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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 6:36 PM, October 25th (Friday)

Well, fences are being climbed by the in laws as the XPervert stomps his way around with OW in tow. He's apparently not decided to wait until he's divorced and all of the world is being forced into her presence now.

I'm feeling a tad stronger as the rumor mill continues to go around and I hear of more people angry at him. I think he thought that people would just take what he's dishing, but I'm relieved to hear that they aren't. No matter what happens with my part, I'm glad to hear that some of them at least have values and morals still to question and be angry.

I know, I know it's not my business to think of anymore and am just waiting to get it out of my head, but it's as if the guy forgot his own upbringing and what a lot of the rest still believe.

I am greatful for the ones who are at least now, standing by my kids and I. One of them didn't even know the "real" story and actually gagged when I told her recently. And some of it went down at her own house...what amazes me anymore is how many lives he touched with it-no one was immune from the hurt and the terrible lies.

And I don't know if they know he lied between them, but I imagine it will come out someday. I don't care as much as I used to, just about the demise of his bubble and watching him lose face.

That will be the karma bus comin' around the mountain, for apparently many still don't know all of the twisted story.

And now with him dragging DD along, it added fuel to the fire and he will have them to deal with.

Thanks for the small rant.

And...I'm happy to say, the crickets are still singing.

I had told him that some of the behavior he was doing I couldn't tolerate and finally have been able to stop all contact, including any speaking to him.

It's very strange, but also, good.

ETA that people still try to say, "I truly didn't know" and I'm finally not caring as much. It feels lighter.

People are seeing who he's become as they are forced to meet her and not liking it either.

I also know that he'll just give them up and surround himself with others and try to fill his unreality again that way.

I think I would be too tired and I'm a bad liar because I forget what I told who.

[This message edited by Ashland13 at 6:39 PM, October 25th (Friday)]


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, October 25th (Friday)

It's human nature to want justice and I'm glad to see you watching as he starts to experience some negative judgement. We're all human and let's face it, it's satisfying to see their selfishness and stupidity judged harshly. Hugs Ashland.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

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Gemini71
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Default  Posted: 10:50 AM, October 26th (Saturday)

I really don't know how much faith you should place in the 'rumor mill.' If I haven't talked to someone directly, I assume they don't know my side of the story, and I assume I don't know theirs.

I am glad that your IL's are proving to be good people. It is truly amazing how many people get hurt by our WS's behavior.


Edited to correct stupid typos.

Two steps forward and one step backwards, is still progress.


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Ashland13
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, October 26th (Saturday)

Thanks for the replies.

Sure, I get what you mean about not putting much faith in it...these are people I did speak to directly and who spoke to him, for what that bit's worth.

One thing I notice and have read a little on SI with the subject, is that the in laws primarily left in touch and fueling the rumor mill are other "married in's" or "outlaws". Some haven't heard each side and are still hearing "my side" and are shocked.

Some had it happen right in their own homes and I find this is a deal breaker, but they don't know how to handle not meeting Ow as she's forced into the light.

I'm not supposed to wonder, but it makes me wonder again, what in hell kind of person is this? She is showing up at places and isn't wanted, so I'm told, but doing it anyway.

I could never.

And for the most part, I don't contact any of them. It's just brief portals of time anymore that this comes up and I think I'm going to start closing my ears again.

I think they, in general, are now processing it as I had to do?


Ashland 13

You gave me nothing and now it's all I've got - Bono

A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess

Perserverance and spirit have done wonders in all ages.

-George Washington


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