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maddmurph
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

At the very least that I an answering like a person who has been.


Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3

Posts: 129 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: OH
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

Yeah....I was too.....


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

On my phone but wanted to add this has horrified my WH and part of the reason he is in IC is because he wants help. His mom abused him. The emotional abuse from him was not our whole marriage.


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
Lonelygirl10
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Member # 39850
Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

Yeah, my IC says the same thing. I wasn't receptive to that opinion. She described the cycle to me though where he gets distant, I beg, I explode, he apologizes, and then the honeymoon time before he gets distant again. I don't think emotional abuse is always intentional though. I think that someone's personality flaws can cause them to unintentionally emotionally abuse someone.


29 Bgf
Dday: April 2013
Relationship ended: January 2014

Posts: 1019 | Registered: Jul 2013
maddmurph
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Member # 40940
Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, October 22nd (Tuesday)

I don't think it's intentional. I'm not even sure she knows she is doing it. But that's one more thing for me to work through.


Me - BS, 33
Her - WW, 33
DS 7, DD 3

Posts: 129 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: OH
Topic Posts: 5