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918Mama
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Default  Posted: 11:04 PM, October 26th (Saturday)

H and I are separated and I'm trying to take the time and space for my own healing and recovery.

Most of the time I'm amazing.

Tonight was hard. Took the kids to a friend's house for a Halloween party. The same one we went to together last year with our brand new baby.

This time, it was just me. And that little baby is now a crazy one year old who is in to everything. And I have no husband to help me. I just felt so sad.

I know this too shall pass and I'm sure I won't be alone forever. But sometimes I just can't believe I'm here and alone and my family isn't together.

I wish I just knew how it will all work out.


Surrender to what is. Let go of what was. Have faith in what will be. -- Sonia Ricotti

Posts: 585 | Registered: Dec 2012
RavenWood
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Member # 39847
Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, October 27th (Sunday)

You're not alone. I'm without any Halloween fun this year. But then I thought back to last year and remembered how cold, disconnected, and disrespectful my stbxw was to me. I'm glad I'm not going through another year of that bullshit now that I know the truth.

So instead I picked up a old hobby and had a quiet and wonderful night by myself.

Hopefully you can find comfort with friends or a fun activity - try something you've never done before. Start a new holiday tradition for you and your kids.


BS: Me (30s)
WW: Her (30s)
10 year marriage with 2 small children.
Status: Divorced.
DDay: May 2013

Posts: 55 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: RavenWood
ladies_first
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Member # 24643
Default  Posted: 12:29 PM, October 27th (Sunday)

I wish I just knew how it will all work out.

The holidays will come -- and go -- every year. What new traditions are you "trying on for size?" Keep trying new traditions till you find those that make you and your child smile.

(((918Mama)))


"We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us." ~J. Campbell
"In the final analysis, it is your own attitude that will make or break you, not what has happened to you." ~D. Galloway

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