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User Topic: Mods: Request for clarification
topperoff22
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Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, October 25th (Friday)

I'm confused about what is allowed in reconciliation and what isn't. I thought reconciliation was for those who are ready to move forward, which is what you seem to suggest when you flagged my one post where I called WH a dumbass and AP a whore. So today I open up this forum to get encouragement and all I see is vent, after vent, after vent about "fucktards" and "assholes". Now, I agree with the sentiments of these posters because that's the way their WS are being....but..shouldn't that be in general? just curious i I am reading this wrong?


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

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SI Staff
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Member # 10
Default  Posted: 6:17 PM, October 25th (Friday)

The Reconciliation forum description states that there is no OP namecalling or venting in the R forum. Ups and downs are part of reconciliation, and it is not against the guidelines to vent about WSs in there.

If a BS is struggling in R, the R forum is the place to post about it, as long as it stays within the guidelines and forum description.


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topperoff22
Member
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 6:52 PM, October 25th (Friday)

OK, Great! Thank you for clarifying. So I was flagged for calling the OW a dirty name. HOwver, I find this forum counterproductive if it is for reconciliation but people are in here cursing about their spouses. Just an opinion but I understand about the ups and downs too. I will just skip those venting posts from now on. Unless it's my own.

ETA: I am one of those who curses about my WH so I am not throwing stones! Uh-uh!

[This message edited by topperoff22 at 6:53 PM, October 25th (Friday)]


BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

Posts: 316 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: US
HardenMyHeart
Member
Member # 15902
Default  Posted: 7:20 PM, October 25th (Friday)

it is not against the guidelines to vent about WSs in there.

I didn't realize that. Thanks for the clarification.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 7:26 PM, October 25th (Friday)]


Me: BH, Her: FWW - Long Term EA/PA
d-day: June 25, 2007
Married 30 years, Reconciled

Inner peace begins the moment you choose not to allow another person or event to control your emotions.


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