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16forever
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Default  Posted: 1:23 AM, October 28th (Monday)

Does anyone feel like the sadness of being betrayed comes in waves sometimes iam super happy and sum times iam just sad I think lately I have been sad thinking of all that bull I guess trying real hard not to this morning in the shower I thought about the fact that my H had prolly slept with around 25 - 30 women 11 wich were while he was married and it made me sad how could someone do that to someone especially someone with my foo issues them tonight at work me and 2 other girls were talking and guess what .....They have had SO who cheated on them so while working we talked about the things that were said and done while their SO had cheated and a bit of my story came out they all said why did u stay and take him back I said idk I
love him

Them I got home and me and my H made love and I couldn't stop thinking about him having sex with all those women and the ones he paid for because he wasn't satisfied with me I was not enough . what do I do if it happens again or will it happen again he is being a very good H now but does that really mean he won't I mean 10 hookers and one AP were is My assurance ooo thats rite I don't have any other than his word wich was so good before rite so today was a wave of sadness/angry/reality check


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Him:WS
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HardenMyHeart
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Default  Posted: 1:52 AM, October 28th (Monday)

(((16forever))) So sorry for what you are going though.

I couldn't stop thinking about him having sex with all those women and the ones he paid for because he wasn't satisfied with me I was not enough

He has already slept with 25-30 woman so apparently no woman is good enough for him.

what do I do if it happens again

If it happens again, then you know this is who he is and you can assume you are in an open marriage. Then you must decide if this is how you want to live. If you don't want to share him with other women, than it is time to strongly consider divorce.

[This message edited by HardenMyHeart at 2:04 AM, October 28th (Monday)]


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16forever
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Default  Posted: 12:36 PM, October 28th (Monday)

Thanks HardenMyHeart I love coming here and feeling like people understand


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3 awesome kids

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