Topic: Is it safe to assume
Member # 30853
| Posted: 7:48 PM, October 27th (Sunday)|
That when exWH seems pissy with me and acts like I'm an annoyance just because I send one text asking if the kids are ok for the night that it's not me? Is it safe to assume that he's pissy for some other reason, ie his bat shit crazy OW and the fact that there are four kids there all weekend, it's bad weather and there is all of about 1,000 square feet of total living space?
I sometimes automatically think, "fuck him. What did I do?". I guess I should knock that off and remember that his pissy attitude no longer has anything to do with me.
BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.
Posts: 2483 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 38122
| Posted: 8:48 PM, October 27th (Sunday)|
I sometimes automatically think, "fuck him. What did I do?".
That thought has one sentence too many. Change it to "fuck him" and that's all you need. You will never understand his motivations because you aren't an arsehole.
Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 10 and 13
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!
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Posts: 1341 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Ottawa, Ontario, Canada
Member # 33698
| Posted: 9:25 PM, October 27th (Sunday)|
Yep. It's safe to assume that he's a douchebag who doesn't want to spend another night sleeping with his kids in Tiny House. I'm sure that he's feeling pretty grumpy when he thinks about the house that you get to sleep in tonight!
BS (Me) 39
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley
Posts: 3383 | Registered: Oct 2011
Member # 36134
| Posted: 10:13 PM, October 27th (Sunday)|
He'll either get over it or die pissy-his choice.
Don't let his attitude ruin or affect your attitude. Go back to your regular happy disposition.
I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
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Posts: 4000 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
Member # 40726
| Posted: 9:08 AM, October 28th (Monday)|
Ignore the bastard. Don't let his bad attitude affect you.
Live life happy knowing he's not your problem anymore. He's a headache to some else.
Me: 48- BW
Him: 45-WH-chronic cheater, PA and EA
Current Her: Mid to late 30's fatassed, no necked, troglodyte
D Day: August 23, 2013
Separated: August 23, 2013
Posts: 52 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: Michigan
Member # 3703
| Posted: 9:46 AM, October 28th (Monday)|
It's safe to assume that he's a douchebag who doesn't want to spend another night sleeping with his kids in Tiny House. I'm sure that he's feeling pretty grumpy when he thinks about the house that you get to sleep in tonight! for sure! He gave up that beautiful house to live in the spare room of that shithole with that batshit crazy OW. Oh yeah, he hates his life every single day.
D-day OW#1 2/2004; R for 6 years; D-day OW#2 5/2010
Marriages that start this way, stepping over the bodies of loved ones as the giddy couple walks down the aisle, are not likely to last.
Posts: 2793 | Registered: Mar 2004 | From: NY
Member # 35229
| Posted: 3:11 PM, October 28th (Monday)|
That thought has one sentence too many.
Who gives a flying fuck if he's pissy? The sad clown is the moodiest biiiarrrrtch on the planet. Care Factor = Zero.
One of the good things about getting rid of these trashbags is we don't have to tolerate their moods.
If the contact is impacting you then I would reconsider contacting him. I know its hard - my girls were 4.5 and almost 2 when they first started spending 50% of their time away from me. It almost killed me. The sad clown had never put my little one to bed.
His misery is no longer any of your business. Take it from me - this is how they roll, doesn't matter what you do or don't do.
“If things start happening, don't worry, don't stew, just go right along and you'll start happening too.” -Dr Seuss
Posts: 4477 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
Member # 24210
| Posted: 3:21 PM, October 28th (Monday)|
I limit my exposure as much as possible with X. I think I have texted 5 times in 4 years and spoke on the phone 2 times.
The less opportunity we give people to shoot their guns at us, the less chance we get hit by that spray of buckshot.
When someone shows you their true colors, don't try to repaint them.
Posts: 1859 | Registered: May 2009 | From: Pa
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