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User Topic: so overwhelmed...
Gajit
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Default  Posted: 10:12 AM, November 8th (Friday)

It finally hit me that I have so much to do!

1.pack up my house to get it ready for the market with NO help

2. find a place to live for me and my DGD, hopefully same school district

3. find a job (hopefully-I am 55 and haven't worked in 6 years)

4. rent a storage space for when I get started moving

5.apply for child support from DGD's mother who is getting a welfare check

6.apply for disability

All of this, and the holidays are near. OMG!
I don't know how I am going to do all of this on my own with no help. I so hate my WH right now I could poke out his eyes with a hot poker and pull a Lorena Bobbit at the same time! UGH!


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
changeofheart31
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Default  Posted: 10:32 AM, November 8th (Friday)

Read you LOUD AND CLEAR ON ALL OF THE ABOVE..
They hurt us and yet we get stuck without support and having to fight to survive!!Its not fair, do you have any support from family or close friends?? I know that during this time if it was not for them who knows where my DS and I would be right now. Just take on one issue at a time. it always overwhelms me if I look at the whole list but if I break it down into smaller task I manage to get a lot more accomplished. Hang in there and know you are not alone.

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Gajit
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Default  Posted: 11:10 AM, November 8th (Friday)

Not getting help from family. They have a lot of issues of their own to deal with and won't/can't help me.

I will try to do one thing at a time.


Lord, with Your help I will focus on each small step of the climb, instead of the mountain that stands before me.

Posts: 224 | Registered: Sep 2013 | From: USA
gonnabe2016
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Member # 34823
Default  Posted: 11:32 AM, November 8th (Friday)

Make a list. Think about *when* certain tasks HAVE to be accomplished by so that you can prioritize. And then focus on one thing at a time (although the packing itself can probably be done for a certain amount of time each day...)

Looking at all of it as a whole is very overwhelming. It made ME anxious and tired just reading it!

One bite at a time, Gaj.


"Oh, what a tangled web we weave when first we practice to deceive." - Sir Walter Scott

In my effort to be *concise*, I often come off as blunt and harsh. Sorry, don't mean to be offensive.


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careerlady
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Member # 16958
Default  Posted: 11:52 PM, November 8th (Friday)

I''m so sorry he put you in this position

But you will persevere and thrive! He will be shocked to see how well how you are going to do without him.

You have a good start by listing everything, now break down everything in the list by tasks and tackle them. You got this!


Me (BS, 35); The Snake (WS, 36) 13yrs together; 1 baby boy (DOB 7/12)
Serial cheater-Multiple OWs, Multiple D-Days
D by default 5/3/14!
In house 8 mos, moved out 7/1!!!
Summary: http://youtu.be/iaysTVcounI

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