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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 5:24 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Tomorrow WH comes back for the final week under the same roof. Moves out next weekend, and D will be final around the same time. I am heartsick at having one last week of this gut wrenching living arrangement. Good mojo needed.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


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MovingUpward
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Default  Posted: 5:34 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Sending mojo. I know how tough it can be


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 6:01 PM, November 1st (Friday)

MAJOR mojo heading your way. Inhouse separation is no walk in the park. Thank heavens you're so close to the finish line.

Hang in there, honey.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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soveryweary
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Default  Posted: 6:18 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Dear Triple, sending you good thoughts and a hug.
Have been in house since the end of JUne, he has been at our timeshare this past week, it's been pure bliss.
I am moving out tomorrow and am so relieved to be away from that filthy man.
Wishing your week goes by fast .


Divorced 1/3/14

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jo2love
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Default  Posted: 6:24 PM, November 1st (Friday)

(((Triple)))

Sending mojo, strength, and hope for better days.


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tryingagain74
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Sending you major mojo! I did it for eight months; you are going to feel AWESOME when he's gone, believe me!


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

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jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 8:43 PM, November 1st (Friday)

You have got this! You know the drill: stay busy, don't engage, vent

Sorry, they only have soybeans round here.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

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marlie2014
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Default  Posted: 10:20 PM, November 1st (Friday)

(((hugs))))


BS: 33
WS: 35 and definitely SA
Married: 9 years
1 stepchild, now 18 years old
DDay: 9/2/2013
ONS: Multiples over at least a 6-year period, at least twenty
1 OC 5 yrs old and another on the way (by different ONS)
DIVORCED AND FREE!!!!

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dmari
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Default  Posted: 10:55 PM, November 1st (Friday)

Sending you tons and tons of strength! You are so close to ending this in house hell!! You're gonna want to party with something stronger than wine!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

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jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 6:03 AM, November 2nd (Saturday)

Good luck today, Triple.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 8:11 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

This has been such a gut wrenching week! I feel emotionally bankrupt and I know I have so far to go in healing. I wonder where the strength will come from to keep going.

In other news, party at Triple's house saturday


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


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FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:20 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

Sending big hugs. I had a party for my 55th after he moved out also.

He kept coming by and bringing things for it, looking sad when I sent him away.

It finally started sinking in for him and it was awful. But having friends around was the best medicine.

(((TD)))

[This message edited by FaithFool at 8:20 PM, November 7th (Thursday)]


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 8:23 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

Mojo and Hugs!!!!!!!!!

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hopeandchange
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Default  Posted: 5:17 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Triple.. good luck and wishing you strength!

I know all too well how difficult an in house separation can be. My own is coming to an end very soon as my WW closes on her new home at the beginning of December. Our divorce should be finalized around the same time. AND our wedding anniversary is this week. AND we are negotiating the final settlement details of our divorce with WW pushing for every $ (the home appraisal is too low so she searches for a single home that sold for more, etc)

Still, WW and I are cordial, friendly, and take care of things together. Even with that the emotions are ver HARD. So it is difficult for me to imagine an in house separation where things are not mostly amicable.

Hang in there! Be safe! Be Happy! Be Healthy! Live with ease!

H&C


BH (me, 50)
WS (her, 48)
Divorced!
3 wonderful teens
Heading for Happiness

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 5:23 PM, November 8th (Friday)

I have so far to go in healing. I wonder where the strength will come from to keep going.
You simply cannot fathom how much better things get once he's out and you have your own safe space again. Healing is impossible during in-house separation. Once it ends? You'll surprise yourself.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 6:39 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Thank you all for the supportive words. Tonight as I moved some things around I came across something I hadn't seen in years - his wedding gift to me. It was my undoing. I was taken back as if it were yesterday to the joy and the promise of a long life together.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


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jemimapd
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Default  Posted: 9:49 PM, November 8th (Friday)

I know. I thought we would love each other and be together all our lives. I never, ever imagined something like this could happen. I'm still in shock a year after D Day. Someone on another thread wrote that this is the worst experience she has ever been through in her life and that is how it has been for me.

Has your WH actually left?

(((Triple)))


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 10:39 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Sending some wine for the party. I hope it helps in your healing.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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careerlady
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Default  Posted: 12:14 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

I''m so sorry for what you''ve been through but I''m a bit envious as my hell has only begun. So I kind of want to say congrats! You survived!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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SBB
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Default  Posted: 12:23 AM, November 9th (Saturday)

Last day today? Ding-dong-the king/witch is dead??


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 12:30 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

All done. Now just the mass clean up of my house and my sanity.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


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thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 12:38 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

I wish I knew how to post one of those exploding fireworks. Congratulations on surviving IHS.
tbh


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Like this?


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 9:24 PM, November 9th (Saturday)

Aw you guys are the best.


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 628 | Registered: May 2013
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