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User Topic: 2nd Antiversary today.
OktoberMest
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Default  Posted: 3:18 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I'm happy today.

I have to admit that's a weird thing to say given that today is the 2nd antiversary for our first Dday, but it's true.

We've both been triggery this month as Dday approaches - possibly me more than him to be honest, it's like I've been waiting for the big fall out.

I woke up today and LH said "happy antiversary". I looked up a little disconcerted waiting for the sarcastic hit, but he was serious. We discussed it and I asked how he was feeling.

Some of you may remember that date were a massive thing for LH; them and my lack of ability to remember them.

But today he said to me on the way to work: you know I don't feel any different today than yesterday. I mean I'm a bit triggery about the tie of year; but the date thing really doesn't get to me anymore.

Er HUGE DEAL people. I mean HUGE!!! I couldn't believe the change LH has gone through, we have gone through in the last year.

Sure we have work to do. Of course we are not "over this". But we have the trust and verify relationship well under control. Our boundaries are solid and I he even told me he feels safe with me.

He rang me from work today and sked if I'd like to go out and do something nice. I felt so loved. I suggested we went for dinner, so we did. And it was lovely.

I told him afterwards I felt awkward about asking him if he wanted to do anything today, because he was a little non committal a few weeks ago when I mentioned it, and I didn't want to push it. I believe the BS has to decide how they would like to handle the antiversary.. last year Lh just wanted me to leave it alone. This year I thought it might be the same, but no.

He told me next year, I should plan something for us to do.

I didn't know if we'd get here, and I certainly never thought we'd get here by the 2nd year.

I'm so proud of LH. I'm so sad I ever hurt him and jeopardised our M.
What an idiot.

Love you LH. x


Me: FWW (35) Growing up at last.
LonelyHusband: BH (41)
Dday 1: 29/Oct/11; Dday 2:15/Nov/11; last TT 15/Mar/12
In R...working my arse off.
When you're struggling with commitment to your marriage, just imagine what it's like to be a penguin.

Posts: 558 | Registered: Dec 2011 | From: UK
LosferWords
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Default  Posted: 3:54 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

It's really nice when an antiversary is acknowledged, but passes relatively uneventfully. I'm glad you and LH have made so much progress. Thanks for the update.

Posts: 7481 | Registered: Dec 2010
Reegz
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Happy  Posted: 4:00 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Wow! That's great. I'm glad you and your husband are doing well! Kudos to you for putting in the effort and working on it.


Me: 40 BH
Her: 36 WW
Clues Discovered - EA - May/June 2013.
D-Day - Confirmation of EA and discovery of PA - August 20, 2013.
4 to 5 month affair.
We are in recovery. Taking it a day a time.

Posts: 45 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: New York
ShatteredOpal
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Member # 27467
Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Same here, within days of you.. The month or so has been trigger for us as well.

I'm so glad you had a happy day!! Good for you and LH!

After this one I'm hoping to get to a good place to have a timeline burning.


BW-47, married 24 years, together 27
WH-49, has LTEA w/ExGF, 25 years (minor PA)
Final no contact 4-2010
2nd A- 10-1-11 through 11-3-11
D-day 11-3-11 through 11-6-11
PA- mainly kissing until the last night when they had sex.
R- so far so good

Posts: 220 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Pacific Northwest
Aubrie
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Default  Posted: 6:00 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Been wondering how y'all have been doing. Great to see a good update.


Me - FWW * Him - QuietStand

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - J. Wayne

"What if I fall?" Oh but my darling, what if you fly?


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