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sunsetslost
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Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 11:03 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

I spent 163 minutes on the phone today. I had to cancell a credit account I've had since 2001. I had to transfer a shit ton of auto payments. I drained my checking account to pay it to zero. I felt like an ass for a bit. "Why am I busting my ass to give her a house with thirty thousand dollars in equity?" I kept asking myself. I had to do this because the dumb ass finance company won't accept my proof that STBX has no ownership of the account. I woke up. I'm not giving her shit. Just six figure debt. She can have the house. I'm sacrificing money and pride for an end game. To be free. Free. My life will be so simplified. So peaceful. Me, rather than we.


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 770 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:20 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

(((HUGS))))

It truly is a physical effort sometimes to shift the balance in your mind.


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9813 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
sunsetslost
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Member # 39885
Default  Posted: 11:31 PM, October 30th (Wednesday)

It is NG. It's exhausting. Not just the work I'm doing on the refi but the emotions are draining. But I know it's a means to freedom. Thank you


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 770 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 3:09 AM, October 31st (Thursday)

But I know it's a means to freedom.

It so is. Like cutting your way out of a brambly, viney nightmare - chopping down each vine as you move towards the light. In your case, the ocean.

Your freedom is worth so much more than you're walking away from. Trust me on this.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

Posts: 5608 | Registered: Apr 2012 | From: Australia
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