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Nature_Girl
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Happy  Posted: 7:30 PM, November 4th (Monday)

I'M DIVORCED!
I'M DIVORCED!
I'M DIVORCED!

I DIVORCED THAT SON OF A BITCH!
I DIVORCED THAT SON OF A BITCH!
I DIVORCED THAT SON OF A BITCH!

FUCK YOU, ASSHOLE!
FUCK YOU, ASSHOLE!
FUCK YOU, ASSHOLE!

I'M FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'M FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!
I'M FREE!!!!!!!!!!!!




Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Chrysalis123
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Default  Posted: 7:32 PM, November 4th (Monday)

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!


Don’t get to the end of your life and find that you lived only the length of it; live the width of it as well. 

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Grace and Flowers
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Member # 34431
Default  Posted: 7:33 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Long time coming! Thank god! Glad that is done, NG!


I'm Happy, not Sad!

Posts: 1155 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: US
nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, November 4th (Monday)

BEST DIVORCE EVER!

Seriously, I have never been happier for someone to have their divorce finalized.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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nowiknow23
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Default  Posted: 7:36 PM, November 4th (Monday)

psst - Update that signature, honey. You SO have earned it.


You can call me NIK

"Sometimes it takes a good fall to know where you really stand."
-Hayley Williams


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Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 7:39 PM, November 4th (Monday)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lLCEUpIg8rE


http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oTB46FJOF5w

(Updated it, NIK. Thanks!)

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 7:47 PM, November 4th (Monday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Rainbows
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Member # 39362
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!


There is always a rainbow after every storm.

Posts: 394 | Registered: May 2013 | From: California
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 7:43 PM, November 4th (Monday)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3GwjfUFyY6M


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
MovingUpward
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Member # 14866
Default  Posted: 7:48 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!!!


AKA Moo

Think of the haters in your life as sandpaper; they’ll scratch you up time and time again but in the end you’re polished, smooth, and spotless..while they end up useless

We make a living by what we get, but we make a life by what we give.


Posts: 51806 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Big Blue Nation
waiting2see
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Member # 13767
Default  Posted: 7:49 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!


me: BS
him: XWS

Much of your pain is self-chosen. ~Kahlil Gibran, The Prophet, 1923

"It's not livin' that you're doin' if it feels like dyin." Ray Lamontagne


Posts: 1930 | Registered: Feb 2007
phmh
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Member # 34146
Default  Posted: 7:50 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!!!!!

Your XWH is the cheater I feel the most animosity against.

I'm so glad you're free, and I can't wait to read all the wonderful things that will come into your life in the ensuing months/years.

Great job!!! You did it!!!


Me: BW, divorced, now fabulous and happy!

Married: 11 years, no kids

The greater danger for most of us lies not in setting our aim too high and falling short; but in setting our aim too low, and achieving our mark. -Michelangelo


Posts: 3295 | Registered: Dec 2011
Phoenix1
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, November 4th (Monday)

I am SO very happy for you! Congratulations!


BS - Me
XPOS - too many OW/OCs over 20+yrs
Kids - DDs 22,17 -DS20 Deceased
M Dissolved 2013

This above all: to thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not then be false to any man ~ Shakespeare, Hamlet


Posts: 1017 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Rising out of Hell's ashes!
kernel
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Default  Posted: 7:51 PM, November 4th (Monday)

CONGRATULATIONS!!!!!



"On particularly rough days when I'm sure I can't possibly endure, I like to remind myself that my track record for getting through bad days so far is 100% - and that's pretty good."

Posts: 5000 | Registered: Jan 2010 | From: Midwest
courageous
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Default  Posted: 7:52 PM, November 4th (Monday)

🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉


This is a major reason to celebrate. I am sooooo happy for you!

I hope things continue to get better for you.


Me: BW (35)
Him: ExWH (31) EA/PA with MOW coworker
Married 9 years, 2 small kids
dday 3/12/2011 divorced fall 2012

My ipad does a lot of crazy typos.


Posts: 633 | Registered: Jan 2012
Tripletrouble
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Default  Posted: 7:53 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Yay!! So happy for you!


40 somethings - me BW after 20 years
D Day April 2013
Divorced November 2013

Be happy with what you have while you work for what you want - Hellen Keller


Posts: 621 | Registered: May 2013
HFSSC
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Member # 33338
Default  Posted: 8:00 PM, November 4th (Monday)

What's the tune to that and can it be sung as a round????

Congrats NG!!


Me, 47
Him, 40 (JMSSC)
married 17 years. In R. We are making it. The past does not define who we are today.

Posts: 2694 | Registered: Sep 2011 | From: South Carolina
Rebreather
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Member # 30817
Default  Posted: 8:02 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Drinks on me!!!


Me BS
Him WH
2 ddays in '07
Recovering.
"The cure for the pain, is the pain." -Rumi

Posts: 6347 | Registered: Jan 2011
caregiver9000
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Default  Posted: 8:06 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Yay, I showed up in time for drinks!!!

Seriously, NG, congratulations. I hope this symbolic freedom (cause you cast him aside long ago) allows you to SOAR with the eagles.


Me: 44, independent, happy, despite co-parenting with a lower muppet
FT "Stretch" (and Skew!) ;)
DS 13 DS 10
S 5/2010
D 12/2012

Posts: 5742 | Registered: May 2010 | From: a better place
FaithFool
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Default  Posted: 8:08 PM, November 4th (Monday)


DDay: June 15, 2008
Mistakenly married Mr. Superfreak
20 years of OWs, WTF?
Divorced Dec 26, 2011
"Life is a shipwreck, but we must not forget
to sing in the lifeboats". -- Voltaire

Posts: 17280 | Registered: Jul 2008 | From: Canada
hexed
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, November 4th (Monday)


But that's just a lot of water
Underneath a bridge I burned
And there's no use in backtracking
Around corners I have turned

“Many of us crucify ourselves between two thieves - regret for the past and fear of the future.” -foulton oursler


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Mom4ever
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Default  Posted: 8:10 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congrats!!


BW - me 43
WH - 45
M - 23 yrs
D-Day - 6/13/2013
2 DS and 1 DD
Divorcing
There are some things that "sorry" just doesn't fix... But I never even got a "sorry."

Posts: 99 | Registered: Aug 2013 | From: Southeast
Take2
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Default  Posted: 8:12 PM, November 4th (Monday)

So... tell us how you really feel NatureGirl...

Congratulations!!!!!


"We must be willing to get rid of the life we've planned, so as to have the life that is waiting for us." Joseph Campbell...So, If fear was not a factor - what would you do?

Posts: 4112 | Registered: May 2009 | From: New England
badd
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Default  Posted: 8:13 PM, November 4th (Monday)

OMG that is awesome awesome awesome news!Congratulations, well done! cant say enough good things about this!

Posts: 130 | Registered: Apr 2009
ButterflyGirl
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congrats girl!!


xBW~ 35
Two of the most darling sons ~ 10 and 7

Posts: 2058 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Florida, USA
gonnabe2016
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Default  Posted: 8:16 PM, November 4th (Monday)


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


Posts: 7865 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: Midwest
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 8:17 PM, November 4th (Monday)

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=UblHhmGzp5Y

You totally have to listen to this one!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
Lost15
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Member # 40898
Default  Posted: 8:18 PM, November 4th (Monday)



me(BS)-34 him(WS)-32 DS-15
Married 15 years
Blindsided with divorce 07-12-13
DD-08-1-13 OW-40ish,married 20 yrs, with 4 kids she abandoned
Divorcing and trying to move one tiny step forward at a time.

Posts: 114 | Registered: Oct 2013
newlysingle
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Member # 38735
Default  Posted: 8:19 PM, November 4th (Monday)

It's a great feeling, isn't it? Congratulations!


BW - Me (37)
XWH - (37) The Gnat
OW - Some dumb whore he picked up in another state and moved here here. Known as Hello Kitty.
M for 8 years, together for 10
1 DD (5), 1 DS (1 year)
Dday 3/13
Divorced 9/20/13

Posts: 868 | Registered: Mar 2013
GabyBaby
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Member # 26928
Default  Posted: 8:24 PM, November 4th (Monday)

AAAAWWWWWEEEEESSSSOOOOMMMMEEEEE!!!!!


Me - 40s
SorryInSac - WH#2 - 40s. DDay 7/12/14
Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
6 Furkids (4 Dogs, 2 Cats)

WXH (serial cheater, 12+ OW)
Legally married 18yrs, together 16.5yrs

Note: I edit often for clarity/typos.


Posts: 6278 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
little turtle
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Default  Posted: 8:25 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congrats!!!!


Failure is success if we learn from it.

Posts: 4138 | Registered: Aug 2007 | From: michigan
persevere
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Member # 31468
Default  Posted: 8:31 PM, November 4th (Monday)

What a great post to see on D/S!!!! SOOOOOO HAPPY FOR YOU NG!!!!!


Me: BW-44
Him: XWH-44
Together 9 yrs
DDays: 1/10/2011
Status: Divorced 4/27/11

Above all, be the heroine, not the victim. - Nora Ephron

It is our choices...that show what we truly are, far more than our abilities.
- J. K. Rowling


Posts: 4436 | Registered: Mar 2011 | From: Texas
Kajem
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Member # 36134
Default  Posted: 8:38 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!!!!!

Enjoy your freedom!


I trust you is a better compliment than I love you, because you may not trust the person you love, but you can always love the person you trust. - Unknown
Relationships are like sharing a book, it doesn't work if you're not on the same page.

Posts: 4985 | Registered: Jul 2012 | From: Florida
DeadMumWalking
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Default  Posted: 8:51 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Great news, congratulations!!!

F. T. G.


Me (BS), Him (WH): early 50's
3 DS: teens!!! :)
M: 24 (19 1/2 at Dday), Together 29
Dday: Dec 2008
re-separated (in-house), for good (??) <-- should really remove these, shouldn't I...

Posts: 2541 | Registered: Aug 2009 | From: EU
Jrazz
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Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Am I the only one who just had a lot of "Garage Story" time freed up in their day? NOW what am I going to do?

Seriously - congrats.


You will have bad times, but they will always wake you up to the stuff you weren't paying attention to. - Robin Williams

Posts: 16797 | Registered: Feb 2011 | From: California
cayc
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Member # 21964
Default  Posted: 8:53 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Fabulous!!!

In your honor Calvin & Hobbes dance:

http://m.youtube.com/watch?vNWsmB4SjGJw&desktop_uri%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DNWsmB4SjGJw


"The difference between involvement and commitment is like ham and eggs. The chicken is involved, the pig is committed." -Martina Navratilova
"The question isn't who is going to let me; it's who is going to stop me." -Ayn Rand

Posts: 3043 | Registered: Dec 2008 | From: Mexico
IrishLass518
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Member # 34373
Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congrats NG!! I will miss the garage saga also Here's hoping you grace us with amazing stories of your New Beginning


Me: 45 BS Divorced
Him: 45 Married OW
DDay: 07/04/2008
Divorced: 06/15/2011
5 kids: IrishLass 27,IrishLad 25, IrishLass 22, IrishLad 21 and IrishLad 12
"You can't run from trouble..there ain't no place that far"

Posts: 1699 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: WA
tryingagain74
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Member # 33698
Default  Posted: 9:20 PM, November 4th (Monday)

YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAYYYYY!!!

I didn't have the best day today, but you totally made it better with that great news!

I'm so happy for you! You're FREE!

(((N_G)))


BS (Me) 39
Happily liberated!
Two DS and One DD
It matters not how strait the gate,/How charged with punishments the scroll./I am the master of my fate:/I am the captain of my soul.--"Invictus," William Ernest Henley

Posts: 3568 | Registered: Oct 2011
tesla
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Default  Posted: 9:25 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Woo-hoo!!!!!!
So very happy for you!!!!


"Thou art the son and heir of a mongrel bitch." --King Lear

Posts: 4605 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Indiana
jackie89
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Member # 38271
Default  Posted: 9:36 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!


Separated/divorcing

"The Secret of Change is to focus all your energy - not on fighting the old, but on building the new" ~~Lori Greiner FB post~~


Posts: 464 | Registered: Jan 2013 | From: Pennsylvania
blue8888
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Member # 40896
Default  Posted: 10:08 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Congratulations!!


Me- BW 31, WH- 29
M 11 yrs Together 13
2 kids (special needs)
Last Dday 9/26/13 EA w/ 19 yr old OW, too many prior EAs to list, one he kissed
Divorcing
My value hasn't decreased based on his inability to see my worth.

Posts: 38 | Registered: Oct 2013 | From: United States
ChoosingHope
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Member # 33606
Default  Posted: 10:18 PM, November 4th (Monday)

YIPPEE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

BEST. NEWS. EVER.

You've come such a long way. You are so strong. You are such an amazing mother who always puts her children first.

You are awesome.

Here's to a happy, happy future.

-Hope


Posts: 1623 | Registered: Oct 2011
thebighurt
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Just give it to us straight, NG, how do you really feel about this development?

Congrats. Let the future begin! If anyone deserve it, its you!!


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2224 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Nature_Girl
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Default  Posted: 11:13 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Oh my gosh, you guys. I feel HIGH! I mean seriously, I feel high! I was so afraid I'd cry. Okay, I admit, I did have four, maybe five tears well up after I got the email. But then I wanted to scream & shout & dance!!!

(And then I was also afraid I'd poop my pants like what almost happened a few weeks ago. Fear not, no pooping was threatened this time!)

When I told my kids that the divorce was finally final they did the screaming & shouting for me. We ended up dog-piled on the couch, laughing with relief. I know on the surface it sounds horrible that my kids reacted that way, but honestly this has been torture for them. I know they're hoping the emotional mind-fuck from STBX will fade away now. They all want to change their last names like me, for goodness' sakes!

Anyways, thank you so much, everyone, for the unfailing support over the years and the hearty congratulations now. I pray that things can just settle down now. We only have the QDRO to finalize and then STBX has to finally pick up all of his stuff from - all together now - The Garage, and then that should be it.

Unless he appeals. He could do that. I pray he doesn't.

So, in the hopes that this is it, my sincerest wish is that I could give my EX-HUSBAND (no more STBX! Woot!) this parting sentiment:

[This message edited by Nature_Girl at 11:15 PM, November 4th (Monday)]


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
thebighurt
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Member # 34722
Default  Posted: 11:27 PM, November 4th (Monday)

and then STBX

That's now THE EX!! You need to get used to saying that. Savor how it feels rolling off your tongue!

I'm so glad your girls are enjoying this news too,

(((Happy hugs))) to you all.


Finding what life could have been....... Why didn't I see it?

Posts: 2224 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: the Other Side
Iamhappytoday
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Member # 39051
Default  Posted: 11:35 PM, November 4th (Monday)

Good for you!!!

You deserve joy and happiness and freedom. Thank you for always being so giving of your circumstances--I know it has meant much to me even if I don't comment much.

Wishing you a joyous and blessed (in whichever denomination or non-denomination you prefer), future to you and your children.

Cheers to your new chapter!


BW 39
WH 34
2DD's 15 months at start
Together 10 years, M 9
OW 22 CW, 2kids by 2 men & youngest less than 1 when affair started.
Dday 1 8/16/12 "just texting"
TT, gaslighting, denial; was always PA; he left me for her.

Posts: 132 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Free!!!
ChoosingHope
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Member # 33606
Default  Posted: 11:37 PM, November 4th (Monday)

The EX!

Posts: 1623 | Registered: Oct 2011
Nature_Girl
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Member # 32554
Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, November 4th (Monday)

I hope your turn is coming sooner rather than later, CH!


Me = BS (Stay-at-home-mom)
Him = EX-d out (abusive troglodyte NPD SA)
3 tween-aged kids
Together 20 years
D-Day: Memorial Weekend 2011
2013 - I DIVORCED HIM, I'M FREE!
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RBOJpIwF47Y

Posts: 9459 | Registered: Jun 2011 | From: USA
timeforchange
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Member # 27454
Default  Posted: 12:19 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

You made it

My heartfelt congratulations to you.

Here's hoping 2014 is full of wonderful amazing things for you.

You soooooooooo deserve a wonderful bright future.


Me = BS aged 43
2 boys, 13 and 9
DDay 1/19/10
Confronted him 2/16/10
Finally Divorced 8/29/12

“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”


Posts: 726 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: Expats in Europe
Griefstricken25
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Member # 29183
Default  Posted: 12:22 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

I am SOOOO relieved for you!!

And good song. You should put it to music.


Me!
3 amazing kidlets
To WXH "Now you're just somebody that I used to know." http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d9NF2edxy-M
D-day and separation - June, 2009
Divorced - December, 2011

Posts: 2504 | Registered: Jul 2010 | From: A better place
heartbroken_kk
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Member # 22722
Default  Posted: 12:56 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

I am SO happy for you! Fantasmagoricalidosis!


BW then 46, STBXWHNPDPAFTG the destroyer of my entire life.
D-Day 1 1999, D-Day 2,3,4,5,6... 2009 thru 2011.

Separated, divorcing, moving on.
I edit because I always make typos.


Posts: 1114 | Registered: Feb 2009 | From: California
HurtsButImOK
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Member # 38865
Default  Posted: 12:57 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Yay! You are finally at long last free of him.

Glad to hear he got custody of the garage contents


Me: Awesome - 35

"I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel". –Maya Angelou

"When I let go of what I am, I become what I might be". –


Posts: 722 | Registered: Apr 2013 | From: Australia
dmari
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Member # 37215
Default  Posted: 1:59 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

O.M.G.
Congratulations!! I am SO happy and SO jealous (oops, that's supposed to be a secret ) for you! Just kidding … I am really really happy for you!

I hate to say this but your EX is one of the worst I've heard about so I'm glad you are not legally tied to him any longer!!

Hugs hugs hugs … Rejoice Rejoice Rejoice!!


Me (BS): 42 Children: DD 18, DS 15
Settled at mediation
Officially divorced ... SOON!

Posts: 2138 | Registered: Oct 2012
BrokenDaisy
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Member # 37063
Default  Posted: 5:10 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

I am glad this part of your journey is finally behind you! I felt like I could finally breath again when it was final. Enjoy the freedom! Congratulations!!


Me BxW, him SA NPD WxH
1 wonderful toddler - sole legal custody to me and supervised visitation to xwh.
DDay 01/2012
10/2013 Divorced!!

Posts: 242 | Registered: Oct 2012
openedupmyeyes
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Member # 27871
Cool  Posted: 5:30 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congrats on board for you NG! FTG with a big stick of indifference.


Me:53 BS
Him:53 FWH Trying to make me a believer?
Years married:35
:03-01-10: The day I learned the truth
Kids:Daughters 4 all grown and married.
Reconciliation is hard.
Really freakin' hard.

Posts: 762 | Registered: Mar 2010 | From: The Great State of Texas
jemimapd
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Member # 37895
Default  Posted: 5:50 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congratulations, NG! Love your posts and happy for your news.


Jemima Puddleduck is a trusting soul....
DD 1 Dec 2012; Divorced 11/13; 2 children
Me: BS (47) Him: WH (52) Her: 3 PA's
Ex bought a house, The Money Pit With Mold That Will Never Be Finished. He's living in the basement.

Posts: 726 | Registered: Dec 2012
cmego
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Member # 30346
Default  Posted: 6:47 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

awesome...and the video is perfection.


me...BS, 43 years old, 2 small kids
WS, 41, multiple gay affairs
M 15 years, together 17
Divorced

"For whatever we lose, like a you or a me, it's always ourselves we find in the sea" ee cummings


Posts: 4099 | Registered: Dec 2010 | From: Virginia
million pieces
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Member # 27539
Default  Posted: 6:48 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Soooo happy to hear!!!


Me - 42
2 kids, 9 and 11
D-Day 2/5/10, separated 3 wks later
Divorced 11/15/11!!!!

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: MD
ninebark
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Member # 24534
Default  Posted: 6:51 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

YAY!! I am so happy for you. GO have some divorce cake and divorce wine...lol.

I am at my mail everyday just waiting for my to finish. I can't wait to join you!!!


BS (me) 40
WH - 48
Married 12 years
DS - 12
D-day 06/21/09
Separated....hopefully divorcing soon.

Posts: 630 | Registered: Jun 2009 | From: Canada
jjct
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Member # 17484
Default  Posted: 7:18 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Yay!

Sending you this for the Grrrage:
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Posts: 6482 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: texas
woundedwidow
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Default  Posted: 7:33 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Ohmagawd, I am SO happy for you!!! Plus, I hope that if he is stupid enough to appeal, that his puny d*ck falls off. (Actually, I really hope it falls off anyway, for all that he has put you through). Congrats, NG!


Be careful what you wish for the most - you may get it.

Posts: 367 | Registered: Sep 2012 | From: VA
peridot
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Member # 18334
Default  Posted: 7:40 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

YAY!!!!!!!!!


Congrats!!!!!!!!!!!


I think...therefore, I'm single.

It is what it is.


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Issaquah
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congrats NG!!!!


BS - Me, 41 SAHM back in grad school
WS - Husband, 43 SA dx in March 2013
T-20, M-18 college sweethearts
Multiple DDays since 1999 - OW's all the way back to engagement
Most recent DDay 8-12,false R 1/13
DD-11, DS 13 with ASD

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Default  Posted: 7:46 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Sooooooo glad to read this this morning, Nature_Girl!! Enjoy that delicious feeling of freedom! I love that image of you and the kids hootin' and hollerin'!!! They know it's been tough and they love you!

Even if he still is a butt-head, at least now you have this HUGE distance between you! You fought and you got it! You earned this!!!! You have accomplished a great thing for yourself and your sweet babies.

Enjoy!!!! Love, love, LOVE it!!!


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nutmegkitty
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Default  Posted: 7:57 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Well HOT DAMN!!!! Congratulations!!!!!!!


me (BS)
him (NPD Ex)
2 dds
DDay 10/7/11
OW
OC

Divorced 1/17/2013

"Diamonds aren't a girl's best friend, freedom is."


Posts: 2580 | Registered: Nov 2011 | From: MA
tushnurse
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Default  Posted: 8:41 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Free at last,
Free At Last,
Thank God Almighty
NG is
FREE AT LAST!!!!!

Congrats honey, you will enjoy your new found independence, and show the world how totally awesome you are!!!!


Me: FBS
Him: FWS
Kids: 15 & 17
Married for 22 years now, was 16 at the time. .
D-Day Sept 26 2008
Fully R'd, and Happy Happy Happy

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Default  Posted: 9:04 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

I'm so happy for you NG. It must be such a relief to have that arsehole-amputation over and done with.


Loyal spouse: Me; Disloyal spouse: The Princess
Two sons: Now 11 and 14
DDay: Nov 15, 2012
Separated: Mar 2, 2013 after married 17 years, now divorcing!

The best thing about hitting rock bottom is that everything after that looks fucking fabulous


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Abbondad
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Default  Posted: 9:08 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congratulations, NG, and thank you for all the support you have offered to me.

I wish you the best in your true new beginning and path to full healing.


Divorced April Fool's Day 2014

Fear is the mind-killer.
Fear is the little-death that brings total obliteration.
I will face my fear.
I will permit it to pass over me and through me.
-Dune


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7yrsflushed
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Default  Posted: 9:11 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congrats!!!


D-day 5/24/11
BH = Me
2 children
The first true sense of calm I felt in YEARS was when I filed for D...
D hopefully official any day now, off to check the mail again.

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macakipa
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Default  Posted: 9:49 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Woot! Woot!


M -25 years, T - 31 years, 4 children
Dday October 8, 2011 - Multiple PAs and ONs
Divorced 1-8-13
"When you give a lot of importance to someone in your life, you lose your importance in their life."

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KickedintheGut
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congrats NG. Seriously, it's been a long road for you.


Me - BW (38) Him (calcitro) - SAWH (38)
2 Kids Working on R
DDay#1 - 11/9/10 - 2 year EA/PA
DDay #2 - 12/9/10
Disclosure - 4/8/11
Timeline - 5/9/11

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confused615
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Default  Posted: 10:13 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

WOOOOHOOOOO!!!!


BS(me)41
FWH 45
4 kids..21,20,11,9
M: June 2001
D-Day: 8/10/10
Status: Happily Reconciled.

..that feeling you get in your stomach, when you heart's broken. It's like all the butterflies just died.


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debbysbaby
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Default  Posted: 10:44 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

hoooooraaaaaay!


-betrayed almost my whole almost 15 yr marriage
-divorced since 2004

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Must Survive
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Default  Posted: 11:09 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congrats NG,

Best new life for you and the kids!


Me BS
WS: Just a squished bug on the window of my life!
Divorcing, STBXH is engaged/living with OW#3

They have a choice: they can live in my new world, or they can die in their old one." — Daenerys Targaryen


Posts: 703 | Registered: Jan 2012 | From: Must Survive
lost_in_toronto
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Wow, so happy for you and your kids! Congrats!


Me: BS/39
Him: WS/37
DDay: August 23, 2009
Together 14 years.
Reconciled.

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LisaP
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Default  Posted: 11:28 AM, November 5th (Tuesday)


Me BS

Divorced!

~Feel your emotions, but control your behavior~ Unknown


Posts: 2180 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Oregon
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Default  Posted: 12:09 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

I really need an applause emoticon right about now.

Congratulations NG!!


Buzz- The word you are searching for is 'Space-Ranger.'
Woody- The word I'm searching for, I can't say, because there are Pre-school toys here.

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Default  Posted: 2:25 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)


Me: MH 40s; Him: MH 40s (I had RA)
OW: 30s, moron; one of many
M: 8 yrs
3/13: D'd
-----------------------------------------------------------
Everything is as it should be.

Posts: 738 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Vulcania
Elaine2012
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Default  Posted: 7:25 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!!!!!


Me- 53
WH- 57
Divorced - May 22, 2014
Dday - Blindsided July 2012
Married 35 years
4 adult DD's, 2 SIL, 3 grandchildren

Posts: 285 | Registered: Jul 2012
rainagain
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Default  Posted: 7:59 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Congratulations!


Now, faith is being sure of what you hope for and certain of what you cannot see. Heb 11:1
I done been through the pain and the sorrow the struggle is nothing but love. Maino
Me: Divorced BS 49
DS22, DD19, DS17

Posts: 1292 | Registered: Jun 2007 | From: Massachusetts
missmydogs
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Default  Posted: 9:04 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

YAY!!! Congrats!!!


Me 36
DS 16
DD 4

Divorced!

I've made a huge mistake - GOB


Posts: 71 | Registered: Aug 2012 | From: missmydogs
roughroadahead
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Default  Posted: 9:21 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

That's amazing, congratualtions!

Like others have said, your ex was particularly nasty. Relish your freedom, you deserve it!


BS-Me 30s
WS-Him 30s
D-Day 4/2012 (Insisted EA only)
D-Day 5/2012 (Did I say EA? Ummm..)
Numerous other TT/broken NC d-days until S 1/2013. D settled 11/2013
MOW-coworker, 40s.
2 DS and DD all w/autism

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Lola2kids
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Default  Posted: 9:42 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Holy shit!!!

You, I think, are the one that deserves this the most.
I'm so, so, so happy for you and your kids!!!


BS: (Me) 47
Kids: twins DD(10)
WS: Him 49 (Together 12 years)
D-Day April 18, 2011, Him:out Sept. 11, 2011..moved June 27, 2014.
"They say that absence makes the heart grow fonder but I am growing more and more fond of his absence"

Posts: 1358 | Registered: Jul 2011 | From: Ontario, Canada
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Default  Posted: 9:52 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

((holds up lighter!))

Congrats, NG! I wish there was some massive "Achievement Unlocked!" banner once a divorce from a really bad situation was finally solidified.


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Default  Posted: 5:26 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Congrats


"Loving someone should not mean losing you. Love empowers you. It shouldn't erase you. - Thelma Davis.

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h0peless
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Default  Posted: 7:41 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Congratulations! That's great news!

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Default  Posted: 2:41 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

I am sooo happy for you NG! I wish you and your children great happiness, health and healing!

Congratulations!


Me: 44/WH (SA): 49
M: 24 years 3 kids over 10 yrs old
EA/ PA Dec. 2009 -Divorce pending

Posts: 1240 | Registered: Apr 2010 | From: Midwest
SerJR
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Default  Posted: 4:21 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Welcome to your future.


Me: BH - Happily remarried.
Hope is never lost. It exists within you - it is real. It is not a force in and of itself - it is something that you create with every thought, action, and choice you make. It is a gift that you create for yourself.

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Default  Posted: 8:42 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

That's great news, Nature_Girl.

I hope you and your children are able to have a wonderful new life.


I Divorced Her.

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Default  Posted: 8:50 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Congrats NG!!!! I can't wait to hear how exciting and prosperous your new life turns out. I'm having a drink and toasting your good news. Cheers!


Divorced 7/11/14. New Beginning on the Gulf of Mexico. It's real nice.

Posts: 719 | Registered: Jul 2013 | From: The beach.
gypsybird87
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Default  Posted: 10:46 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Yay!!!!


Me: Enjoying life
Him: Someone else's problem

Rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. ~ JK Rowling


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numbandnauseous
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Default  Posted: 12:09 AM, November 7th (Thursday)

My jaw dropped when I saw your topic title.

That is FANFUCKINGTABULOUS!!!!!!

Raising a glass to your well-earned new beginning....

You and your children have a great life ahead of you....

(((((((((((NG and kids))))))))))))))) (celebratory hugs!)


BS (me) - 41
WH - 48, EA with HS GF x 2
M: 10 years, T: 20
2 small children
DDay#1 - Christmas 2011 (OW#1)
Confronted - 4/6/12
DDay#2 - July 9, 2012 (OW#2)
He is an SA (Oct 2012)
Divorcing

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Brandon808
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Default  Posted: 3:03 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

Thank goodness!


xBH
D final 8/2012

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Default  Posted: 5:58 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

Congratulations NG. This was so long in coming. I'm glad it's finally behind you.


"Strength does not come from physical capacity. It comes from an indominable will" - Mahatma Gandi

"Courage is being scared to death and saddling up anyway." - Aubrie


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ChoosingHope
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Default  Posted: 8:26 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

NG, just must comment and laugh that only YOU could get 92 congrats on your divorce!

Onwards and upwards!
-Hope


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CheaterMagnet
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Default  Posted: 8:45 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!

Doing the happy dance for you!!!!!!!

FUCK. THAT. GUY!!!!!

NG is FREEEEEEEEEEE!!!!

WhOOP!


If Happy Ever After did exist, I would still be holding you like this.
All those fairly tales are full of shit.
One more fucking love song I'll be sick. ~ Maroon 5

Posts: 1006 | Registered: Oct 2011 | From: Kailua-Kona, HI
npain
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Default  Posted: 12:08 PM, November 8th (Friday)

YAY!!!!!!

Things can ONLY get better from here!


S,beginning D

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homewrecked2011
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Default  Posted: 8:09 AM, November 10th (Sunday)

YAY!!!!!! Expect the MF to try to bring you down, but it will only be a temp thing. Every time XWH tries to antagonize me, I go on facebook and proclaim how happy I am and good my life is...

He has basically slinked into the past, now!!!!


CHEERS TO YOU!!!!


me BS 52
him - 46
married 15 years DIVORCED 10 31 12
children - ds15 ds12
d-day 12-19-11
I gave a 24hour ultimatum then went to attorney next day
Divorce filed

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AimfortheHeart
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Default  Posted: 11:43 AM, November 10th (Sunday)

Great news, NG!! Congratulations!


Me - BS 63
Him - SAWH 61
D-day #1 8/22/12
D-day #2 11/3/13
D-day #3 12/15/13

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