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User Topic: 1,000 Post Party for Abbondad!!!!!
Member # 14866
Happy  Posted: 7:48 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!!!! I know that you are in a continual struggle with your stbxww. Thank you for being able to reach out to so many others and help them out during all of this.


Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.

Posts: 52732 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
Member # 33226
Default  Posted: 8:33 AM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations, Abbondad!

You can call me NIK

"If you carry joy in your heart, you can heal any moment."
- Carlos Santana

Posts: 25835 | Registered: Aug 2011
Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 9:02 AM, November 4th (Monday)

congrats :)

BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
Member # 31528
Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, November 4th (Monday)


Posts: 36032 | Registered: Mar 2011
Deeply Scared
Member # 2
Default  Posted: 9:19 AM, November 4th (Monday)


"Don't give up, the beginning is always the hardest." My Mom:)

My tolerance for stupid shit is getting less and less.

Posts: 198436 | Registered: May 2002
Member # 33699
Default  Posted: 11:50 AM, November 4th (Monday)

YAY!!! Congrats on 1,000+ posts

"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie

Posts: 3435 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Georgia
Member # 31349
Default  Posted: 1:07 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Yaaay!! You've come a long way, AD!

(Someone might need to ping him... I'm not sure he's ever been in here... )

Cherish those who seek the truth but beware of those who find it. - François-Marie Arouet

Posts: 17890 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
Member # 26531
Default  Posted: 4:58 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Way To Go!!!

Me: BSO - 46
Him: FWSO - 69
DS - 13
D-Day - 12-11-09,
R - he finally came home
Your life is an Occasion. Rise to it. - Mr. Magorium, "Mr. Magorium's Wonder Emporium"

Posts: 24597 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: Florida
Member # 37091
Default  Posted: 5:11 PM, November 4th (Monday)


Heartbroken madhatter trying to rebuild

No longer together

"To be loyal to myself is to allow myself to grow and change, and challenge who I am and what I think."

Posts: 2767 | Registered: Oct 2012
Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 5:22 PM, November 4th (Monday)


Him WH
2 ddays in '07
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6569 | Registered: Jan 2011
Member # 37898
Default  Posted: 4:28 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Wow! Thanks for alerting me that this was going on down here!

You people are incredible.

I had no idea that there were 1,000 posts. Frankly I'm a little embarrassed! I feel like I came in and took over the SI forums.

But you all flocked to my side and got me where I am today. I have said it before, but now is a good opportunity to say it again: Thank you, from the bottom of my heart. I honestly do not believe I would have been able to find my strength to file if it hadn't been for SI. I would still likely have been in limbo enduring agonizing emotional abuse.

I have supportive family, friends, and therapist IRL. They all urged me toward the path I am now on. But the truth is, like a bereavement or any support group, nobody understands the trauma of infidelity unless they have gone through it. Cliched, but true.

To think: faceless, pseudonymed people in cyberspace played a crucial role in facing and conquering the most devastating decision and trauma of my life. It amazes me.

And I resolve to always give back to the many people here. It's the least I can do.

Again, just thank you--thank you so much. You are the good ones in life.

Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.

Posts: 1645 | Registered: Dec 2012
Member # 27871
Happy  Posted: 5:58 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Yeah! AD.

Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 765 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
Member # 25144
Default  Posted: 9:01 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Woo Hoo! Abbondad!!! Glad you are in a better spot b/c of all your different support groups!

Reconciliation means that we both are authentic and vulnerable. I still have my H, and he's a better man than ever!

Posts: 1716 | Registered: Aug 2009
Member # 31722
Default  Posted: 3:07 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congrats Abb! **standing up clapping**

Me: BS
Him: WH

Posts: 1309 | Registered: Apr 2011 | From:
Member # 8142
Default  Posted: 4:41 PM, November 10th (Sunday)


~XWH told me what I wanted to hear but he always did whatever he wanted to do~

Posts: 25435 | Registered: Sep 2005
Member # 27148
Default  Posted: 11:08 PM, November 10th (Sunday)


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

Posts: 2726 | Registered: Jan 2010
Member # 20150
Default  Posted: 11:17 PM, November 10th (Sunday)

Congratulations on dipping your toe into F&G. Did you bring wine?

You're amazing. Keep going.

DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17589 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
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