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WontStop
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Default  Posted: 12:35 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Hello all,

Sorry I've not been around much, but I've been moving on with my life. About three weeks ago I was fully divorced from my now Ex. I'm very glad it's over and I am already well on my way to a new life. I've bought a new home, got a promotion, got a certification , and have a steady relationship with a wonderful and loving woman.

It still surprises me how I can sometimes get those sad feelings. My coworker knows my wife and let me know at a lunch I held for my team that my ex now officially dating her boyfriend out in public. I am now with a woman who treats me so well with positive motivation and thoughtful gestures. I have discovered that my Ex was really not a great partner, as she was very selfish, abused me throughout our marriage, and is proving to be lazy as she does so much less with the kids now that I am gone. Even so, I had a moment of sadness when I realized we were apart now living separate lives. I'm very happy with my life right now, more than when I was married, frankly. I just don't get why I would still feel bad about my old marriage being over. Weird, huh?


D-Day 5/18/2012
Me-42 WW-46
D-13 S-9
Status: Divorced

Posts: 223 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Northern Virginia
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 12:37 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Congratulations on your New Beginning.


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 52199 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 1:48 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Not weird, WontStop - absolutely normal and human. It's a life-changing thing you went through. No small impact, that one. Of course the scars are going to twinge now and again.

Congratulations on your New Beginning.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


Posts: 25316 | Registered: Aug 2011
Shockleader
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Member # 36827
Default  Posted: 11:33 AM, November 1st (Friday)

Congrats WS on your NB!

I am now with a woman who treats me so well with positive motivation and thoughtful gestures. I have discovered that my Ex was really not a great partner, as she was very selfish, abused me throughout our marriage...

I know EXACTLY how you feel! Amazing what a little thoughtful, UNSELFISH support can do... Damn nice feeling ain't it, and all you/I/we want to do is reciprocate it in a circle of giving that grows stronger. Your feelings are hardly weird, I'd think it weird if they did not pop up at some point.


D-Day spring 2012
Me BS 47
Xcheater 44
One DD 19
Married 23 years
Divorced 12/23/13 Fu*king A!

The cruel, the unkind, those without honor, feast on the tender heart...


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