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tesla
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Default  Posted: 7:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Sorry it's so long -- but do be sure to read the very end.

First-- thank you to everyone that sent me mojo, well wishes, and good thoughts. I re-read that thread several times in the court parking lot before going inside. I needed to feel like there were people in my corner because I was very nervous. Thank you.

I was waiting outside the courtroom on the one freaking bench in the lobby. Of course ex-shat comes up with stripper-whore.

Yes, he brought stripper whore.

Now, I would love for you all to get this mental image: I am dressed professionally - pencil skirt, heels, my favorite shade of blue button up fitted shirt. Her bleach bottle blond hair is teased out..she's in tight jeans and tight top...her make-up is all sorts of whore. She looks like white trash. He has a pair of jeans on with a rip in the ass pocket. He's wearing a black, long-sleeved t-shirt. I cannot imagine that the judge's subconcious was not informed by this picture.

Anyway, these fuckers sit down on the bench too. Sigh.

My lawyer arrives a couple of minutes later and she takes me to a conference room. Her face is clearly baffled that he is actually showing up and that he is actually going to attempt to present an argument.

Ok, so we go into the courtroom and the court recorder (reporter?) has to tell stripper whore to go sit back in the gallery since she is not a party to the case. Poor girl was confused as to how to get through the swinging gate. Court recorder's face was like, OMG

Anyway, I get to testify. Pretty straight forward...L asks me leading questions so the answer is just, "Yes."

And then ex-shat gets a chance to ask me questions. "Oh my fucking god," I was thinking to myself, and then I visualized all of you sitting around stripper whore saying, "FTG and the stripper-whore he rode in on."

He starts asking me about deposits made before our D decree. My lawyer objects...he tries two more times to do this. My lawyer objects again. The judge has to explain to him that this hearing is governed by the orders in the decree...anything before the decree has NO BEARING on this case. This would become a recurring theme for the next fucking hour.

So then this fucker starts asking me about child support deposits he made after the decree but before he had CS through the state set up. He was trying to get me to agree that those deposits were pre-payment of the tax refund
Yeah, nothing there buddy.
Then he starts trying to get me to agree that he had the intent to pay me and clear his debts.
I actually had no idea what to say to this. So the two times he was trying to get me to say this, I said, "You said you would pay me."

At that point, my L got to question me again and she entered into evidence the text from April 2013 (well after these CS deposits he claims were pre-payments of the refund) where he says that he is about to bring to balance Teslet's CS (he was behind by a few months at that point) and pay me 1/2 the tax refund.

Ex-shat claims this text is out of context and part of a larger dialogue The judge cuts him off and asks if he has any more questions for me. He says no and then he takes the stand.

He tries again to bring up the deposits BEFORE the D...at least 2 or 3 more times this happens. He also said that we were divorced in Sept of 2012...it was actually on his birthday in November of 2012. The judge actually takes a few minutes to point out the true date of the D. The court recorder looks at me like, "oh my fucking god."

The judge then asks if he has anything else to add. He starts pontificating how he said he would never leave me 'languishing.' That he always pays his debts. That even when this came up that he offered to give me a couple of thousand dollars if I needed it, that I just had to call him.

There were a lot of other strange, contradictory, non-sensical statements. I can't remember them at this point...the ones above were the ones that stuck out to me.

Judge says he's taking it under advisement and will send his decision. L told me not to worry about that...she says that often times a judge will do this when one of the parties is unrepresented and they are concerned about the reaction to an immediate decision.

I'm pretty damn sure that this is falling my way.

My brother just called me, he said out of curiosity he checked stripper whore's facebook. Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

I can't fucking believe that he actually proposed to her


This dude is the stupidest mother fucker alive.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:24 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

OHMYFUCKINGGOD!

I wish them every last drop of happiness they deserve.

You have SO got this, tesla. Holy cats, he's an idjit.


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Default  Posted: 7:26 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Glad it's over, Tesla. You'll be fine.


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On so many men who would have loved you more" -Cath, DCFC

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Default  Posted: 7:27 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Good for you Tesla! Sounds like you did great. I can't believe you have the self control to come face to face with stripper whore at your own divorce hearing and not have the urge to rip her head off. Or maybe his. They sound like a real class act! Karma is that they have eachother, yuck!


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Default  Posted: 7:28 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Priceless. Absolutely priceless, Tesla. I love the image of classy you against the train wreck the two of them represented.

When my XWH protested the hard facts of the courtroom, the judge had no patience. I'll never forget the scorn of the judge and how great it was to watch.

Applause for you, jeers for X and Co.


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Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

yes !!! he does not sound like the sharpest tool in the shed. That is actually better for you. It sounds like court went well from what I hear. good for you. I have mine tomorrow. It is extremely nerve racking. As far as him proposing to a stripper, I know it hurts and I am sorry , but you know how that story will end!!!! stay strong and be well.


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Housefulloflove
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Default  Posted: 7:37 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I bet he feels really impressed with his performance in court. Idiots like him live in a parallel universe that should be named "Opposite World".

The timing of the proposal is a coincidence I'm sure. He would never use her in a pathetic attempt to get back at you. Nooo..not a stand-up guy like that!

If he had a working brain he'd realize that every single move he has made has shown how deep his rottenness goes.


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3 beautiful young children
DDay 1/20/13 Admits PA
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I've been following your story a looooonngg time. I remember when you posted about the "tax refund prepayments" when they happened and how you knew it was going to come to this some day. I have always admired how you always have held your head up and taken the high road, and come back here to tell us how you really feel through all of this.

Judge says he's taking it under advisement and will send his decision. L told me not to worry about that...she says that often times a judge will do this when one of the parties is unrepresented and they are concerned about the reaction to an immediate decision.

Aw, snap. That and the fact he brought a date to the court room who couldn't figure out a swinging door. Yeah, I'd be worried about the reaction too if I were the judge. You SO got this!

Congratulations! You did awesome!


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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

Oh my God!


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Default  Posted: 7:45 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

He starts pontificating how he said he would never leave me 'languishing.' That he always pays his debts. That even when this came up that he offered to give me a couple of thousand dollars if I needed it, that I just had to call him.

He admits this, and yet will not catch up with what is owed? Yep. You have this in the bag.

Ex-shat proposed to her this weekend. She's got a pretty little ring. She posted pictures of my son with the caption, "My future step-son."

It is good that you can laugh at this turn of events. I know that in some ways, especially the "future step-son" part, this may hurt if not, makes you a bit angry. Either way, know that you are the bestest mommy in the world.

tesla, I have followed your journey since you joined SI. You have shown admirable strength, wisdom and maturity.

Raising my glass to you...and FTG!


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Default  Posted: 7:46 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
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to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Good grief. Is it because of Halloween? Does the time of year have some mystical sway over all of these ex-shats who have suddenly gone bonkers!?!?

Tesla, sounds like you did good, and your ex happily and stupidly dug his own grave (to continue with the Halloween theme). I can't believe he proposed to Half a Brain Cell; maybe if they get married, they can put their two halves together to make... uh... wait, that's probably too difficult a math question for them.

Send me some leftover legal mojo if you have any to spare; I'm hoping to get my XWH in line by way of my attorney if necessary!


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It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

You rock!!!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4, together 7yrs total
Status - ??

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids - 4 dogs, 2 cats

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

FTG! What a total tool. Defies the logic of all that is natural.

(((tesla)))

Hope the adrenalin crash comes at bedtime.


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FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
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S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Default  Posted: 7:55 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Love it Tesla. Just love it. Cheers to you and continued strength.


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Default  Posted: 7:56 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I can't fucking believe that he actually proposed to her
What a romantic story! I am trying to cast the film version in my head. I love the minor character of the court reporter - you tell it so vividly.

You did excellently, although it was a bit like running a thoroughbred against two sloths.

Congratulations! I hope the judge hands down his decision soon.


Me: BS, 40's.

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

So he had money to buy her a ring, but not enough to get decent pants for court?

I'm glad it went your way.

[This message edited by SI Staff at 9:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I love hearing about your ex-shat. It's almost as satisfying I imagine watching a train crash into a fuel tanker would be. What a mess that guy is.

I almost feel badly for stripper whore. She sounds like she's about as smart as the dumber of my two dogs.


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Default  Posted: 8:40 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Sounds like it went great. Isn't the high road a wonderful road to take.

Telet will be so proud of you.
We sure are!


BS: Me (63yo)
FWH: HIM (65yo) serial infidelities over past 35 years
OW: Many, most recent 1/2 his age
DD: Multiple unconfirmed until 2012 when I presented evidence, plus LTA with his friends wife lasting 10 years. TT over past year
So done,

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Default  Posted: 8:49 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I've been waiting all day for this update, and you did not disappoint. Even better than expected. Great job -- you are amazing!

I wish they could award punitive damages in family court because I'm sure you'd be getting some for having to put up with him!


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Married: 11 years, no kids

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Default  Posted: 8:54 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Yep. You got this one. Poor him.... NOT!


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Default  Posted: 8:58 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

He chews on those pre-divorce deposits like a dog on a bone.

The visual of their appearance is rather mind-blowing. The simple fact that she showed up is disgusting. His rampant stupidity is sad, frankly.

I'm sure the judge delayed delivering the opinion for exactly the reason that your attorney gave.

Good for you for the bravery and intelligence of your performance.

The engagement? Oh how lovely for both of them. I'm sure the ring is financed and he will be paying for it long after they have split up - and she will keep the ring!

Now go relax


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Default  Posted: 9:01 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

OW should have token notes on your stellar performance because she is going to be in the exact same position in a few years.

Seriously, those two gutter trash deserve each other.

Dear god, hopefully you won't have to deal with OW in her new position as wifetress. I've been lucky enough to not have to deal with XH's wifetress.

You rock Tesla. Never forget that.


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Default  Posted: 9:10 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

The fact that he did not have a lawyer, & the way they dressed to come to court, will be held against them.
It sounds like you did great. We are all proud of you.


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D Day: 5/10/2011 PA
OW: WH's co-worker,divorced, no children, 20 yrs younger than I-----& she knew he was married, had met our kids, but that did not stop her from trying to destroy our family

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Default  Posted: 9:26 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

You are my hero Tesla.

FTG


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ruinedandbroken
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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

lol. What a complete train wreck he is! It's actually quite comical!


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Default  Posted: 9:31 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

That he always pays his debts.

So not only is he an idiot, he's a Lannister. Bully for him.

Deep breaths. It's over. I'm proud of you.


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tesla
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Default  Posted: 10:02 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Thank you everyone.

On my second glass of wine. Very happy this is over.

I think what I've realized is that my new life is truly blessed. I have moved on. Ex-shat is an ugly, pathetic excuse of a man. I felt nothing for him but disdain and sympathy.

Yes, it bothers me that they will try to get Teslet to call stripper-whore 'step-mom.' But fuck that shit...
That bitch ain't got nothing on me. And my kid knows it.

So here's to ex-shat and stripper-whore...I wish them all the happiness they deserve. May their drama always be epic and their stupidity continue to guide their path together.

[This message edited by tesla at 10:03 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)]


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hexed
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Default  Posted: 10:38 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

oh holy hell! he wasted an hour of your life with this crap? I figured he'd be done in 15 minutes. UGGGH!

ummm....'wishes to the future mr. stripper whore'


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

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Default  Posted: 10:59 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

So here's to ex-shat and stripper-whore...I wish them all the happiness they deserve

*Cheers*


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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Default  Posted: 11:14 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

So glad for you that this is over, but man oh man, what you had to go through. Sounds like you maintained total coolness though. And ex-shat definitely showed what a moron he is. So sorry that you are still knee deep in this shit.


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Default  Posted: 11:19 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

I can't believe 1) stripper-whore showed up with him, 2) the way they were dressed! and 3) she went right up front with him! (then couldn't find her way back ) While you were classy, appropriately dressed for respect of the court and had your act together (as always).

Well, I really should be able to believe those things about them! And congrats to them on showing everyone their "lurve is real".

When the decision comes down, he only has his L to blame!

Mojo to TheFly and trying for their encounters.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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Default  Posted: 11:25 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

then I visualized all of you sitting around stripper whore saying, "FTG and the stripper-whore he rode in on

You're just. So. Awesome.

Our mojo donations were well spent. You totally OWNED that pos today!


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Him: Someone else's problem

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Default  Posted: 11:45 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Wait till stripper-whore finds out that she'll need to hawk her ring so that he can pay you the money he owes you. (Not that $20 dollars or however much a cracker jack box costs is going to get him very far.)

Thanks for the update. I actually scooted my chair closer to the monitor and got comfortable before clicking on it.

Oh, and that idiot having trouble with the gate while getting her ass sent to the back of the room? Epic.


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Default  Posted: 11:55 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Love, love, love this update. I really love how he could afford a ring for stripper whore but not to pay you what he owes. Wonder if you should show the post to your L and she could submit it to the record before the judge makes a final ruling.


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Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
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Default  Posted: 11:56 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

Wow Tesla, you write quite the riveting narrative. Well worth the popcorn. Have you thought about becoming a writer?

Your description of the hearing reminds me of the story of the 'Man Who Came Unarmed to a Battle of Wits.'


Edited to correct stupid typos.

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ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 11:59 PM, October 29th (Tuesday)

her make-up is all sorts of whore.

Love that visual


I'm so glad your sweet little Teslet has you. The lack of class/dignity over the there is just astounding..


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solus sto
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Default  Posted: 12:03 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Anyone remember Nick Tortelli and his bimbo from Cheers?

In my mind, Stripper Whore is Nick Tortelli's bimbo-cum (no pun intended )-wifetress. The swinging door visual just cemented this.

What a pair.

I'm glad you're no part of that pair. 'Cause you're no Tortelli.


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WH (Trac-fone), 53, PD
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multiple d-days
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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 12:11 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

So they show up looking like white trash while Tesla looks like Tesla:

And then, ohmagaw, Stripper Whore get's ordered back to the gallery & cannot manage the swinging door:

Then exShat won't get off the subject of stuff from before the decree:

And then he doesn't remember when he got divorced:

And then come to find out he's going to make an honest woman out of Stripper Whore:

And we round it out with her calling Teslet her future step-son:

Thank you for sharing, Tesla!

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 12:12 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)]


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Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
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Default  Posted: 12:27 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Truth is stranger than fiction; when are you going to write the screenplay?


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Default  Posted: 3:14 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

You had me at:

He has a pair of jeans on with a rip in the ass pocket.



Of course he proposed honey, we all know that legitimises their relationship. She must be thrilled to have someone to show her how to use a turnstile. And someone who holds the sanctity of marriage in such high regard. Oh, wait.....

Far out - imagine entering into an M with someone who cheated on their spouse with you? Doesn't that mean there's an OW position opening up?

Great news mamma - thanks for the update. Cake walk.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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Default  Posted: 5:11 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

What a fucking train wreck those two make! My favorite part was that she got hung up on the swinging door in the courtroom - theres nothing better than that one!

They come to together to show some sort of white trash unity and they got slapped ack at every turn.

My popcorn is ready for both the judges decision and the WT wedding, which will likely be full of daisy dukes, CFM red heels, and green jell-o molds.


BW - me
ExWH - "that one"
D - 2011
You get what you put in, and people get what they deserve.
Hard as it may be, try to never give the OP any of your power or head space.

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Default  Posted: 5:44 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Nature girl your video rocks!!!!!!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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Default  Posted: 6:02 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

So not only is he an idiot, he's a Lannister. Bully for him.

Oh that made me laugh.

Way to fight the good fight Tesla. And we all know the chidren figure out who the real parent is in the end.

DS is 12 and never once asks to call his dad after an important event in his life, however he does frequently want to tell my BF everything. They catch on quick.

Thanks for the update, it was sad and funny all at the same time.


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

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Default  Posted: 6:10 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Tesla, you are so amazing. Wish I could have been there to see all of this.
Stripper whore and the gate must have been priceless!
Looking forward the hearing about the judgement.
The epic saga continues !


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Default  Posted: 6:24 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I guess stripper whore hasn''t been keeping up with her episodes of Judge Judy to understand how those swinging gates work

I''m glad this is over for you. I sense a positive ruling from the judge in your very near future.


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Default  Posted: 6:58 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I don't know how you didn't respond that you can't trust a cheater who steals dogs to pay you what is owed.

You have much more restraint than I have.


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Default  Posted: 7:10 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

It must be an Indiana thing.

My ex brought his mistress to our divorce. And they had on matching apparel of ripped jeans, filthy work boots, and camp hunting hoodies (but, her was pink, because she's a lady, don'tcha know?) Then, spent a good amount of time harping on the fact that he had bought me a cell phone a couple months before, and it was $300 and I was supposed to accept that as payment of back support and I was a liar if I didn't admit this. Yeah, Dude, you are the one who FORCED me to go through the court system for CS, and the paperwork clearly says, if it doesn't go through the CS office, it is a gift. Not my fault you can't read.

They broke up like, a month later though, so maybe that can be an Indiana thing as well?


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Default  Posted: 8:22 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Wow Tesla, Sounds like you got this sister.

In the meantime have you checked their registry to see what you can get them, perhaps some more lead based paint?


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Default  Posted: 8:23 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Was he dropped on his head as a child? What an idiot. Dodged a bullet there, Tesla. Congratulations on what will most likely be a big win for YOU!


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Default  Posted: 9:13 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I'm surprised stripperwhore couldn't figure out something that swings out to open. Like her legs.


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Default  Posted: 9:22 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Please tell me stripper whore was cracking gum the whole time.

Looks like you're going to win twice - this hearing and he'll soon officially be someone else's problem.

For. Like. EVER.

Nicely done.


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Default  Posted: 9:24 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Thank you for sharing this Tesla. You have shown true integrity and they showed themselves for what they are. Although I know it still stings that she posted that pic about Teslet, just keep in mind the whole picture that you wrote for us and be glad that you are rid of the asshole!!! You actually escaped from the fire!!

Brava!! I hold you in awe and an inspiration of what to do!


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Default  Posted: 9:39 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

So he had money to buy her a ring, but not enough to get pants that didn't show the window to his soul?

ok this made coffee squirt out my nose! Painful but worth it!


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Default  Posted: 9:41 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Tesla - Congrats!!

I had a feeling that he would marry her to piss you off though - with the whole 'are you going to let stripper-whore' pick up teslet issue.....

What a piece of work.


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Default  Posted: 9:56 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I'm surprised stripperwhore couldn't figure out something that swings out to open. Like her legs.

This awesome thread is full of awesomeness!


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Default  Posted: 11:48 AM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I read it over again this morning and it's even funnier today!

Stripper whore and the gate must have been priceless!

Can't wait for the movie to see your reaction to that little incident. I bet Teslet would have really laughed if he had been there. He could have shown her how it works! He's smart like his Momma.


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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I almost feel badly for stripper whore. She sounds like she's about as smart as the dumber of my two dogs.

Please retract this comment sir. It is an insult to dogs everywhere...


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Default  Posted: 6:13 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I feel like ex-shat and stripper whore are a meme that end up taking on this weird life of their own.

NG, the videos are priceless.

Anybody ever seen MST3K? I'm a huge fan. I picture all the comments of this thread as you guys sitting in the movie theatre (extra buttery popcorn please) watching the 'movie' of this farce I went through yesterday.

I need to write a book about these fools. It's better than anything I could make up.

No decision listed on the court website yet.

Ex-shat texted today asking if Teslet is in daycare...I assume he would like to pick him up...or send his bitch to get his son. I'll eventually get back to him and remind him that we are following the guidelines now, please refer to those. Teslet is no longer in extended daycare.

What I would love to text him:
Wow, you were a fucking disaster in court. I'm embarassed that I ever thought you had any ounce of logical reasoning. Hope stripper whore was able to give you good enough head to make you feel like a man again...cause I'm pretty fucking sure I walked out of the court room holding your balls.

Bad Tesla!! Bad Tesla!!! Do not indulge your dark, evil side.

[This message edited by tesla at 6:14 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:32 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Wow, you were a fucking disaster in court. I'm embarrassed that I ever thought you had any ounce of logical reasoning. Hope stripper whore was able to give you good enough head to make you feel like a man again...cause I'm pretty fucking sure I walked out of the court room holding your balls.

Please send and post his reaction!

[This message edited by Bebba1171 at 6:34 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 6:51 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Wow, he's a douche!


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Default  Posted: 7:06 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Makes you wonder what passes for logic in his beady-little brain, lol! Tesla, you rock!


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Default  Posted: 7:17 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

This is awesome. I love MST3K also, and can almost hear ex-shat speaking in Crow T Robot's voice....
Stripper whore- "I have come to worship Uranus"
Crow/ Ex-shat- "Oh, thank you very much"...

[This message edited by welcome14 at 7:19 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)]


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Default  Posted: 7:18 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

Hope stripper whore was able to give you good enough head to make you feel like a man again...cause I'm pretty fucking sure I walked out of the court room holding your balls.

You. Are. Killing. Me!!!


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Default  Posted: 7:23 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

What I would love to text him:
Wow, you were a fucking disaster in court. I'm embarassed that I ever thought you had any ounce of logical reasoning. Hope stripper whore was able to give you good enough head to make you feel like a man again...cause I'm pretty fucking sure I walked out of the court room holding your balls.


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