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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 2:46 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Anyone else working on their Christmas shopping lists? Im ploughing through mine. Mostly I now have to buy for the two little GD and a couple of friends. Am I the only OCD early bird on SI? I shop early because I cant stand shopping in crowdsthe waiting in line (and subsequent sweating ion my winter coat) drives me bonkers.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

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ascian
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Default  Posted: 3:02 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

We usually get started after Halloween. There's some stuff we pick up as we find it over the summer, but mostly it's after Halloween that our thoughts turn to gifts.

That said, for the last couple of years we've done most of our shopping online. Between sites like Etsy or Shapeways, we can get a lot of unique items for our friends and family, and the convenience of the bigger sites like Amazon makes the rest much easier.


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ExposedNiblet
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Default  Posted: 3:12 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Glad to hear I'm not alone!

Actually, TBH, I'm almost done all my shopping.

I started a little past Easter and bought an item or 2 every month. I find it's easier to do it that way and take advantage of periodic sales than waiting till November (or December) and going full throttle.

Next week, I start decorating the house.

Merry Christmas!


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 3:13 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Luckily everyone I buy for is thrilled with a check.

Works for me.

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Rebreather
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

I love Christmas so much. I've been pinning ideas like crazy. And yes, been working on my gift lists and have purchased a few small things. My Amazon cart has several items in it. Of course one thing my dd asked for very specifically seems to not actually exist. Hate that!


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 3:17 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

My son will freak over the VIP Toronto Maple Leafs home game tickets. I need to buy a puck to make the wrapped package heavy so he doesn't guess something like this. I think I will paint it with the words "The puck stops here!"


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 3:26 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

I am about two thirds finished. We're going away December 13th, and my husband has finals the week before and with all the regular stuff and holiday stuff I'd like to be done by December 1st so I'm not crazy with things to do.



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Default  Posted: 3:53 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Last night DD showed me a tshirt that she wants for xmas. So I asked her what else she wanted (she is 16). She said in a semi-joking manner "I want a chance to go to college" (she is in full college mode in HS right now).

So I said "You already have that". And then I paused and said hopefully "So does that mean I am off the hook for xmas??"

She was not amused

So yeah, except for one tshirt I have no clue what to get her or anybody else


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Default  Posted: 4:20 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

I've got a good portion of mine finished as well.
I like starting early. It is a lot easier on my wallet to do it in small nibbles rather than in one big chunk.


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abbycadabby
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Default  Posted: 4:37 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

ME!!!

I'm done buying for DS and SO. I got my mom a big something and need to get a little something else for her. A few other people and I'll be done!

I'm super happy about it because I really hate the crowds and the traffic. Bah humbug.

[This message edited by abbycadabby at 4:38 PM, October 31st (Thursday)]


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sullymeishadomi
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Default  Posted: 6:46 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Trust me, youre not the only one. There have been lots of online shopping lately...and big boxes (not by me...I am procrastinating on my very small list)


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gahurts
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Default  Posted: 7:58 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

I don't even think about Christmas shopping until after Thanksgiving. And it's fun being in all the crowds, with the decorations and Santa and Christmas music playing.


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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

Back in August, I had DD and my nephew go onto Amazon to make a wish list. It made shopping for them easier. They knew they wouldn't get everything, but it gave me lots of choices.

So far, I have a chunk of DD's gifts. I am done shopping for my nephew and half done with mom's.


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sadtoo
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Default  Posted: 10:52 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

I'm almost finished too.

I go way overboard at Christmas. Not with gifts, with decorating. I put up trees in almost every room. They all have themes. (I already have three up ) The outside of the house is decorated and looks like a gingerbread house.

We're crazy. Wait. I'm crazy. DH tolerates me.

DH went to Walmart for me the other night to get me some clear lights for one of the trees. The checkout clerk looked at him and said, "I'm sorry..."
DH said, "You have no idea. This is nothing."


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lynnm1947
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Default  Posted: 10:56 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

gahurts, I am going to have to take you off my non-existent Christmas card list! Crowds are fun??? Oy, and I thought you were myb friend!

I may shop long before Christmas, but I don't decorate until the week before.


Age: 64..ummmmmmm, no...............65....no...oh, hell born in 1947. You figure it out!

"I could have missed the pain, but I would have had to miss the dance." Garth Brooks


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summerain
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Default  Posted: 11:07 PM, October 31st (Thursday)

I generally start on boxing day sales. The presents are there for the entire year. Birthdays chrismas etc


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metamorphisis
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Default  Posted: 7:48 AM, November 1st (Friday)

My sister has a ceiling in her living room that goes up two stories. So she bought this HUGE tree. She told me this morning it's going up today.
She decided if it's going to take hours and hours and multiple trips up a ladder to get it all up then she wants to enjoy it for longer than a few weeks.
She's puppy sitting for me in December. My stomach sank when I considered what my puppy will do to that tree over a week long visit . We aren't even putting our tree in the living room this year, but downstairs in the rec room where he can't get to it .



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Default  Posted: 8:18 AM, November 1st (Friday)

I don't even think about Christmas shopping until after Thanksgiving. And it's fun being in all the crowds, with the decorations and Santa and Christmas music playing.
Me too Dude! I like to deliberately postpone some shopping till Christmas Eve and go out into the mass chaos. What a high! It's great!

I had no idea Christmas shopping before Thanksgiving was an option!


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Sad in AZ
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Default  Posted: 8:50 AM, November 1st (Friday)

When I was very young, I loved the hustle and bustle of Christmas shopping about 2 weeks before the holiday. I lived in a small town with a downtown shopping area, and it was so festive. Then malls entered the picture, and I OD'd on the Christmas overload.

Fast forward to after DS was born. The X was a police officer, and our Christmas money was his uniform allowance that came through about 10 days before Christmas. Talk about panic shopping! Then there was the year we were so broke, all of DS's presents came from the office supply aisle in Walmart--but he loved it.

Now? I shop on line and have the gifts sent to DS & DIL. There is absolutely nothing I can buy for my mom that she would want or use, so I plan a visit to see her as her present. I do plan to take the train down to NYC in December to see the sights; I haven't done that in years!

Now, talk to me next year after the baby comes in February...


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Default  Posted: 9:44 AM, November 1st (Friday)

This is actually something I really miss now that I'm divorced. XH was a sh*t in many many ways, but he was sooo much fun to buy Christmas stuff for every year... And there really isn't anyone else now. DS loves gizmo things but really wants/needs money more than anything else (plus he moves a lot so can't really accumulate much stuff). I miss having a reason or two to shop at thinkgeek.com all the time


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Default  Posted: 9:52 AM, November 1st (Friday)

I started January 1.

So no you are not the only crazy one. I don't like to be broke in December so I spread it out! :)


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Default  Posted: 10:09 AM, November 1st (Friday)

I shop year round for Christmas. I sent stuff back with my parents for my nieces and nephews so I wouldn't have to pay postage on it.

I'm very nearly done.

I hate shopping to begin with and then you add the Christmas crazy shoppers and I become a Grinch.


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Default  Posted: 7:45 AM, November 2nd (Saturday)

gahurts, I am going to have to take you off my non-existent Christmas card list! Crowds are fun??? Oy, and I thought you were myb friend!

Me too Dude! I like to deliberately postpone some shopping till Christmas Eve and go out into the mass chaos. What a high! It's great!

YES!!! You get it! It's a great way to feel in the season. Yes there is traffic and craziness but it's all part of the deal.

ETA: Lynnm, sign up for teh Card Exchange. Then you can not send me a card.

[This message edited by gahurts at 7:46 AM, November 2nd (Saturday)]


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Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, November 2nd (Saturday)

I like to deliberately postpone some shopping till Christmas Eve and go out into the mass chaos. What a high! It's great!
I see crazy people.

*shudder*

I'm an online shopper. My list is two people long: DD and DS. My extended family decided long ago to forego gift exchanges - there are just too many of us.

My friends get homemade gifts and treats, so no shopping required.


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