User Topic: when i read these types of things, i don't know what to think
Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 12:52 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Took the image out because I can't resize on my iPad.

Basically it's a note someone posted, in all caps, complaining to their neighbor for yelling frequently at her boyfriend with her windows open. That the night before was the worst because the woman was yelling about his cheating, saying things like "Fuck you," and asking if he loves "her" (the OW apparently over and over again). The coward concluded with no wonder she got cheated on and she should dump him or shut the fuck up in the meantime.

Here's the link:

Anger because someone is so damn selfish and callous? Jealousy because obviously the person who wrote the letter has never been betrayed....or the person who posted it...or the person who pinned/repinned it. Frustration because this is the attitude of society at large. Back to anger because I assume only an OP can be so callous...

It's just a big ole ball of W T H?

[This message edited by Holly-Isis at 4:04 PM, November 1st (Friday)]

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 1:12 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Umm, unsure what you read. Was a link removed?

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Default  Posted: 1:22 PM, November 1st (Friday)

You have piqued my interest, Holly. Like thebighurt, I am confused.

BW (me) 50ish FWH 50ish
Married 34 years, 3 children
d-day 3/10 LTA (4 yrs./fucking & flirting)

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Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 1:26 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Weird, I can see it on my computer but not anywhere else.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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Default  Posted: 1:46 PM, November 1st (Friday)

I can see it. Whopping big photo. Maybe for others, copy what the sign says out?

As for answers...well, yeah, that's callous as heck. It's also cowardly.

I do get that it would be horribly invasive into others lives too though (I particularly remember a couple that would have a row outside in the summer pretty much every night(windows all had to be open, hot hot hot) and I was pregnant and got to listen each time. It was annoying. We all have times in our lives where this happens though and does spill out to others. That's part of living together in communities. I know my neighbours have all heard me more than once yelling for a kid to get in the house. They also likely heard me when I reamed WH out the night that I found out about the PA. I can be LOUD.

So a mix of needing more compassion and respect there, with a understanding that it is frustrating for them too.

Me: 39
WH: 42
DDay:Sep 19 2013 (only TT of EA)
Oct 4th 2013 revealed PA through snooping.
Marred 16 years, together for 20. Looking to R at this time. We have awesome kids (12/14).

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Default  Posted: 2:01 PM, November 1st (Friday)

I understand the pain the BS is feeling, but I also understand being a neighbor in an apartment building, and I would be unimpressed if I had to listen to somebody's dirty laundry until three in the morning.

I would be livid if I had kids and I had no way of shielding them from hearing all of that.

I would not leave a note, but I would contact management and if it continued, I would probably call the police for a domestic disturbance.

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He lied, I gave the gift of R
He became the model remorseful WS...all while lying and seeing her
Am I done? Yes I am!

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Default  Posted: 2:12 PM, November 1st (Friday)

I just thank God our house is situation on an acre, or I might be getting similar notes left for me.

Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

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Default  Posted: 4:02 PM, November 1st (Friday)

I'm in the middle of nowhere....thank goodness. I'm sure my neighbors would have left me one too O.C. We live in a loud house.
On the other hand Isis..I agree, this is societies answer..stfu and move on
Been with him over half my life
DD1 10-01-09 DD2 02-12-12 discovered it never ended
OW..nothing special. Just your average skank

Posts: 5130 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
Member # 13447
Default  Posted: 4:09 PM, November 1st (Friday)

I get people being disturbed. What bugs me about this is a few things. One, the public nature of the letter. Apparently posted in their complex, calling her out by address and gender...but no indication of the writer. Cruel and cowardly, IMO.

Then there's blaming her for him cheating.

I can remember the pain of dday and the immediate aftermath. That someone could hear pain like that and just think, "I've got some salt for that wound. I haven't stepped up and told her to STFU up to this point....NOW is the time!"

Just cruel.

"Being in love" first moved them to promise fidelity: this quieter love enables them to keep the promise. *CS Lewis*

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