You're right, DCK,
I find myself doing the "Nod and Smile" often nowadays and not just with him.
I'm not one to put down something not true or that I can't prove, either.
It's not in my children's or my own best interest to lie.
What I learned over the year that's hard to put away in my head is that he apparently was lying about money for quite some time. To me, to creditors, to friends and family...he became a person who couldn't tell the truth and there's little comfort in knowing that OW doesn't get much truth either.
There's lingering pain in knowing that I fell for this, but he has a charm when he wants and takes a while for the blinders to come off.
People tell me nowadays that things about him bothered them but they couldn't put their finger on it. I suspect the narcissism and passive aggression, among other things. They explain a lot.
ETA, If I could, I would open a pub and call it "The Nod and Smile". With a picture of a middle finger on the sign.
Yep, the XPervert is not good at managing money or saving it and blames everyone else. He is blaming our house rather than the CS money he pays because of what he's done. He also rents a house with Fatty B and is trying to say that's not hurting his bills. Wha???
I suspect even after I'm dead, he'll find stuff to blame on me.
Such delusion and a new life built on lies. I couldn't stand it.Ashland 13
A person is a person, no matter how small. -Dr. Suess