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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, October 28th (Monday)

As you know I have to go to court in a couple of days and I had major surgery 2 weeks ago. Dr advised me not to go, but I must, no lawyer, no $ for lawyer.

I get my hair colored every 7 weeks. Tonight is my appointment. It would be a miracle if I could sit for 1.5 hours to have it done. But I will see STBXH at court.

I have decided to not have my hair done. What do I care what my STBXH thinks about my hair! My comfort and health are now more important than what he thinks I look like.

Its a baby step but I will take it.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 747 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, October 28th (Monday)

((((Must Survive)))) Sending you healing mojo and strength for court.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25337 | Registered: Aug 2011
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, October 28th (Monday)

Its a baby step but I will take it.

They are all baby steps - then you notice you're a lot further down the road than you thought you were.

I find myself dressing down on the rare occasion that I am forced to see the sad clown. I do not want him thinking I am dressing up for him.

I know it is not ideal but I am sure a court would grant an extension if you had a letter from your doctor. Unless it is just a rubber stamp session? If not then you really don't want to be in chronic pain if you need your wits about you. There was a lot of sitting around on my court day.

Good luck in court and good luck with your surgery.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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