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Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 2:47 PM, November 5th (Tuesday)

Seriously who the f@ck ever thought holding yoga class at the end of the work day IN THE OFFICE was a good idea? I can only imagine is was a Pervy guy, I see my fwh is telling is former colleague about it and talking about two of the 20 something's in his office being hot. One engaged and complaining and h tells former coworker the relationship is a time bomb.

To top it off I see h was looking at one girl's Instagram where she posts photos of herself doing yoga in bikinis and othe revealing clothing.

H doesn't know I'm aware of all this can't wait to see if his executive admin is this girl. I'm pissed and to top it off he erased all emails from the hi wrecker he was supposed to have lunch with but I saw one today to her that he emailed her to about trying again for lunch.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 9:57 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Now, he is sharing the links of her yoga crotch with another guy. Is this supposed to be "cool guy" talking to his single friend? wtf


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
PinkJeepLady
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Default  Posted: 10:04 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Totally degrading to him, you and the entire Yoga community!
So sorry you are having to deal with this crap, it's ridiculous.
Take care!


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Posts: 478 | Registered: Nov 2012 | From: Out West
idkam
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Default  Posted: 11:19 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Sounds really creepy to me....so it seems to me he's wanting things to look innocent on the outside but he is sneaking and carrying on a crush in the office...


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Posts: 1783 | Registered: Feb 2008 | From: Texas
Ostrich80
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Default  Posted: 11:30 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Ok, I just read your profile history. EA with co worker. I take it he's not been interested in yoga til now? Sounds like he has some boundary issue, like he needs some. Do you suspect he's done more than these flirty office shenanigans? Can you take a look at his phone usage, on the bill, not in his phone.


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Posts: 4871 | Registered: Feb 2012 | From: midwest
atsenaotie
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Default  Posted: 11:42 AM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Now, he is sharing the links of her yoga crotch with another guy.

That is what jr. high boys do, not adult men. It throws up red flags for me about bopundaries, objectifying, and appropriate workplace behaviors. This is all very much wayward behavior in my opinion.

I have been with two employers where yoga was offered as a part of wellnesss and I participated. We really have not had problems with giggly participants like your H. OTOH, participants wore apropriate clothing for yoga at work.


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Posts: 4107 | Registered: Feb 2010 | From: FL
Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 12:22 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

He isn't participating in yoga. He can see it from his office and the 24yo admin clearly wears her lulu lemon bras and pants.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
GabyBaby
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Default  Posted: 12:48 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

I have been with two employers where yoga was offered as a part of wellnesss and I participated.
This.
I also work for an employer that has a wellness program and were yoga offered, I would happily participate.

The problem isn't the yoga, its the lack of boundaries of your WS and his work "buddy".


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Married 4yrs, together 7yrs total

DD(21), DS(18, PDD-NOS)
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Posts: 6286 | Registered: Dec 2009 | From: California
simplydevastated
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Default  Posted: 1:06 PM, November 6th (Wednesday)

Now, he is sharing the links of her yoga crotch with another guy. Is this supposed to be "cool guy" talking to his single friend? wtf

My husband was driving my car one day and took a pic of a woman riding a motorcycle on the highway. He proceeded to pass it around work. I can't remember if he ever told me what he said about the woman, but he did tell me that he did it to fit in with the other guys in the office. This shit makes me want to


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Sleepy312
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Default  Posted: 4:48 PM, November 8th (Friday)

I lightly touched on "issues" with H today, and the mention of being disrespectful to me by talking about the "hot chicks" in the office, and the first response was "what are you snooping? what did you see the chat I had with Ryan?"

I said who is Ryan. He said a guy that he used to work with. Yea, the one he also told that you almost ruined your life with a hot chick at a work party last suymmer.

We barely scratched the surface, but it was all about me being negative and a smart ass. I asked him for specifics since he said I had been negative all day. The only thing he could come up with was a smartass comment I made about the cheese.

He's standing in the kitchen, and he looks at me and asks where's the cheese(for his sandwich), and I sarcastically said "I dunno, the refrigerator?" I owned the sarcasm, but I told him it was a stupid question.

Other than that he had no specifics on my negativity, and guys talking about the hot chicks doing yoga is completely normal and acceptable. I'm apparently the problem. God I hate my life.


Me 41
Dh 40
Married 11...he forgot our anniversary among other things. Every birthday, holdiay, whatever is forever ruined.

Together 17 years
Two great kids.

He doesn't get it. Moving us to his hometown with his toxic mother is going to


Posts: 507 | Registered: Feb 2013 | From: Nj
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