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No12turn2
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, November 1st (Friday)

Today is my 12 year. It is also the first day I chose to not where my ring. It now sits on her bed side table next to her ring. I scheduled a session with my IC weeks ago, knowing this would be a difficult day for me.

This got me thinking. What do you (BS and WS) do on your anniversary?


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
Shocked2believe
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Member # 41010
Default  Posted: 9:14 AM, November 1st (Friday)

N12t2.
Last Wednesday was my 10 year anniversary. My WH took me and the children out for dinner but said he was unable to purchase me flowers as he hadn't transferred money into current account and when he was at the till, his card was rejected.

So the history as to why I'm so angry.... My WH told me on the Monday night before, that he had to go out to do overtime for work (which till this date I believed was true). I later discovered through a till receipt he had gone to dinner with work collegues including the OW which he never told me about as I assumed he was working. This meal was paid for on one of his credit cards, i know this due to me finding the receipt, which I do know has a little Credit on it. Also, whilst saying this, when it was the OW birthday in June he ensured he went out purposefully to purchase her not one box of expensive chocolates but two. I even wrapped them for him in my ignorance. So I'm pretty upset that the credit card could be used to have dinner with everyone including the OW but a bunch of flowers which wouldn't have even cost a quarter of what the restaurant meal cost couldn't have been purchased for me. I might add that the bill for 'our meal' out on our anniversary only cost 1/3 more than his meal out that night - it fed 4 of us. (He paid for his own meal and drinks for everyone) Then last but certainly not least, he sent a message to me an hour and a half later than the till receipt reflects payment to say he was leaving "work" but when I question him who was present he refused to answer and can't recall why there is an hour and a half difference and what was done in that time...... 10 anniversary sullied forever.....

I hope you find good way to celebrate your anniversary. My thoughts are with you. (Hugs)


Me: BS Married 10 years, together 20
Him:WH - EA with engaged COW.

'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway, you're blocking the traffic'


Posts: 123 | Registered: Oct 2013
Shocked2believe
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Member # 41010
Default  Posted: 9:18 AM, November 1st (Friday)

I'm sorry I rambled on about myself and now reading it back sound like a really spoilt brat?

Once again, I really hope it was a better anniversary than you were expecting.


Me: BS Married 10 years, together 20
Him:WH - EA with engaged COW.

'If you come into my life, the door is open; If you leave my life, the door is open; Just one request, don't stand in the doorway, you're blocking the traffic'


Posts: 123 | Registered: Oct 2013
TrustGone
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Member # 36654
Default  Posted: 9:40 AM, November 1st (Friday)

The one after DDay#1 he forgot and ran out after some flowers which I flung and stomped out the backdoor a few days later on DDay#2. This past year we did not celebrate it at all. The next will be our 10th and I don't plan on celebrating it except in my head that I will be fully vested on his pension/retirement account.


BW-50
WH#2-51
M-9 yrs T-11 yrs
4 children-none together
DD#1-9/5/11 LTA 2yrs
DD#2-7/3/12 False R
DD#3-4/29/13 (OW broke NC)
Status: Your guess is as good as mine.

Posts: 2420 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: Texas
No12turn2
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Member # 40996
Default  Posted: 9:55 AM, November 1st (Friday)

Thanks for posting. So sorry to hear I'm not alone on a day that brings sadness when we should be happy. Please...Feel free to post more


Me/BS 35
WW 32
M 12 yrs 2 Girls 10 & 7
Phone/Cyber Affairs (3 D-Days)
Status: DIVORCED 4/24/2014

No one can make you feel inferior without your consent.


Posts: 526 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United Staes
Quakingaspen
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Member # 41153
Default  Posted: 10:18 AM, November 1st (Friday)

Our anniversary is on the 9th, our 17th anniversary.

I have no idea what we'll do about it. He has already sort of tried to bribe me over it. He said he'd been planning something sort of elaborate, but had only done about half of it, and now wasn't sure about doing it. I told him to do what he thinks he needs to do. I just can't even think about it, and am not going to pretend everything is fine for this "elaborate" gift.

I kind of like the idea of taking the kids out to celebrate though. Maybe we can turn it into a positive.


I've seen enough.

WS-SA/NPD
D-Day: Too many in 17 years of marriage. LAST time 10/17/2013.


Posts: 122 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: A little bit closer to Reality
stuckforever
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Member # 39908
Default  Posted: 11:02 AM, November 1st (Friday)

Our 31st anniversary will be on the 5th. I am going back and forth with whether to celebrate it or not. I did already get him a gift though. I really have no special feelings toward that day anymore. It hurts to think of how happy I used to be and I thought he was too.

I'm sure I'll get some 'last minute' gift from Walmart and he'll act like he's Mr. Wonderful for thinking to get me something. At least that's something I guess. Even though he was very thoughtful, way in advance, when it came to Ms. sluttypants.


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Posts: 37 | Registered: Jul 2013
pregnantandsad
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Member # 40141
Default  Posted: 12:05 PM, November 1st (Friday)

My 7 year anniversary was a couple of weeks ago. We are currently S headed towards D. I made plans to go to dinner with a friend so I didn't sit at home feeling sad. Of course we talked about my situation the whole time, but it felt good to have someone to talk to, and to not be alone.

I hope you are ok today, hugs.

[This message edited by pregnantandsad at 12:06 PM, November 1st (Friday)]


M 7 years, together for 12
2 kids- DD4 and a newborn
D-Day 7/2013 he didn't want R and moved in with OW
Filing for D

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