybaby makes a strong point. ^^^^^^^^^^^

The behaviors that these questions get to, are not healthy behaviors.

Me: BH 58.........Her: WW 45
DD: 8..........DS: 5
Married for six years.
DDay: 12-25-11 Divorced: 7-15-12
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Default  Posted: 8:21 AM, October 23rd (Wednesday)

The first time I took it based on pre-A behaviors and got a 66 :/. The second time a 5. It's been consistent for 5 1/2 months and am praying it stays that way!!!

Me (BS): 35
Him (fWS): 36
Married 16 years 6 kids ages 15-6
DDay #1 (EA) July '08
DDay #2 (EA/ONS- different OW) May 15, 2013

Finally this is R 8/14/13

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