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Hope2B
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Default  Posted: 9:29 PM, November 1st (Friday)

We talk every night before going to sleep, and he talks about how I have chosen to pretend to my friends and family that everything is okay (only my sister, IC and MC know), and how this level of lying and keeping it up is so foreign to me.

I make a comment about how glad I am that we never had a Renewal of Vows ceremony because it would have had its foundation in nothing but shit, deceit, lies and betrayal.

His brilliant simpleton mind says this to me: "Maybe if we had a renewal of vows for our 25th, this wouldn't have happened." The A happened, as best as I can tell, in year 25 or 26 of our marriage.

I lost it, and yelled (remember, he has a severe hearing loss & I want to make sure he.hears.every.single.word) that if he couldn't remain faithful based on our original marriage vows, his own morality and his integrity, then a renewal of vows ceremony would not have changed anything.

Then I tell him that I will not be swallowing his shit as he tries to shift the blame of HIS actions to us having or not having a Renewal of Vows ceremony.

At times, I feel his stupidity knows no bounds.

[This message edited by Hope2B at 9:30 PM, November 1st (Friday)]


Me: early 60s
Him: 64 yrs old, LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth Days: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
His affair--says it was only 8 times 1x/mo, then found out it was 7 YEARS 2-3x/mo

Posts: 262 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: out west/west coast U.S.A.
nowiknow23
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Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 9:33 PM, November 1st (Friday)

((((Hope2B))))


You can call me NIK

There's always failure. And there's always disappointment. And there's always loss.
But the secret is learning from the loss, and realizing that none of those holes are vacuums.
- Michael J. Fox


Posts: 22672 | Registered: Aug 2011
sad12008
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Member # 18179
Default  Posted: 9:35 PM, November 1st (Friday)

"Maybe if we had a renewal of vows for our 25th, this wouldn't have happened."

Riiiiiiight....eureka! He solved the "why" question!

Dumb, dumb, dumb. Good for you for spitting fire at that crap.

(((Hope2B)))


"Everybody's life is hard. You look at life, and it's not a cakewalk. You've got to be able to bounce back." --Neil Young, father to two children with CP, another with epilepsy, and otherwise experientially qualified to comment

Posts: 3778 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: a new start together
Hope2B
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Member # 40474
Default  Posted: 1:30 AM, November 2nd (Saturday)

I know he is trying, but he is soooooo missing the mark! Chocolate is my best friend, and when I'm out of that, I look for my xanax.


Me: early 60s
Him: 64 yrs old, LTA w/a pro$titute
Married since 1980, no children
DDay: Feb. 25, 2013
Trickle Truth Days: Sept 10, 11, 13, 15 (2013)
His affair--says it was only 8 times 1x/mo, then found out it was 7 YEARS 2-3x/mo

Posts: 262 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: out west/west coast U.S.A.
Topic Posts: 4