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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 11:12 AM, October 28th (Monday)

As you know I have to go to court in a couple of days and I had major surgery 2 weeks ago. Dr advised me not to go, but I must, no lawyer, no $ for lawyer.

I get my hair colored every 7 weeks. Tonight is my appointment. It would be a miracle if I could sit for 1.5 hours to have it done. But I will see STBXH at court.

I have decided to not have my hair done. What do I care what my STBXH thinks about my hair! My comfort and health are now more important than what he thinks I look like.

Its a baby step but I will take it.


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 590 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, October 28th (Monday)

((((Must Survive)))) Sending you healing mojo and strength for court.


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22572 | Registered: Aug 2011
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:06 PM, October 28th (Monday)

Its a baby step but I will take it.

They are all baby steps - then you notice you're a lot further down the road than you thought you were.

I find myself dressing down on the rare occasion that I am forced to see the sad clown. I do not want him thinking I am dressing up for him.

I know it is not ideal but I am sure a court would grant an extension if you had a letter from your doctor. Unless it is just a rubber stamp session? If not then you really don't want to be in chronic pain if you need your wits about you. There was a lot of sitting around on my court day.

Good luck in court and good luck with your surgery.


Sending all of the love and strength I can muster to Phoenix1 and her family.
"Death leaves a heartache no one can heal, love leaves a memory no one can steal."

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