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changedforlife
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Default  Posted: 11:28 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

I just started watching the show Parenthood a couple of years ago and I really enjoyed it. Then the A happened and I discovered that OW also watched the show but I wasn't going to let that stop me. But this season has been building up to just the thing I was dreading...an affair between one of the main characters and a "friend ". The last episode had the main character texting and calling her "friend " and discussing the issues in her marriage and family life with him. I felt ill watching the progression in their "relationship" and now I don't know if I can comtinue to watch the show. The one thing the show does have going for it is that they deal with issues based in reality as much as possible (from what I can tell from the past 2 years.)

Anyway, I was wondering if anyone else watches and if you were going to continue to watch to see how they portray infidelity.


Me - BS/Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 21 years/ 1 preschooler
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed about affair.
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6
Continued Contact up to July 16
D-DAY 2-July 19 FALSE R!

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LonelySilhouette
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Default  Posted: 11:41 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

I have watched it from the beginning. I'll continue to watch. But sigh, it would be nice if I didn't have to watch an infidelity trainwreck when I already had to experience it myself. Then again, it's so rampant that I guess shows, movies, books, media, etc are going to reflect it.


Me - 49 (BS)
Him - 51 (WH with "8 or 9" prostitutes)
Married 30 years, give or take a few weeks here and there
D-Day - May 4, 2013
Discovered an EA going on since 2010 around that time, too. NC in place now.


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LizzieJane
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Default  Posted: 11:44 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

I've watched it since it started, and have loved the "realness" of it like you mentioned. But I've been dreading where this storyline was going all season. It's so disappointing! But I won't stop watching, even if I have to fast forward through some parts.


BW: (me) 31
WH: 32
OW: (WH's ex-wife) 39
WH and OW have 2 children together, ages 9 and 7.
WH and I have 1 child together, born in September 2013.
We have been together 5 years, married 3.

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changedforlife
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Default  Posted: 11:50 PM, November 7th (Thursday)

It is true that it is almost impossible to avoid. Because this is A season for me, it makes it really difficult to watch and not have mind movies going through my head. I may skip it until the fallout happens and then see if I can handle it and to see if they do justice to the repurcussions.


Me - BS/Him - WH (in our 40's)
Together 21 years/ 1 preschooler
D-day - Jan 24/13 He confessed about affair.
Broken NC -Feb 7-22,Feb 28,March 6
Continued Contact up to July 16
D-DAY 2-July 19 FALSE R!

Posts: 132 | Registered: Feb 2013
cuppacoffee
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Default  Posted: 10:17 AM, November 8th (Friday)

It makes me so sad. I love this show and I don't want to see Julia go down this path.
I guess it is going to show how easy it is for this to happen (you can tell she's struggling with it as she was all giggly from the text and then felt so guilty she went to visit the husband) and how it can happen to anyone.

In season 1 (maybe 2) Camille had an affair with her art teacher and we found out Zeke had had a LTR with another woman as well. I can't remember if all of the kids knew this or not.


I'm like a vacuum bag
That holds all that old dirt
Remember that time we said we'd be together forever?
Don't hate me, don't regret me, don't ever forget me
Wherever you go, whatever you do, don't say I never loved you

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OldCow18
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Default  Posted: 10:47 AM, November 8th (Friday)

I've been watching since the beginning and it is by far my all time favorite show. I too am watching the dreaded storyline with anxiety, but I will continue to watch because I believe/hope in true Parenthood form that they will tell it like it is and be real about it. I'm hoping it stops on the slippery slope and doesn't go into all out affair, but I have faith they will show the pain of it, the horror of it, etc. They will not romanticize an affair. But I get it, watching Julia and Joel on this path is awful.

ETA, I just realized I still haven't watched last night's episode, so maybe my stance will change, now I'm nervous!

[This message edited by OldCow18 at 10:49 AM, November 8th (Friday)]


Me, BW forty something, DD & DS,
Married to WH (49) 11 years, together 16
D-Day 6.8.13

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SoVerySadNow
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Default  Posted: 11:26 AM, November 8th (Friday)

In the first season the matriarch either had an EA or was on a slippery slope with her art instructor, right?
I hadn't suffered d-day at that point, and the A was dealt with quickly in the show.
Now she's headed off to Italy with her class...it made me think, "hmmm".

But the progression of the other current situation is triggery, for sure. Her face, while listening to his message, multiple times, just- argh.


Me:BW
Him:WH
D-day(s),after years of TT and Gaslighting was Labor Day Weekend 2012, continuing for a week after. *Dammit! More TT 3/9/13
Really trending toward D- planning about it is my "happy place" now.

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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, November 8th (Friday)

Long time watcher here too, and I'm SO disappointed as to where this is heading.

What kills me is she's not talking to anyone about how she's really feeling, despite the family being close. She danced around it with her father and now her mother this week.

My hope is Crosby reels her back in somehow.

Argh.

AJ's MOM


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


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Angel177
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Default  Posted: 11:29 AM, November 8th (Friday)

It's one of my favorite shows. I spotted this storyline coming from the moment they got stuck working together at the school. I agree that parenthood does a good job with being real. I'm sure this is going to be more then an ea though with at least borderline pa if not full on pa and then Joel I'm sure is going to end up with a little pa or revenge affair with his boss too. Then we will have friend affair and work affair both covered...blah


Me:BS
Him:WH
D-Day Sept. 14/12...R started Dec. 3/12
Together-10 years Married-5 years
Daughter-3
Son-13 months (died July 2, 2014)
Baby #3 due Feb. 2015
4 month EA and 4 month EA/PA in 2012 with my "friend"

Posts: 251 | Registered: Oct 2012
BeyondBreaking
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Default  Posted: 11:44 AM, November 8th (Friday)

I don't watch this show in particular, but I have watched other shows involving infidelity at times after d-day.

Some shows, I find triggering and I have to stop watching.

At the same time, I LOVE the walking dead, orange is the new black, and then goofy shows like family guy- all of which have infidelity in them at one point or another and for some reason have not triggered me.

Hopefully they portray it realistically and show all the pain of the fallout.


I have been cheated on by 3 different men, and I have more DDays than anyone ever should. I am here, just trying to pickup the pieces.

At least the current man "only" cyber-cheated.

"Love means never having to say you're sorry."


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ajsmom
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Default  Posted: 11:47 AM, November 8th (Friday)

I spotted this storyline coming from the moment they got stuck working together at the school

Agreed - how she was at first annoyed with him then a few episodes later - BAM! - they're cooking dinner together and his wife comes home.


Fidelity isn't a feeling...it's a choice.

"Truth has no special time of its own. Its hour is now - always." - Albert Schweitzer
____________________________________________
Me: BW - Him: 200+ # tumor removed 7/09
DS - 31 - Yikes!


Posts: 21071 | Registered: Dec 2007 | From: Been Through Hell...On My Way Back
somanyyears
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Default  Posted: 12:01 PM, November 8th (Friday)


..finding it more and more difficult to watch TV period!! just too many triggers come up.

..had to walk out from Survivor last week when some comment was made about why so many women fall for the "Bad Boy" types..

..bfOM was seen as a 'Bad boy' by my W..

..i love watching 'car shows' and every time i flip one on.. there's a fucking Mustang in it..

..i can't seem to escape the damn things!

smy



trust no other human- love only your pets
She isn't and never was who I thought..I can't believe who I married and what she did to us.
Me 67
Her 63
Married 42 yrs (together 47)
18 yr LTA with bf


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Quakingaspen
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Default  Posted: 1:33 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Yes, I love this show, it makes me feel closer to my siblings. The A storyline is disappointing and sickening, but mostly it just makes me sad that this is something that is so common.


I've seen enough.

WS-SA/NPD
D-Day: Too many in 17 years of marriage. LAST time 10/17/2013.


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redrock
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Default  Posted: 1:44 PM, November 8th (Friday)

I am a fan of the show but I don't really trust them to handle it well. The mom did sleep with the art instructor. The very same art group she is taking a month long trip with.... Is that guy still around? Who knows.... They pushed that storyline under the rug so fast it gave you whiplash.

Julia's H, I can't remember his name, told her at the time that he 'would never cheat on her' uggh. He is on his own slippery slope himself right now.

I hope they handle this A better than the last one. We shall see...


I don't respect anyone that can't spell a word more than one way:)

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sparkly1
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Sad  Posted: 2:17 PM, November 8th (Friday)

Personally, I am having trouble focusing on any storylines of any kind. Just can't ever focus long enough to get hooked. No sitcoms, no rom-coms, no movies, no books . . . having trouble keeping house. Just exhausted and hopeless and lonely. Just sad, I guess.

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