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burnedcanuckEMS
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Default  Posted: 3:56 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)

I have been 100% single now for seven months, and as of late I have been wondering in the back of my mind if something is wrong with me. I wonder sometimes if I look too "simple" as I am a jeans & T shirt or work out clothes kind of girl. My hair is simple, long and straight, it takes me all of five minutes to blow dry in the morning and I am out the door. I am told I look ten years younger than I really am and I wonder if I just come across as some old cougar wanna be. Anyways today I ran down to the little town grocery store, just looking like my average self. As I wheeled past the deli, the lady behind the counter whom I have chatted with before but still barely know, broke into a huge smile and said " OMG Hi! I barely recognized you! Your hair is so long and beautiful! I love the color and your face is just glowing!! You look great!!"

I was stunned, and a but shyly thanked her and mentioned maybe I look different because I am wearing glasses today instead of contacts. She said "no you are beautiful! Have a great day!" I wished her the same and walked away with a huge smile. It felt good to get such a nice compliment! Maybe I am not so plain after all? Or maybe it just suits me? If this is what getting happy looks like then I must be on the right track, even if I don't have a significant other in my life right now.

[This message edited by burnedcanuckEMS at 3:57 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)]


Me: BW 38, Him: WH 37
M: 07/07/07
DDay: 06/09/12
Divorce Granted on December 5, 2012 - fasted divorce ever (thanks to my good lawyer) and I am not looking back with ANY regrets!!

"And this above all else, to thine own self be true"


Posts: 253 | Registered: Jun 2012 | From: Alberta
caregiver9000
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Member # 28622
Default  Posted: 5:43 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)

congratulations on the compliment! I am glad it made you feel good.

I wish everyone took more time to recognize the opportunity to pass on a compliment. Glad it was your turn today.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

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Thelastknight
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Default  Posted: 5:59 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)

Its nice to get compliments. Keep wearing that smile....


"Pain is weakness leaving the body"

Reformed BS 39 xWW 34
Two kids 5 and 2


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Ann124
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Default  Posted: 6:15 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)

Very Sweet! All women should encourage and compliment each other ... Wonderful!

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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 10:21 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)

This is a great story. I'm glad it made you feel so good - and you must look fabulous!

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BrokenDaisy
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Default  Posted: 11:43 PM, November 3rd (Sunday)

Happy for you! And there's nothing wrong with being a jeans and tshirt person (coming from someone who is one too, lol)

Also being single for 7 months only means you've been single for 7 months. It does not reflect on your worth! (((Burnedcanuck)))


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Finally Divorced!!

Posts: 266 | Registered: Oct 2012
SBB
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Member # 35229
Default  Posted: 7:16 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Oh, I love this. Glowing is always good!!

I was chatting to one of my colleagues this week about our beauty tricks/must-haves and how they change as we get older.

I told her about how I don't like to cover my skin so I prefer tinted moisturiser mixed with a high SPF moisturiser rather than foundation. I quite like my skin and don't like to cover it even though I have Vitiligo.

She said: "your skin by far your loveliest feature - it is astonishingly beautiful". Even though I've always liked my skin, I do know the colour contrast can be a little confronting for others. It was such an unexpected surprise.

Enjoy it!

I always remind myself 20 years from now I'll look back in wonder at how very beautiful and young I am right now. That is as true at 80 as it is at 38.


I may have reached a point where I'd piss on him if he was on fire.... eventually!!

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hexed
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Default  Posted: 7:31 AM, November 4th (Monday)

remember to pass on the compliment to someone else.

A couple years ago I decided to focus on saying genuinely nice things to people when I think them. 'Wow...I love that jacket' even to a stranger I'm barely making eye contact with. I try and notice new things about the people I interact with. It makes there day and I feel happy b/c happy leads to more happy.


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Helen of Troy
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Default  Posted: 5:33 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Positive energy is very attractive! not just for romance but friendships, etc. People are drawn to that.
And likewise a lot of people are repelled by debbie downer types.

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