User Topic: He proposed !!
Member # 34915
Default  Posted: 10:55 AM, October 28th (Monday)

We are starting over you know WH popped the question again this weekend ... it warmed my heart..the new ring is beautiful ,but what he had to say was 10 times better .It hasn't been an Easy R there were a lots of up and downs but as I looked at him in the eyes and said yes again I knew it was all worth it.I mean not the heart break but just knowing that I still want to spend the rest of my life with him .On another stupid note I did something that nigh I've had quite much to drink and I just noticed that of all the ppls I texted it was the OW my message was pretty much his mine back off !! childish she did respond she was very happy whatever !! ( did i say she is a former BFF) anyway I am not sweating it .It sure does feel good to tell you all SI family ... but I still think I was stupid for texting her !! so Hang in there ,R is not an easy thing but if you WH or WW are realy sorry they can help you get through it ...if you guide them too .

Him: 51
OW: a monster that I called friend before
D-Day:June 20,2011

You made a fool out of me and she made a fool out of you

Posts: 141 | Registered: Feb 2012
Member # 28362
Default  Posted: 11:01 AM, October 28th (Monday)

So happy for you. I love success stories!!!


Posts: 828 | Registered: Apr 2010
Member # 18814
Default  Posted: 4:55 PM, October 28th (Monday)


Yes it's bad to have texted OW. That just means you have a lot more work to do on your end. You'll know what I'm talking about when you feel almost pity (with no anger) to the OW; indifference. In my case there were multiple. I did make sure though that NONE of them had an influence with how I am going to live my life or make my decision. I spend no thought on them; they are inconsequential.

Hugs your way.

Love is a choice.

True love is harder to come by than soul mates. True love requires work.

Ignorance can be cured with knowledge. There is no cure for being an idiot.

Posts: 927 | Registered: Mar 2008
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 6:58 PM, October 28th (Monday)

What an awesome post! I'm so happy for you both.

Posts: 35870 | Registered: Mar 2011
Member # 40462
Default  Posted: 9:09 AM, October 29th (Tuesday)


me, BW: 34
FWH: 35
Dday: Feb 2013
LTA for 2+years
children: 2 boys age 3 and 6

Posts: 380 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: nova Scotia, Canada
Member # 35812
Default  Posted: 3:34 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I''m really happy for you!

Imagine a ship trying to set sail while towing an anchor. Cutting free is not a gift to the anchor. You must release that burden, not because the anchor is worthy, but because the ship is.

D-Day, June 10, 2012

Posts: 4926 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: So California
Member # 30877
Default  Posted: 7:31 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Congrats to you both!

D-Day 10/28/10..almost admission 7/10 Reconciled. I was the betrayed

Posts: 1203 | Registered: Jan 2011 | From: arizona
Member # 40762
Default  Posted: 9:38 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Great positive story. You slipped up on contacting the OW but it pales in comparison to the awesome news! Keep moving forward! This is so encouraging!

BS - Me 36
WS - Him 35 (almost 36)
Child: son, 6; just learned one on way
DDAY - July 24, 2013 (thousands spent on ex girlfriend)
DDAY2 -Aug. 3, 2013 (proof he slept with her)
R is slow going after TT for 1 month

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